I think my parents might think I'm gay...also I have bad parents...slightly

[Quiet Stranger]

The Pillow: Well frankly, I'm a bit grossed out about things resembling Japanese love pillows as well.

Twilight: That doesn't have to do with sexuality, its just because she knows you don't like it.

To me a "japanese lvoe pillow" is a whole pillow made out as a woman (shape and whatevers on it) my pillow case is just that, a pillow case, something to guard my face against god knows what mold or dirt or grime is on my pillow (my pillow looks like a bandage from the civil war)

 

[Quiet Stranger]

Yeah anime pillow case aint helping your uhh case, it's creepy and no not eccentric or whatever you have convinced yourself creepy.

Ask yourself do you really want to look like this guy?

No, but then again I don't walk around with it or even think about it like that

 

[DarthFennec]

Be fair, if you saw your son with a pink cutsey bag what would you think?
Besides, who cares if they think you are gay? They have not disowned you or anything so they are not bad parents.
If you are that worried about it that you slander them then you are honestly a bad son.
Sit down with them and explain you are not gay, just a bit of a pansy.

What the fuck does having pink cuteness have to do with being a pansy? OP, I think you're just paranoid. Everyone's parents are like that, at least everyone I know. They're not perfect, they're bound to judge you a little. If you can't handle it, take the advice I've already posted: move out. It will force you to grow up, and you can live how you want to.

 

[Ziadaine_v1legacy]

Although you haven't answered this yet: ARE you gay?

Regardless, your dad probably looked at the pillowcase in disgust for being a Anime girl (I know my parents hate me liking Anime).

As for twilight, I dunno maybe your mom did it out of a joke knowing you hate the franchise.

 

[Quiet Stranger]

You're almost 20 ffs. Perhaps in that time you might have learned that when someone takes the piss out of you, the only way to handle it well is to brush it off and laugh along. Grow up, stop sleeping on pillowcases with anime girls on (that look of disgust was both warranted and NOTHING to do with anyone thinking you're gay - he thinks you're pathetic), and stop whining.

I have to hate you but also slightly respect you because of your avatar, now how the fuck was that look warranted??

You have a picture of an anime girl on your pillow. You. Have. A. Picture. Of. An. Anime. Girl. On. Your. Pillow. You... Have... etc. you get the point.

Yeah but just because of that doesn't mean anything (although my dad hates anime or he just can't understand or get into it)

 

[Aerodyamic]

Wait. Your parents are upset that you're happy? I'm confused.

 

[delet]

Yeah anime pillow case aint helping your uhh case, it's creepy and no not eccentric or whatever you have convinced yourself creepy.

Ask yourself do you really want to look like this guy?

So that's the pillow that guy married. I would've thought it'd have Fate (The girl on the pillow) more standing up rather in a lying down position. That's even weirder...

Oh, but I just love the joke that the character he married on that pillow is a lesbian anyway (Or at least heavily implied to be one.)

 

[Drakmeire]

Well owning a Japanese love pillow would make you pretty straight (or maybe a pervert) I rip on my friend for his Death Note Misa pillow.
but I'm pretty sure your overreacting so an innocent joke.

 

[Blueruler182]

Your dad notices and doesn't like weird-ass anime stuff and your mother has a sense of humor? Dude, I wish I had your problems. My dad's a pot-smoking jackass who yells for not holding a fork right in a battlefield voice and my mom's gets into relationships with men who abuse her and I get the washover abuse and the emotional aftermath. Tell me how bad your life is when you've got an ex-football player, current drug dealer, literally throwing you out before you can bring your dog with you... I'm sorry, I just had a flashback.

Judging from the facts you've given I kinda think that the homosexuality might be a question you're posing to yourself and you're not completely sure. I'm not calling you gay, but you may be projecting the question onto your parents because you're afraid to face it head on. You might have to look deep down into who you are and figure it out yourself, because what you described just sounds like a pair of pretty good parents.

If your dad forbade the pillow and made it a big deal or your mother downright called you a queer for liking Twilight, which you don't, you might have more of an argument, but this actually makes your parents look pretty good.

EDIT: The weird-ass anime stuff is meant to be a general view. I actually think the fact that he didn't point it out is the sign of a great parent. You like it, he doesn't but he didn't make a big deal. That was my point up there.

 

[2fish]

It is the job of all parents to ruin their childs life and the job of all children to annoy/make their parents uncomfortable in all ways possible. TURN UP THE HEAT.

erm ok sorry about the shady advice, but that what I would do. Can you confirm your fear or is it simpley your theory? Do not let your fear control your life, control your fear. Change nothing, simply make the conversation available. "there is this guy as school, I think he is gay is there any way to ask without sounding like I am degrading him?" If they have the window and don't take it then I would calm down.

