i think my freind likes me, erm...wtf do i do?

[2012 Wont Happen]

Spoiler

A) How old are you?
B) How hot is this girl?

Answer me those shall ye?

Robots don't say ye.

OT: I wouldn't do anything until you know for sure as asking her would be weird pretty uncomfortable if she doesn't feel the way you think. Once you know, or get close to knowing as you think you can, then ask if you have to.

Dictionary dictionary dictionary

Robots? They are actually the perfect questions. As if you are a teenager then you can get away with all the sexy shenanigans as you are young and immature. So the physical attractiveness of the person is actually a very important factor to a horny teen. The emotional shit should only be dealt with in the 20+.

I don't know maybe I'm just too brutally honest about this whole thing. All I know is "Emotions and all that crap" shouldn't act in until you want a relationship and you shouldn't be having "relationships" until you are ready and alot of Boys and Girls think they are ready and have their little hearts broken and then are stuck thinking how terrible their life is.

So filtering out all these emotional factors you get to the very core of what you want as a teenage boy from 13-20 and that's pretty much just "sex" and what not. Sure there are exceptions to rule but then asking these questions filters out these exceptions.

Uhm, I was actually just making a Futurama reference...

Haha, I'm actually sorry. I was just waiting for someone to pick me out on my comment so I could post all that. Saw one thing that could be interpreted like that and went to town.

A) How old are you?
B) How hot is this girl?

Answer me those shall ye?

Those don't seem to be the right questions.

I have a better one, why did this guy join a gaming forum just to ask for relationship help?

If OP is 14-18 and the girl is hot then we all know the solution to his problem. so I respectfully disagree they are the right questions to ask first of all.

im 17 and well... i dont like to say it but she isnt very physicly attracive tbh, feel a bit of a dick for saying it but hell =S

Don't feel like a dick, least you're being honest.

My advice is to pass up. Due to the fact being a teenager should be all about
physical attractiveness not the whole emotional deal.

So, what you're saying is that teenagers should get used to being shallow tosses.

Sounds like pretty poor advice to me, as a teenager. Sure, we aren't as emotionally stable as people a few years older than us, but if we get used to judging people on looks alone in high school, we'll do the same thing in the real world. That is simple human pattern forming.

^^ Read my massive post ^^

That makes more sense, but I still generally disagree. I don't really care if someone is hot. Sure, there are a couple of people that I know who are hot that I would be with, but only because they are cool. For each one of them there's a dozen more hot people that I think are dumb tossers.

Instead, the people I like to be with are people who I find interesting. Furthermore, I think the standard of "hot" is over rated. I'll take an average girl over Megan Fox any day, because average people don't look like they're made out of plastic.

I realize that I most likely will have to deal with a lot of emotional instability and such, like you said, trying to go for emotion rather than physical attraction, but I'd rather have my heart broken than train myself to be shallow.

And then there's cases like my brother, who started going out with a girl in sophmore year because of emotional attraction, and has now, 10 years later, has been married to her 5 years.

A) Then you're missing out, as a teenager you have the "right" to get away with doing what ever you can do. So by not going after hot girls and stuff you will most likely regret it when you mature up and realise you wasted your teenage years trying to be mature. This happened to me so I speak from experience.

B) I said physically attractive as in WHAT YOU FIND ATTRACTIVE if you find the girl sexually attractive why does it matter that she is considered "average" by society.

C) You're not training yourself to be shallow you are enjoying the few teenage years you have

D) When your brother is like 40 - 50 he may regret some of the things he turned down.

Another point, hey you're just an exception as I spoke about but don't fuck up your teenage years, you should enjoy them with as many females as you can if you do find miss right in your teenage years consider taking a break from her for a few months of a year or two and go out with other women otherwise you might feel like you missed out.

I understand your perspective. I just don't really put a lot of importance on sex. Its not that I'm asexual, its just that there are a lot more things to experience.

