That is just about the most valid reason I can think of to break up with someone. It is afundamental incompatibility of interests. This guy should just hang around frustrated for life? Why?Silver_Shade said:
I need to know, was i in the right?
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Hmm I'm surprised you managed to kick that high, aside from that it probably wasn't the best idea to initiate the violence, if he had pushed you or something like that first then it would have been ok.
In my opinion? Completely justified.
Most likely, he's feeling insecure over still being a virgin, after thinking he would probably get that taken care of after breaking up with the other girl.
Instead of doing something, he's taking it out on someone who is still in a relationship.
Giving him a verbal ultimatum may have made him snap out of it, but-in my experience with people- that would be more likely to make him defensive and even more of a jerk.
Plus, kicking a standing man in the head = awesome beyond all reason.
Most likely, he's feeling insecure over still being a virgin, after thinking he would probably get that taken care of after breaking up with the other girl.
Instead of doing something, he's taking it out on someone who is still in a relationship.
Giving him a verbal ultimatum may have made him snap out of it, but-in my experience with people- that would be more likely to make him defensive and even more of a jerk.
Plus, kicking a standing man in the head = awesome beyond all reason.
Violence in these matters tends to complicate matters further but if you felt it was the appropriate course of actions at that given time, in that given place then the actions you took were the right ones. I am just a guy sitting at home reading a story told through your understanding of what transpired, reading your version of how things went down. Is this what happened? In your head it is, maybe in your friends head he was just doing his best to warn you about a potential mistake he felt you were making, sure his choice of wording may have been poop but he was doing what he thought was right.
Though a friend of mine was remarked "Bros before Hoes, dude" to his cousin's bad choice on GF he did not take the advance and ended up in a five year relationship that was toxic to the both of them, he ended living in his grandparent basement with no money or prospects and she took all the stuff they owned and left him. Advice often falls on deaf ears when not spoken with the most diplomatic care; My advice take a step back and look at it from another angle, your friend my feel threatened by your GF, even jealous, he might feel he is losing you to her, cause lets face it when you have a GF you kind of spend more time with her than your friends, or he could just be trying pass along "words of wisdom". What ever the case maybe, at the end if you felt it was justified than it was.
Though a friend of mine was remarked "Bros before Hoes, dude" to his cousin's bad choice on GF he did not take the advance and ended up in a five year relationship that was toxic to the both of them, he ended living in his grandparent basement with no money or prospects and she took all the stuff they owned and left him. Advice often falls on deaf ears when not spoken with the most diplomatic care; My advice take a step back and look at it from another angle, your friend my feel threatened by your GF, even jealous, he might feel he is losing you to her, cause lets face it when you have a GF you kind of spend more time with her than your friends, or he could just be trying pass along "words of wisdom". What ever the case maybe, at the end if you felt it was justified than it was.
what do you have to say about he "Flurting with her" thing? he was trying to bring everyone down with him. and yes, i do spend as much time with her as i can, but she is out of state most of the time for collage, and i miss her, so yes, whenever shes in town, i spend as much time with her as i can.dollface said:
As the comedian Kevin Hart once said, if someone gets kicked in the face, they deserved it.
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=A_KktmRen68
You were not in the wrong. I'd have done the same thing.
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=A_KktmRen68
You were not in the wrong. I'd have done the same thing.
by kicking him in the head i think you went a little bit far... but honestly i would be flattered if my boyfriend defended me like that
Flirting is something that a lot of guys and girls do even if it is unconsciously. What was acceptable before a relationship turns unacceptable once in one argument does come to mind but it can be hard to change ones behavior over night. A friend of mine returning from Iraq was dismayed to see that one of his GF good friends was a guy who had the tendency to be very clingy to her. He put up with it with good humor for a while, start dropping hints, and even flat out told the guy to back off. It took him a while to learn the acceptable boundaries again but over time he learned and they have been good friends since.Brad Shepard said:
It is good to spend time with your GF but don't lose sight of your friends. I have lost good friends of 10 years because they forgot themselves once they got a GF. While I know this doesn't happen to every one, me and my wife each have our happy group of friends we go out and do stuff with either separate or together, it can be easy to forget your good friends in situations like these.
The best advice I can give you is keep it all in perspective, remember he is your friend and he could be looking out for you. If you feel he has only his best interest at heart though then it maybe well time you reevaluate where that friendship stands, hopefully in a slightly less violent way this time.
I never said he should have hung around for life(if this is how this guy has been acting constantly, I wouldn't wish him on any girl). And it is indeed an incompatibility of interests. I just get the feeling this is a direct quote, and I get sick of hearing it. Perhaps I was too vague or too harsh, but when people whine about their significant other not 'putting out', it always makes me want to hurt them. I'd rather not get into it here, as it is quite off topic, please feel free to send me a message if you want to debate this. I recognize that it may have been unwise to bring it up, and hopefully it will die now.Lord Monocle Von Banworthy said:
As for what's the most valid reason to break up with someone, I think we'll have to agree to disagree on that one.
If he was really your friend he wouldn't have hit on your girlfriend and he would forgive you for knocking some sense in to him.
That's Tali, a Quarian from the game Mass Effect.AbsoluteVirtue18 said:
OT: I'd say you were rather justified. If he was warned that an ass-kicking would ensue and still continued then, well...
A boot to the head.
I usually say don't resort to violence, but I can't say I would have acted much differently in your situation.
Like so others have said, if you don't regret what you did, then it is what was right for you.
Like so others have said, if you don't regret what you did, then it is what was right for you.
You know him better than any of us could, so I'm sure your context makes much more sense but it seems to me that in his mind he was looking out for you, unless of course as you say, he's just a dick, and was only talking shit to insult her. If you don't feel guilty than what's the problem?Brad Shepard said:
I believe chivalry has very little to do with "kicking someone in the head and knocking him out".blakfayt said:
While I kind of understand his reaction, I do think it turned out a little too extreme. It also makes me wonder what sort of friends they must have been when extreme violence is the first option that springs to mind as the answer to a problem.
And did you just leave him there? Unconscious and all? Maybe half dead? You know, Kick in the brains? It doesn't do wonders to people's health last time I checked.
He could fake some disability and sue you. And there wouldn't be much you could do about it, would there? I don't think "defending my girldfriend's honour" is a good argument in court.