You could always use a family member you trust that is close to your parents and ask them if they know what your parents are thinking or just have them ask your parents what you have been up to lately. It would be better if they also trust this family member.

Good Luck! Family politics is a pain in the ass.

 

[Devi Darkside]

So you have an anime pillow and a Twitard mom to mock you and you think that means they think you're gay?

Honestly, I'm sure your dad just hates the pillow and your mom knows you hate Twilight. When I lived with my grandmother she once got me a CD with Christmas songs on it, as she knows I hate Christmas music with a burning passion to the point where I watch horror movies from November until January to get all the holly jollies out...And did I think she questioned my sexuality for that? Fuck no, she was joking with me.

Take a deep breath and relax, and quit being so insecure with things and you'll deal with things better and you'll feel a lot better too.

 

[himemiya1650]

Let them find your pr0nz, just make sure it's straight That way you can exchange one problem for another.

 

[Sikachu]

You're almost 20 ffs. Perhaps in that time you might have learned that when someone takes the piss out of you, the only way to handle it well is to brush it off and laugh along. Grow up, stop sleeping on pillowcases with anime girls on (that look of disgust was both warranted and NOTHING to do with anyone thinking you're gay - he thinks you're pathetic), and stop whining.

I have to hate you but also slightly respect you because of your avatar, now how the fuck was that look warranted??

You have a picture of an anime girl on your pillow. You. Have. A. Picture. Of. An. Anime. Girl. On. Your. Pillow. You... Have... etc. you get the point.

Yeah but just because of that doesn't mean anything (although my dad hates anime or he just can't understand or get into it)

Let me explain, it's not that it is anime, it is that it is so spectacularly juvenile. Pictures of cartoons on your bedding when you're 10, that's ok. 13? Pushing it. 19? *shakes head* Are you ever hoping to lose your virginity? You think anyone's going to join you on that bed? It wouldn't be any better if it was a picture of your favourite football team's crest. Or any other such design.

 

[darkman80723]

chill dude, if you arent gay then just tell them that their comments bother you and explain why. if you are and all you have to deal with is some harmless jokes....count your lucky stars. I came out to my parents when I was 17, my dad broke 2 of my ribs and my left arm and my mother pulled a shotgun on me....guess they couldnt really stomach the idea. I havent seen them in 6 years which is fine with me. But I will say I think Id rather just have the jokes.

 

[2012 Wont Happen]

You're almost 20 ffs. Perhaps in that time you might have learned that when someone takes the piss out of you, the only way to handle it well is to brush it off and laugh along. Grow up, stop sleeping on pillowcases with anime girls on (that look of disgust was both warranted and NOTHING to do with anyone thinking you're gay - he thinks you're pathetic), and stop whining.

Just for future reference, this sort of thing is not generally appreciated by the Escapists moderators. I'm not saying don't call somebody a pathetic whiner if you want to, just that some level of politeness is probably best.

OT:

I have to half way agree with Sikachu. I wouldn't say that sleeping with anime things is pathetic- some people are into anime, I've never really gotten into it, but a lot of other people never got into punk rock or Tarantino movies, and I love those. However, it is important to be able to take a joke. Some of my friends refer to me jokingly as "the big gay bear". I am not gay, nor am I, to my knowledge, a bear- but I just don't let it bother me.

 

[Ih8pkmn]

...wow.

Talk to a counselor. Also, ignore your parents. I've done it, and look where it's gotten me!

 

[Jaranja]

Be fair, if you saw your son with a pink cutsey pillow case what would you think?
Besides, who cares if they think you are gay? They have not disowned you or anything so they are not bad parents.
If you are that worried about it that you slander them then you are honestly a bad son.
Sit down with them and explain you are not gay, just a bit of a pansy.

Hell my own father calls me a girl because I use moisturiser and have several different types of hair care products. Don't see me whining.
I just point out that he has crap skin and that I will still be pulling 20 year old sluts when I am his age. Thus I win.

Spoiler: The Pillow Case

He probably is looking at you with disgust at how pervy and pathetic that is. Like if he saw you with a blow up doll.

MUST NOT BUY ONE...

DESPERATE VIRGIN LIBIDO TINGLING!!!!!! AHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHH!!

*dies for a bit*

I'm off to a pornsite, ciao.

 

[Quiet Stranger]

Wait. Your parents are upset that you're happy? I'm confused.

Oh, that's one thing I should mention, whenever I'm happy they always try to bring me down, I'm not joking, they're never happy for me