I require dating advice.

[Biek]

Here's the deal:

Since a couple weeks, ive been having a crush on this checkout girl at a local supermarket. First time I saw her she gave me this really warm smile. You know, the kind you'll keep thinking about after. Second time I saw her (I chose her counter on purpose) our eyes met and we smiled at each other for what seemed a very long time. I started to think she liked me too, so the third time I met her, I decided to try and talk to her. It was pretty quiet that day, and we had some small talk about the weather and stuff. She told me she only works on weekends and that its a part time job for her vacation. So I told her we'd meet again next week and she laughed and agreed.

Frankly, I feel like im on the right track here. But I think the situation is a little bit complicated. For one, we havent introduced yet. And for two, HOW am I gonna ask her out? Both of these points have one problem, she works behind a counter, and Im afraid I might embarras her if I introduce myself like that or ask her out.

I also contacted the filthy stalker inside of me and found out that shes on a social networking site ( I know her name because of her tag). But I dont feel like I could add her just like that without first introducing myself to her properly, or she might think im creepy.

Maybe Im just thinking too much. Ive already thought up alot of the worst case scenarios. (from no, to GOD NO!, to everyone in the place laughing at me)

How do you think is the best way to aproach this situation?

 

[zauxz]

"you know what, im just gonna ask this. When do you finish working?"

Works like a charm.

DONT i repeat DONT use a crappy pickup line.

 

[Deef]

Ask her if she wants to get some coffee or something after her shift. Introduce yourself like that.

 

[Sevre]

Well next time you meet introduce yourself, then over the next few times talk to her more and more and then after a few weeks ask her out.

 

[Clashero]

"What time do you get off work today?"
"7:30"
"Would you like to go have some coffee after that?"
"Sure, why not?"

Really, even if she rejects you, she'll feel happy that someone noticed her.
And judging by the signs she's given you, she probably won't reject you anytime soon. Remember to be confident, but not arrogant and cocky. Be yourself: if there's something you disagree on, do tell her, but do it nicely.

 

[Shrubery]

i'm no expert on this but maybe you could wait outside of the supermarket and try to casualy walk in to her when her shift is over and then ask her out .

 

[teisjm]

Dude, if you've aleday small-talked with her she doesn't think you're disgusting. Just ask her out. If she was gonna embaras you in front of everyone, she would've found an excuse to not talk to you in the first place.

Adding her online might seem kinda stalkerish... If you seem to know a lot more about her then she doesn about you you're sortof a stalker.

 

[HillDragon]

Ask her if she wants to get some coffee or something after her shift. Introduce yourself like that.

Hell, if that's to personal for you, ask her if she's on FaceBook. Then you'll at least know if she's not interested. =)

"Hey, do you have a facebook account? No? *****! OK, well... I'll see you around."

 

[Rascarin]

Ask her if she wants to get some coffee or something after her shift. Introduce yourself like that.

Hell, if that's to personal for you, ask her if she's on FaceBook. Then you'll at least know if she's not interested. =)

"Hey, do you have a facebook account? No? *****! OK, well... I'll see you around."

No, no, no, no, no. Facebook is not a pick-up line.

Just talk to her. Tell her you like her hair or something.

 

[The Infamous Scamola]

Then you're in the wrong place my friend.

 

[Biek]

Thanks for the replies guys.

She has a bit of an unusual name. I think I could casually ask her how to pronounce it, and then introduce myself in a "well, since were talking about your name I might as well let you know mine." kinda way.

EDIT: you guys are alot more helpfull than my co-workers by the way. All I got from them were tips like "put your dick on the conveyorbelt instead of a separation bar."

 

[Erana]

[small] Awww..
So Cute![/small]

Sorry, I've no advice, but it seems like you're in an adorable situation...

 

[megalomania]

next time you see her at the checkout lean over and smell her hair, then tell her it smells just like your mom's hair.

Always wins

/thread

 

[HillDragon]

Hell, if that's to personal for you, ask her if she's on FaceBook. Then you'll at least know if she's not interested. =)

"Hey, do you have a facebook account? No? *****! OK, well... I'll see you around."