I guess it all fits in to the same perspective that made me choose to be a sort of traditionalist straight edge. Non-violent, non-judging, but still abstaining from a few things. I enjoy my life a lot, and if I'm with someone I'd enjoy it even more. However, I'm just not really comfortable with having sex with people I don't really care about.

edit-

But, I do agree with the idea of making sure I don't spend all my time with someone I'll regret later. I want to be careful not to waste my time with someone I'll eventually want to leave anyway, but I don't feel the need to chase after everyone.

 

[2012 Wont Happen]

Spoiler

A) How old are you?
B) How hot is this girl?

Answer me those shall ye?

Robots don't say ye.

OT: I wouldn't do anything until you know for sure as asking her would be weird pretty uncomfortable if she doesn't feel the way you think. Once you know, or get close to knowing as you think you can, then ask if you have to.

Dictionary dictionary dictionary

Robots? They are actually the perfect questions. As if you are a teenager then you can get away with all the sexy shenanigans as you are young and immature. So the physical attractiveness of the person is actually a very important factor to a horny teen. The emotional shit should only be dealt with in the 20+.

I don't know maybe I'm just too brutally honest about this whole thing. All I know is "Emotions and all that crap" shouldn't act in until you want a relationship and you shouldn't be having "relationships" until you are ready and alot of Boys and Girls think they are ready and have their little hearts broken and then are stuck thinking how terrible their life is.

So filtering out all these emotional factors you get to the very core of what you want as a teenage boy from 13-20 and that's pretty much just "sex" and what not. Sure there are exceptions to rule but then asking these questions filters out these exceptions.

Uhm, I was actually just making a Futurama reference...

Haha, I'm actually sorry. I was just waiting for someone to pick me out on my comment so I could post all that. Saw one thing that could be interpreted like that and went to town.

A) How old are you?
B) How hot is this girl?

Answer me those shall ye?

Those don't seem to be the right questions.

I have a better one, why did this guy join a gaming forum just to ask for relationship help?

If OP is 14-18 and the girl is hot then we all know the solution to his problem. so I respectfully disagree they are the right questions to ask first of all.

im 17 and well... i dont like to say it but she isnt very physicly attracive tbh, feel a bit of a dick for saying it but hell =S

Don't feel like a dick, least you're being honest.

My advice is to pass up. Due to the fact being a teenager should be all about
physical attractiveness not the whole emotional deal.

So, what you're saying is that teenagers should get used to being shallow tosses.

Sounds like pretty poor advice to me, as a teenager. Sure, we aren't as emotionally stable as people a few years older than us, but if we get used to judging people on looks alone in high school, we'll do the same thing in the real world. That is simple human pattern forming.

^^ Read my massive post ^^

That makes more sense, but I still generally disagree. I don't really care if someone is hot. Sure, there are a couple of people that I know who are hot that I would be with, but only because they are cool. For each one of them there's a dozen more hot people that I think are dumb tossers.

Instead, the people I like to be with are people who I find interesting. Furthermore, I think the standard of "hot" is over rated. I'll take an average girl over Megan Fox any day, because average people don't look like they're made out of plastic.

I realize that I most likely will have to deal with a lot of emotional instability and such, like you said, trying to go for emotion rather than physical attraction, but I'd rather have my heart broken than train myself to be shallow.

And then there's cases like my brother, who started going out with a girl in sophmore year because of emotional attraction, and has now, 10 years later, has been married to her 5 years.

A) Then you're missing out, as a teenager you have the "right" to get away with doing what ever you can do. So by not going after hot girls and stuff you will most likely regret it when you mature up and realise you wasted your teenage years trying to be mature. This happened to me so I speak from experience.

B) I said physically attractive as in WHAT YOU FIND ATTRACTIVE if you find the girl sexually attractive why does it matter that she is considered "average" by society.

C) You're not training yourself to be shallow you are enjoying the few teenage years you have

D) When your brother is like 40 - 50 he may regret some of the things he turned down.

Another point, hey you're just an exception as I spoke about but don't fuck up your teenage years, you should enjoy them with as many females as you can if you do find miss right in your teenage years consider taking a break from her for a few months of a year or two and go out with other women otherwise you might feel like you missed out.

I understand your perspective. I just don't really put a lot of importance on sex. Its not that I'm asexual, its just that there are a lot more things to experience.

