i think my freind likes me, erm...wtf do i do?

[mkg]

This can only really play out in a few ways:

Best Case: You go for it and find your friendship makes the relationship really work, happily ever after.

Just as good: You talk about it but decide not to and you guys eventually move on to other people and your friendship is stronger for it.

SO-SO: You give it a whirl, but realize you work as better as friends and stay that way. All your future girlfriends have a complex over her.

Gettin Bad: You give it a shot, but it doesn't work and there is a terrible awkward atmosphere between you two. Jealousy might ensue.

Shitty: You don't go for it and there is tension between you two. She might even be jealous of your relationships/hookups or vice-versa.

Worst: You go for it, and not only does it not work but you break up in a terrible way and lose a good friend.

Whichever seems most likely to you as going down might give you a jumping off point. Good luck!

 

[superbatranger]

Put a paper bag over that shit and yer good to go son.

That is so wrong. So very wrong. So wrong on so many levels. But, damn it, it's making me laugh so hard.

 

[Alexboo]

*Oprah-worthy excerpt*

Can I ask your view (as a girl) on the opposite? (Forgive me, OP, for derailing slightly).

Briefly; I'm into her, I think she's into me, she doesn't have any other male friends, I don't have any courage to tell her, and I don't want to scare her off/ruin friendship etc. She's pretty shy with strangers, just chatty with people she feels comfortable with (i.e. me).
What should I do? I'm at a loss, and have been for a few months.

Basically, this is where it gets tricky. If you're afraid that outright saying it and asking her to be your forever will scare her off, then I suggest spending more time with her. Make situations where you and her (and some mutual friends) are all together having fun, and spend more time talking one-on-one with her. Listen to her opinions, tell her jokes, have legit conversations with the girl, and basically become closer. If she doesn't like you already, this will give her every opportunity to -begin- liking you. When you feel the time is right (i.e. when you think she won't be opposed to it or weirded out) start doing things with her one-on-one. This is difficult if you're in high school because there isn't a setting where you can both be together easily that won't look like you're taking her out on a date, but maybe you can hand out during breaks together every day. Hopefully you two will become closer than close, and you can ask her out. You can even start sending out subtle "i like you" signals and see if she picks up on them. If she already likes you, it will become apparent quickly. Good luck!

 

[Blindswordmaster]

people here seem to be like minded and helpfull individuallys so im hoping it will work.

Like minded and helpful? Jesus I just laughed for 10 minutes on that one, man you are funny. Hi, welcome to the Escapist Forums. I'm Josh, though better known by my username, and it's very nice to meet you.
Pleasantries aside, this is a very serious matter and I suggest just talking to her about this whole thing. If she does confirm your suspicions, just tell her that you don't want to mess up your friendship by dating and possibly going through a nasty break-up. I've seen this kind of thing before, sometimes these relationships are beautiful, and other times they explode in a fury of nuclear fire. You are both mature people and can handle this like adults, I'm assuming. Good luck, your gonna need it pal.

 

[The Austin]

I believe that unless she tells you, you shouldn't bring it up. If you are wrong about her, then you will make things awkward for a while between you to. If you just wait to tell her you aren't interesting in her until she flat out tells you, then the situation will be less awkward.

Agreed. Don't bring it up unless SHE brings it up, otherwise you are going to be in a worse place than you already are.

 

[ICanBreakTheseCuffs]

this picture explains it
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[Firia]

Well, if you just suspect something right now, then I wouldn't gamble to much on suspicions. I have girl friends that are affectionate towards me in a friendly manner, but they are not romantically interested in me (and my being a homosexual woman makes it as much as a possibility as guys... I think). It could be that she's just being really friendly.

If however, she brings up that you two could be more than just friends, and this idea doesn't gel with you, THEN act. I would recommend a friend to friend discussion, wherein YOU must be very very cautious with your choice of words, your intentions, and how you deliver your position of friendship being better off than dating each other.

If a woman, lady, girl, (really any age group of female) tells someone they're feeling feelings more than just friendship, she's in a very emotional place. She's weighed the cost of being turned down, and feels the risk is worth the reward. You have already decided that she'll ultimately be turned down, so be gentle about how you do this. Logic and A to B discussions have no place here.

