hey guys first hello im mike (as you can see), now i know this may seem i bit of an odd place to post this as its a gaming site but hell people here seem to be like minded and helpfull individuallys so im hoping it will work. Ok so im freinds with this girl and i think she has kinda a thing for me , unfortuantly in a compleate roll reversal i dont feel the same way about her , so my question is how should i deal with this, do i ask her about it to conferm my suspishions, let her no im not interested steight up , or simply hide my head in the sand and hope it blows over, shes a really good freind so i would really hate to hurt her im just not sure to go about this...so ya any and all help is appreashiated and sorry for the horrable spelling =S.
i think my freind likes me, erm...wtf do i do?
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I believe that unless she tells you, you shouldn't bring it up. If you are wrong about her, then you will make things awkward for a while between you to. If you just wait to tell her you aren't interesting in her until she flat out tells you, then the situation will be less awkward.
I say, until she actually tells you clearly that she likes you, don't do anything about it. That way, you don't risk making things awkward if you were wrong about it.
If she does confirm it on her own, just let her know how you feel. It's way better than leading her on by not telling her in that case.
If she does confirm it on her own, just let her know how you feel. It's way better than leading her on by not telling her in that case.
It's a very awkward situation you are in, but bound to happen when the sexes befriend each other.
Easiest way to completely avoid the situation is to become VERY preoccupied with another lady, though that is rather dickish. But I would avoid talking about it unless she brings it up first.
Easiest way to completely avoid the situation is to become VERY preoccupied with another lady, though that is rather dickish. But I would avoid talking about it unless she brings it up first.
inb4 BonsaiK answers it in a completely different thread.
OT: Be honest. Don't go out of your way to shoot her down, but politely decline her advances enough times and she'll get the picture. If that doesn't work, come right out and tell her. Simple as.
EDIT: Also, don't get hung up on the fact that you're not interested because she's unattractive. Getting into a relationship with someone you're not attracted to would end in tears when you find someone you share a mutual attraction with, whether you end up bemoaning the fact that you had to pass up the attractive girl or because you ended up leaving the less-attractive one for her. It's a lose-lose proposition, caving and entering a relationship with the girl wouldn't be doing her any favors.
OT: Be honest. Don't go out of your way to shoot her down, but politely decline her advances enough times and she'll get the picture. If that doesn't work, come right out and tell her. Simple as.
EDIT: Also, don't get hung up on the fact that you're not interested because she's unattractive. Getting into a relationship with someone you're not attracted to would end in tears when you find someone you share a mutual attraction with, whether you end up bemoaning the fact that you had to pass up the attractive girl or because you ended up leaving the less-attractive one for her. It's a lose-lose proposition, caving and entering a relationship with the girl wouldn't be doing her any favors.
I'd say "don't worry about it," but then I remembered that this would be coming from me, an insensitive prick who despises around ninety percent of the people I meet.mike1234 said:
On topic. Don't bring it up. One thing I've learned over the years; do not bring up potentially awkward conversations. Ever. It usually just results in... Well, things being awkward.
Besides, if you ask her if she had a thing about you, she might have one of two reactions:
a) To wonder if you have a thing with her.
b) It'll make you sound like an egotistical fuckhead.
Neither of which I think you'd want. So just... Don't talk about it unless she brings it up.
Oh hey, a drama topic I can actually contribute to. That's a first.
Dont ask her if she likes you strait away. Wait and see if she shows any definitive signs that she likes you. Then ask.
Errm? Do know any other advise.
Try to let her down softly I suppose?
Just what ever you do, dont flirt with her if you dont like her! That is a dick move.
Errm? Do know any other advise.
Try to let her down softly I suppose?
Just what ever you do, dont flirt with her if you dont like her! That is a dick move.