I guess it all fits in to the same perspective that made me choose to be a sort of traditionalist straight edge. Non-violent, non-judging, but still abstaining from a few things. I enjoy my life a lot, and if I'm with someone I'd enjoy it even more. However, I'm just not really comfortable with having sex with people I don't really care about.

edit-

But, I do agree with the idea of making sure I don't spend all my time with someone I'll regret later. I want to be careful not to waste my time with someone I'll eventually want to leave anyway, but I don't feel the need to chase after everyone.

It's a fair point, you've probably already matured out of the stage where it's not all that matters to you. I'm just trying to get it to the immature people who do all this to try and seem mature to people and end up massively missing out.

Yeah, I suppose that makes sense. I actually know a few people that might benefit from your advice now that I think about it. They don't really care about people other than for attraction, but they feel that they need to be in a relationship to fit in to common standards, even though all they really want in the end is sex.

 

[2012 Wont Happen]

Spoiler

A) How old are you?
B) How hot is this girl?

Answer me those shall ye?

Robots don't say ye.

OT: I wouldn't do anything until you know for sure as asking her would be weird pretty uncomfortable if she doesn't feel the way you think. Once you know, or get close to knowing as you think you can, then ask if you have to.

Dictionary dictionary dictionary

Robots? They are actually the perfect questions. As if you are a teenager then you can get away with all the sexy shenanigans as you are young and immature. So the physical attractiveness of the person is actually a very important factor to a horny teen. The emotional shit should only be dealt with in the 20+.

I don't know maybe I'm just too brutally honest about this whole thing. All I know is "Emotions and all that crap" shouldn't act in until you want a relationship and you shouldn't be having "relationships" until you are ready and alot of Boys and Girls think they are ready and have their little hearts broken and then are stuck thinking how terrible their life is.

So filtering out all these emotional factors you get to the very core of what you want as a teenage boy from 13-20 and that's pretty much just "sex" and what not. Sure there are exceptions to rule but then asking these questions filters out these exceptions.

Uhm, I was actually just making a Futurama reference...

Haha, I'm actually sorry. I was just waiting for someone to pick me out on my comment so I could post all that. Saw one thing that could be interpreted like that and went to town.

A) How old are you?
B) How hot is this girl?

Answer me those shall ye?

Those don't seem to be the right questions.

I have a better one, why did this guy join a gaming forum just to ask for relationship help?

If OP is 14-18 and the girl is hot then we all know the solution to his problem. so I respectfully disagree they are the right questions to ask first of all.

im 17 and well... i dont like to say it but she isnt very physicly attracive tbh, feel a bit of a dick for saying it but hell =S

Don't feel like a dick, least you're being honest.

My advice is to pass up. Due to the fact being a teenager should be all about
physical attractiveness not the whole emotional deal.

So, what you're saying is that teenagers should get used to being shallow tosses.

Sounds like pretty poor advice to me, as a teenager. Sure, we aren't as emotionally stable as people a few years older than us, but if we get used to judging people on looks alone in high school, we'll do the same thing in the real world. That is simple human pattern forming.

^^ Read my massive post ^^

That makes more sense, but I still generally disagree. I don't really care if someone is hot. Sure, there are a couple of people that I know who are hot that I would be with, but only because they are cool. For each one of them there's a dozen more hot people that I think are dumb tossers.

Instead, the people I like to be with are people who I find interesting. Furthermore, I think the standard of "hot" is over rated. I'll take an average girl over Megan Fox any day, because average people don't look like they're made out of plastic.

I realize that I most likely will have to deal with a lot of emotional instability and such, like you said, trying to go for emotion rather than physical attraction, but I'd rather have my heart broken than train myself to be shallow.

And then there's cases like my brother, who started going out with a girl in sophmore year because of emotional attraction, and has now, 10 years later, has been married to her 5 years.

A) Then you're missing out, as a teenager you have the "right" to get away with doing what ever you can do. So by not going after hot girls and stuff you will most likely regret it when you mature up and realise you wasted your teenage years trying to be mature. This happened to me so I speak from experience.