Reassure her, should she approach you about being more than just friends. Assumining you actually feel this way, telling her how much it means to you that she has feelings for you can really ease the blow. Oh, after a line like that, she'll see what's coming a mile away, but reassurance of something like that, telling her that you really value your friendship together, it will all let her down gently. Be there for her if she needs you, but give her space if she doesn't seem to be around. Likely, despite however easy you let her down, she'll either need space to sort out feelings or mope. Or if she needs someone to be around, she'll come to you.

Try not to let things be awkward, if it goes there. Maintain group friend outtings (if you have the same group of friends), invite her out like you would any other time. Own her at whatever games you play. Just further reassurances that while she gambled a friendship to win a boyfriend, she did not gamble it all and lose.

 

[Vlassic]

Unless the girl flat-out asks you out, there's no reason for you to come right out and tell her you're not into her. But you could hint to that fact by talking about a girl you DO like in front of her.

 

[Firia]

just act indifferent if your not attracted to her. no need to upset her by going NO!!. drop hints about liking girl XYZ (even if you dont) to discourage her.

I feel like this is a wonderful way to make a girl feel inferior, and unwanted. Not recommended.

 

[Requx]

Hey that happpened to me with one of my friends, k so what advice I can give you is, don't go on a date where you dont talk much. Then hangout in your basement with her and her friend while her friend plays mass effect 2 on your 360 while you make out with her cuz shes gonna be really bad at it and youll wish your playing mass effect 2. Good luck buddy.

 

[ckam]

I would avoid the question since you're not 100% sure about her feelings toward you, but you should just do whatever you think is best in your situation.

 

[Disaster Button]

A) How old are you?
B) How hot is this girl?

Answer me those shall ye?

Robots don't say ye.

OT: I wouldn't do anything until you know for sure as asking her would be weird pretty uncomfortable if she doesn't feel the way you think. Once you know, or get close to knowing as you think you can, then ask if you have to.

Dictionary dictionary dictionary

Robots? They are actually the perfect questions. As if you are a teenager then you can get away with all the sexy shenanigans as you are young and immature. So the physical attractiveness of the person is actually a very important factor to a horny teen. The emotional shit should only be dealt with in the 20+.

I don't know maybe I'm just too brutally honest about this whole thing. All I know is "Emotions and all that crap" shouldn't act in until you want a relationship and you shouldn't be having "relationships" until you are ready and alot of Boys and Girls think they are ready and have their little hearts broken and then are stuck thinking how terrible their life is.

So filtering out all these emotional factors you get to the very core of what you want as a teenage boy from 13-20 and that's pretty much just "sex" and what not. Sure there are exceptions to rule but then asking these questions filters out these exceptions.

Uhm, I was actually just making a Futurama reference...

 

[SL33TBL1ND]

A) How old are you?
B) How hot is this girl?

Answer me those shall ye?

Those don't seem to be the right questions.

I have a better one, why did this guy join a gaming forum just to ask for relationship help?

Now that is a good question.

 

[McNinja]

hey guys first hello im mike (as you can see), now i know this may seem i bit of an odd place to post this as its a gaming site but hell people here seem to be like minded and helpfull individuallys so im hoping it will work. Ok so im freinds with this girl and i think she has kinda a thing for me , unfortuantly in a compleate roll reversal i dont feel the same way about her , so my question is how should i deal with this, do i ask her about it to conferm my suspishions, let her no im not interested steight up , or simply hide my head in the sand and hope it blows over, shes a really good freind so i would really hate to hurt her im just not sure to go about this...so ya any and all help is appreashiated and sorry for the horrable spelling =S.

First thing to do: Learn to spell. Learn how to use proper grammar and punctuation

Second: Do nothing unless she brings it up. Unless you like the awkward game. And by awkward game I mean if you straight up ask and then tell her you don't feel the same way about her that she does about you, be prepared to feel awkward around her.

 

[supersixfour]

move to utah and live among the mormons, shes sure not to like u then =)