i think my freind likes me, erm...wtf do i do?

[WorldCritic]

Just don't bring it up and if she says that she likes you, just tell her as nicely as you can that you just want to be friends. It may take a while to get over the awkwardness but if she's a really good friend then it'll work out ok. At least that's how it's gone from my experience.

 

[Booze Zombie]

If you're both sexually attracted to each other, give it a shot.
If not, just say that you're simply not sexually attracted to her because you don't think about her sexually.

This is, of course, assuming that she actually is.
Might want to check if she has a thing for you, really.

 

[zHellas]

Robots don't say ye.

But I'm a Battledroid! Or a Vending Machine! Or maybe a Calculator! *throws your calculator into the furnace*

 

[alerriixx]

Without wanting to sound a soulless (souless?) asshole, I turned down the friend who liked me who I wasn't particularly attracted to, then met someone who I was the week after, we've been together a while now. So basically, you're a teenager, if you're not attracted to them, don't bother getting attached in that kinda way.

 

[Pimppeter2]

I have a better one, why did this guy join a gaming forum just to ask for relationship help?

Because we're "like minded and helpfull individuallys", duh

OT: Make out with her mom
Steal her bus pass
Move to Mexico
Oppress the natives.

 

[Irridium]

I have a better one, why did this guy join a gaming forum just to ask for relationship help?

Because we're "like minded and helpfull individuallys", duh

OT: Make out with her mom
Steal her bus pass
Move to Mexico
Oppress the natives.

This is the best plan I've heard yet.

 

[somerandom]

A) How old are you?
B) How hot is this girl?

Answer me those shall ye?

Robots don't say ye.

OT: I wouldn't do anything until you know for sure as asking her would be weird pretty uncomfortable if she doesn't feel the way you think. Once you know, or get close to knowing as you think you can, then ask if you have to.
Btw, Somerandom is a sexy beast!

Dictionary dictionary dictionary

Pirates say ye. Pirates are fucking awesome.

OT, If you absolutely must become a pirate, grow a massive beard, put monster munch in it. She'll lose all interest, trust me. ;D

 

[RatRace123]

A) How old are you?
B) How hot is this girl?

Answer me those shall ye?

Those don't seem to be the right questions.

I have a better one, why did this guy join a gaming forum just to ask for relationship help?

Because lots of people ask us for relationship help. I've grown a Doctor Phil mustache because of all the times this question was asked.

As to the OP: I'd take it slowly and subtly, get her to spell it out clearly, before you do anything rash.

 

[Assassin Xaero]

A) How old are you?
B) How hot is this girl?

Answer me those shall ye?

Those don't seem to be the right questions.

I have a better one, why did this guy join a gaming forum just to ask for relationship help?

Because he doesn't know of the basement?

 

[tehroc]

Just play it cool, you never know when you might need a booty call.

 

[alittlepepper]

Unfortunately in a situation like this there's only one way to keep her from ending up kind of hurt about this: Get her interested in someone else. Tricky to say the least.
If you have any other girl friends that have a penchant for sneakiness you could get them to do a bit of spy work for you and see if she does or doesn't have feelings for you.
If she does...well, there's not a lot you can do to really get out of it without hurting her feelings other than just trying to get some separation from her to where you aren't around each other as much. If she doesn't then there's nothing to worry about.
If you don't...well, I don't really know what to tell you other than just to use your best judgement. Getting shut down always hurts, even by a friend.
Avoid saying anything that might hint at a possible attraction or desire from your point though, since her gradually realizing the attraction isn't mutual is one of the...lesser painful methods of getting around it.
Finding someone else for her to latch on to would be best though, less likely to lead to hurt (though potentially have problems later on down the road).
Just be cautious in what you do and good luck...this is a tough place to be in, where you are.

 

[Orwellian37]

I'm also 17, and actually have some experience here.

If you don't want to go out with her, for the love of God, DON'T BRING IT UP. If she does like you, she will tell you, or at least make it painfully obvious. When this happens, be direct about it. If she's not a *****, she'll understand. Or if you can't do that, just be a good friend.

If you do want to go out with her, then the scene will turn into a cliched 'friends becoming something more' object that may give Stephanie Meyer the will to write more terrible books. Your relationship will begin.