B) I said physically attractive as in WHAT YOU FIND ATTRACTIVE if you find the girl sexually attractive why does it matter that she is considered "average" by society.

C) You're not training yourself to be shallow you are enjoying the few teenage years you have

D) When your brother is like 40 - 50 he may regret some of the things he turned down.

Another point, hey you're just an exception as I spoke about but don't fuck up your teenage years, you should enjoy them with as many females as you can if you do find miss right in your teenage years consider taking a break from her for a few months of a year or two and go out with other women otherwise you might feel like you missed out.

I understand your perspective. I just don't really put a lot of importance on sex. Its not that I'm asexual, its just that there are a lot more things to experience.

I guess it all fits in to the same perspective that made me choose to be a sort of traditionalist straight edge. Non-violent, non-judging, but still abstaining from a few things. I enjoy my life a lot, and if I'm with someone I'd enjoy it even more. However, I'm just not really comfortable with having sex with people I don't really care about.

edit-

But, I do agree with the idea of making sure I don't spend all my time with someone I'll regret later. I want to be careful not to waste my time with someone I'll eventually want to leave anyway, but I don't feel the need to chase after everyone.

It's a fair point, you've probably already matured out of the stage where it's not all that matters to you. I'm just trying to get it to the immature people who do all this to try and seem mature to people and end up massively missing out.

Yeah, I suppose that makes sense. I actually know a few people that might benefit from your advice now that I think about it. They don't really care about people other than for attraction, but they feel that they need to be in a relationship to fit in to common standards, even though all they really want in the end is sex.

Yeah, it's perfectly natural and "relationships" shouldn't be the common standard at all. They all try be grown up and miss out. Silly people, only when you miss out do you realise.

Yeah, that makes sense.

Well, nice talking to you.

 

[2012 Wont Happen]

Spoiler

A) How old are you?
B) How hot is this girl?

Answer me those shall ye?

Robots don't say ye.

OT: I wouldn't do anything until you know for sure as asking her would be weird pretty uncomfortable if she doesn't feel the way you think. Once you know, or get close to knowing as you think you can, then ask if you have to.

Dictionary dictionary dictionary

Robots? They are actually the perfect questions. As if you are a teenager then you can get away with all the sexy shenanigans as you are young and immature. So the physical attractiveness of the person is actually a very important factor to a horny teen. The emotional shit should only be dealt with in the 20+.

I don't know maybe I'm just too brutally honest about this whole thing. All I know is "Emotions and all that crap" shouldn't act in until you want a relationship and you shouldn't be having "relationships" until you are ready and alot of Boys and Girls think they are ready and have their little hearts broken and then are stuck thinking how terrible their life is.

So filtering out all these emotional factors you get to the very core of what you want as a teenage boy from 13-20 and that's pretty much just "sex" and what not. Sure there are exceptions to rule but then asking these questions filters out these exceptions.

Uhm, I was actually just making a Futurama reference...

Haha, I'm actually sorry. I was just waiting for someone to pick me out on my comment so I could post all that. Saw one thing that could be interpreted like that and went to town.

A) How old are you?
B) How hot is this girl?

Answer me those shall ye?

Those don't seem to be the right questions.

I have a better one, why did this guy join a gaming forum just to ask for relationship help?

If OP is 14-18 and the girl is hot then we all know the solution to his problem. so I respectfully disagree they are the right questions to ask first of all.

im 17 and well... i dont like to say it but she isnt very physicly attracive tbh, feel a bit of a dick for saying it but hell =S

Don't feel like a dick, least you're being honest.

My advice is to pass up. Due to the fact being a teenager should be all about
physical attractiveness not the whole emotional deal.

So, what you're saying is that teenagers should get used to being shallow tosses.

Sounds like pretty poor advice to me, as a teenager. Sure, we aren't as emotionally stable as people a few years older than us, but if we get used to judging people on looks alone in high school, we'll do the same thing in the real world. That is simple human pattern forming.