No, no, no, no, no. Facebook is not a pick-up line.

Just talk to her. Tell her you like her hair or something.

The point is that he's to shy to know what to do and is afraid how she might respond. He already said he doesn't wanna go 'balls out' and make a fool either of them. What he does know is that she's on [facebook?] and is comfortable using the internet for these kinds of things (i.e. this thread). A simple question like this one saves them both face if she's not interested (that, and he'll know right away if she's not).

 

[The Infamous Scamola]

EDIT: you guys are alot more helpfull than my co-workers by the way. All I got from them were tips like "put your dick on the conveyorbelt instead of a separation bar."

Your co-workers... I just have to meet them.

 

[HillDragon]

next time you see her at the checkout lean over and smell her hair, then tell her it smells just like your mom's hair.

Always wins

/thread

or maybe a comment about how her breasts remind you of your moms =D

 

[Grampy_bone]

Ask her the following questions: "What is your name?" "How old are you?" then "Are you single?" No need to be coy, a man should be direct. Seriously, you may be getting yourself all worked up over nothing. Some men interpret "friendliness" as flirting (and some girls are just shameless cockteases).

If she says she is single then get her phone number. Then WALK AWAY. Call her soon (within a day or two) and invite her to coffee. Good luck!

 

[dmase]

Thanks for the replies guys.

She has a bit of an unusual name. I think I could casually ask her how to pronounce it, and then introduce myself in a "well, since were talking about your name I might as well let you know mine." kinda way.

EDIT: you guys are alot more helpfull than my co-workers by the way. All I got from them were tips like "put your dick on the conveyorbelt instead of a separation bar."

Your friends are...jesus christ. That is fucking funny. anyways maybe you should do something a little more smooth like hand her your number with your name when you hand her your money to check out. By the way if you are going to go to her line again in the grocery store at this point you have to ask her out or be faced with stalker or just friend status. Act quickly my friend run! now before anybody elese gets her! GO with my blessing... not that it will help

Edit: I wonder have you tried searching for her on escpaist some how.

 

[NicotineStainedSoul]

Just ask her. it won't be pretty, it wont be fun and it sure as hell wont be smooth. but it'll get the job done. Just talk to her as you usually do, say "I gotta run but i really like talking to you, would you like to meet up sometime." and give her your number, better to giver her yours than ask for hers, that way she doesn't feel threatened if you've got it all wrong. and she can make up her mind in her own time.

 

[BonsaiK]

Girls who work in retail get this sort of shit all the time. Remember, she's being paid to be nice to you. Doesn't mean she wants to jump your bones, she might just be good at her job, which is being nice to customers. Doesn't mean you can't try though, but don't get your hopes too inflated okay? But you could try this...

Step 1: Buy stuff. Talk to her a little while she's packing your groceries or whatever. Nothing big and heavy, just basic casual stuff. Stay away from the social networking topic, that's a no-go zone, okay? Talk about the weather or something. If she's wearing something unusual, comment on that. Just whatever you can think up. But not "when do you knock off?".

Step 2: Repeat step 1 at least 3 times over the course of a month or so.

Step 3: You should be on some kind of recognition basis by now. NOW you can drop the "when do you knock off?" question, but ideally not. It's better if you've found some other common interests already... maybe she likes some music you like or whatever. Then meeting up outside of the checkout queue is more natural. "I'm going to see band X" "Oh I really like band X too, hey maybe we should meet up..." just for an example.

Most important things:

* Avoid lame pickup lines or gimmicky "smooth" bullshit. Do not use this type of shit ever, anywhere under any circumstances. It will make you look like a dick.

* Don't smother the poor girl or come on too strong. Just be cool. If she likes you, she'll respond appropriately. If she doesn't - oh well, next...

* Keep it casual and relaxed. Don't make a big deal of any of it. The trick to asking girls out is to ask them out the same way you would ask a friend out.

The most important thing is this - just like guys, girls know if they like a guy or not in about ten seconds. Therefore, this girl either likes you or she doesn't. If she doesn't, nothing you say will make a difference. If she does, you'd have to try pretty hard to fuck it up. So be confident. You're either in or you're not, so just be yourself.