Oh, and welcome to The Escapist.

 

[Macgyvercas]

hey guys first hello im mike (as you can see), now i know this may seem i bit of an odd place to post this as its a gaming site but hell people here seem to be like minded and helpfull individuallys so im hoping it will work. Ok so im freinds with this girl and i think she has kinda a thing for me , unfortuantly in a compleate roll reversal i dont feel the same way about her , so my question is how should i deal with this, do i ask her about it to conferm my suspishions, let her no im not interested steight up , or simply hide my head in the sand and hope it blows over, shes a really good freind so i would really hate to hurt her im just not sure to go about this...so ya any and all help is appreashiated and sorry for the horrable spelling =S.

Here's what you do...Send a message to a user on this site by the name of BonsaiK. He's the guy we all go to for advice on relationships (or in this particular case avoiding them, but I suppose that fits the bill).

 

[MegaManOfNumbers]

Put her in the friend zone. Girls do it to us all the time, it's only natural one of us gets payback.

I like the way you think.

 

[Mrkittycat]

I have a better one, why did this guy join a gaming forum just to ask for relationship help?

Well we're 1 billion times better to ask than 4chan.

 

[inFAMOUSCowZ]

hey guys first hello im mike (as you can see), now i know this may seem i bit of an odd place to post this as its a gaming site but hell people here seem to be like minded and helpfull individuallys so im hoping it will work. Ok so im freinds with this girl and i think she has kinda a thing for me , unfortuantly in a compleate roll reversal i dont feel the same way about her , so my question is how should i deal with this, do i ask her about it to conferm my suspishions, let her no im not interested steight up , or simply hide my head in the sand and hope it blows over, shes a really good freind so i would really hate to hurt her im just not sure to go about this...so ya any and all help is appreashiated and sorry for the horrable spelling =S.

Dont bring it up EVER that you think she likes you. And just act like you normaly do, and if she wants to go out with you, as more then friends. My only guess would be go for it ( if you want ) or think of a nice way of saying no. But thats just my two cents

 

[Irridium]

I have a better one, why did this guy join a gaming forum just to ask for relationship help?

Well we're 1 billion times better to ask than 4chan.

Why'd you quote me?
Or was it just a deleting subsequent quotes mistake?

 

[2012 Wont Happen]

A) How old are you?
B) How hot is this girl?

Answer me those shall ye?

Those don't seem to be the right questions.

I have a better one, why did this guy join a gaming forum just to ask for relationship help?

If OP is 14-18 and the girl is hot then we all know the solution to his problem. so I respectfully disagree they are the right questions to ask first of all.

im 17 and well... i dont like to say it but she isnt very physicly attracive tbh, feel a bit of a dick for saying it but hell =S

Don't feel like a dick, least you're being honest.

My advice is to pass up. Due to the fact being a teenager should be all about
physical attractiveness not the whole emotional deal.

So, what you're saying is that teenagers should get used to being shallow tossers.

Sounds like pretty poor advice to me, as a teenager. Sure, we aren't as emotionally stable as people a few years older than us, but if we get used to judging people on looks alone in high school, we'll do the same thing in the real world. That is simple human pattern forming.

 

[Mr Montmorency]

Be blunt. If you lose her as a friend, she was never a friend anyway.

Say you don't like her, move on.

 

[The Unworthy Gentleman]

Don't say a word about it to her. If you're wrong then you've just fucked up your friendship. If you'e right then you have to say "I knew it... but no, we aren't going to do anything." and you ruin your friendship. Until she says she likes you straight up just stick to having suspicions.

A side note: If and when she tells you and you still don't feel the same way then tell her that you're enjoying being single and don't want to get tied into anything, tell her that you are enjoying your current relationship with her as it is and don't want to make her happy by lying. Tell her that you would say she is better off with someone else because you're an asshole but you aren't because apparently it's a kick to the face. If she's clearly sad offer to take her for some ice cream or something as a means of saying sorry.

By doing all this I reckon you could pull off saying no and still be friends with her. At the point where you say you would call yourself an asshole pull a small grin and look down at your feet and back up at her. Don't ever stray from her apart from this point. This is all theory and has not been tested, if you do use this method then tell me how it goes. I like to know what works and what fails.