^^ Read my massive post ^^

That makes more sense, but I still generally disagree. I don't really care if someone is hot. Sure, there are a couple of people that I know who are hot that I would be with, but only because they are cool. For each one of them there's a dozen more hot people that I think are dumb tossers.

Instead, the people I like to be with are people who I find interesting. Furthermore, I think the standard of "hot" is over rated. I'll take an average girl over Megan Fox any day, because average people don't look like they're made out of plastic.

I realize that I most likely will have to deal with a lot of emotional instability and such, like you said, trying to go for emotion rather than physical attraction, but I'd rather have my heart broken than train myself to be shallow.

And then there's cases like my brother, who started going out with a girl in sophmore year because of emotional attraction, and has now, 10 years later, has been married to her 5 years.

A) Then you're missing out, as a teenager you have the "right" to get away with doing what ever you can do. So by not going after hot girls and stuff you will most likely regret it when you mature up and realise you wasted your teenage years trying to be mature. This happened to me so I speak from experience.

B) I said physically attractive as in WHAT YOU FIND ATTRACTIVE if you find the girl sexually attractive why does it matter that she is considered "average" by society.

C) You're not training yourself to be shallow you are enjoying the few teenage years you have

D) When your brother is like 40 - 50 he may regret some of the things he turned down.

Another point, hey you're just an exception as I spoke about but don't fuck up your teenage years, you should enjoy them with as many females as you can if you do find miss right in your teenage years consider taking a break from her for a few months of a year or two and go out with other women otherwise you might feel like you missed out.

I understand your perspective. I just don't really put a lot of importance on sex. Its not that I'm asexual, its just that there are a lot more things to experience.

I guess it all fits in to the same perspective that made me choose to be a sort of traditionalist straight edge. Non-violent, non-judging, but still abstaining from a few things. I enjoy my life a lot, and if I'm with someone I'd enjoy it even more. However, I'm just not really comfortable with having sex with people I don't really care about.

edit-

But, I do agree with the idea of making sure I don't spend all my time with someone I'll regret later. I want to be careful not to waste my time with someone I'll eventually want to leave anyway, but I don't feel the need to chase after everyone.

It's a fair point, you've probably already matured out of the stage where it's not all that matters to you. I'm just trying to get it to the immature people who do all this to try and seem mature to people and end up massively missing out.

Yeah, I suppose that makes sense. I actually know a few people that might benefit from your advice now that I think about it. They don't really care about people other than for attraction, but they feel that they need to be in a relationship to fit in to common standards, even though all they really want in the end is sex.

Yeah, it's perfectly natural and "relationships" shouldn't be the common standard at all. They all try be grown up and miss out. Silly people, only when you miss out do you realise.

Yeah, that makes sense.

Well, nice talking to you.

Indeed, nice discussion. Nice the way it didn't get personal or nothing, hate it when that happens it's just pointless.

Exactly. Especially when it happens over the internet, when there is no knowledge of the other person to get personal with. Then it is just vague personal accusations based on guesses.

 

[Firia]

just act indifferent if your not attracted to her. no need to upset her by going NO!!. drop hints about liking girl XYZ (even if you dont) to discourage her.

I feel like this is a wonderful way to make a girl feel inferior, and unwanted. Not recommended.

either way shes gonna feel like crap. this kinda thing is a mine feild regardless of what approach the guy takes. its best to just be subtle and squash the intrest like that. also the fact is when someone isnt attracted to you its becasue you are inferior in there eyes. your either not attractive enough for them or you just dont have what they are looking for no two ways about. granted thats an extremely blunt way to put it and i would never recommend saying to this girl "you're an inferior specimen of womenhood not fit for my loins bwahaha" but thats how a hurt person will think (not in those exact words mind you but the words im not good enough will pop up). sure you can rationalise it away "oh we were friends for too long before hand it would be weird" thats bullshit hell ive known people who been friends for years get it together and seen friends go with people they meet in bars. fact is if the attraction is there , there isnt any hope anyway. so yeah its gonna be weird she is gonna feel bad damn you, you handsome devil its not gonna be easy on either of you.

I maintain my original position; Not Recommended. You sir, need to work on how you think talking to a woman works.