I think my parents might think I'm gay...also I have bad parents...slightly

[Sikachu]

You're almost 20 ffs. Perhaps in that time you might have learned that when someone takes the piss out of you, the only way to handle it well is to brush it off and laugh along. Grow up, stop sleeping on pillowcases with anime girls on (that look of disgust was both warranted and NOTHING to do with anyone thinking you're gay - he thinks you're pathetic), and stop whining.

Just for future reference, this sort of thing is not generally appreciated by the Escapists moderators. I'm not saying don't call somebody a pathetic whiner if you want to, just that some level of politeness is probably best.

OT:

I have to half way agree with Sikachu. I wouldn't say that sleeping with anime things is pathetic- some people are into anime, I've never really gotten into it, but a lot of other people never got into punk rock or Tarantino movies, and I love those. However, it is important to be able to take a joke. Some of my friends refer to me jokingly as "the big gay bear". I am not gay, nor am I, to my knowledge, a bear- but I just don't let it bother me.

Much though I appreciate your assumption that you can read the guidelines more coherently than I can, and subsequent attempt to enlighten me, perhaps I should point out that neither did I call him pathetic, nor did I say he was a whiner. Take a second read of what you quoted, and perhaps you'll see that I was explaining the look the OP's father gave him (and saying it was justified), and saying that he shouldn't whine. That he was whining here does not mean that he is a whiner, and I would not make such an inference as it would be premature. Basically what I'm saying is I don't need or want a white knight to help me stick to the rules, I'm perfectly happy to read them and be corrected by moderators if required.

 

[Quiet Stranger]

Your dad notices and doesn't like weird-ass anime stuff and your mother has a sense of humor? Dude, I wish I had your problems. My dad's a pot-smoking jackass who yells for not holding a fork right in a battlefield voice and my mom's gets into relationships with men who abuse her and I get the washover abuse and the emotional aftermath. Tell me how bad your life is when you've got an ex-football player, current drug dealer, literally throwing you out before you can bring your dog with you... I'm sorry, I just had a flashback.

Judging from the facts you've given I kinda think that the homosexuality might be a question you're posing to yourself and you're not completely sure. I'm not calling you gay, but you may be projecting the question onto your parents because you're afraid to face it head on. You might have to look deep down into who you are and figure it out yourself, because what you described just sounds like a pair of pretty good parents.

If your dad forbade the pillow and made it a big deal or your mother downright called you a queer for liking Twilight, which you don't, you might have more of an argument, but this actually makes your parents look pretty good.

EDIT: The weird-ass anime stuff is meant to be a general view. I actually think the fact that he didn't point it out is the sign of a great parent. You like it, he doesn't but he didn't make a big deal. That was my point up there.

Well my dad also tells me how to hold a fork right, I only mentioned some of the things they do

 

[2012 Wont Happen]

You're almost 20 ffs. Perhaps in that time you might have learned that when someone takes the piss out of you, the only way to handle it well is to brush it off and laugh along. Grow up, stop sleeping on pillowcases with anime girls on (that look of disgust was both warranted and NOTHING to do with anyone thinking you're gay - he thinks you're pathetic), and stop whining.

Just for future reference, this sort of thing is not generally appreciated by the Escapists moderators. I'm not saying don't call somebody a pathetic whiner if you want to, just that some level of politeness is probably best.

OT:

I have to half way agree with Sikachu. I wouldn't say that sleeping with anime things is pathetic- some people are into anime, I've never really gotten into it, but a lot of other people never got into punk rock or Tarantino movies, and I love those. However, it is important to be able to take a joke. Some of my friends refer to me jokingly as "the big gay bear". I am not gay, nor am I, to my knowledge, a bear- but I just don't let it bother me.

Much though I appreciate your assumption that you can read the guidelines more coherently than I can, and subsequent attempt to enlighten me, perhaps I should point out that neither did I call him pathetic, nor did I say he was a whiner. Take a second read of what you quoted, and perhaps you'll see that I was explaining the look the OP's father gave him (and saying it was justified), and saying that he shouldn't whine. That he was whining here does not mean that he is a whiner, and I would not make such an inference as it would be premature. Basically what I'm saying is I don't need or want a white knight to help me stick to the rules, I'm perfectly happy to read them and be corrected by moderators if required.

All I'm saying is, a lot of people get put on probation or suspension here for saying things like that, and the moderation is a lot stricter than the listed rules make them seem. Seeing as you haven't been on here very long, and have a low post count, you might not know how strict the moderation is. It might be irritating to have some tosser on the internet ask you to be more polite, but its more irritating to be suspended from a forum because nobody ever told you the mods were extremely strict.

 

[qazmatoz]

Oh, that's one thing I should mention, whenever I'm happy they always try to bring me down, I'm not joking, they're never happy for me

Find a job if you don't already have one, move out, become independent and never look back. Might have to sacrifice your standard of living and live in a shitty apartment, but hey, it's better than being persecuted by your parents and being miserable. Also, stay in school and get a good degree in the future.

 

[Verex]

Don't change the way you are for your family, or anyone in fact.

 

[Blimey]

I guess this depends on if your actually gay or not.


Cause you never told us.

Plus, let me tell you that you're going to hear a lot worse in your days. What your parents did there is pretty damn mild if you compare it with what the rest of the world will treat you like, gay or not.

 

[Blueruler182]

Your dad notices and doesn't like weird-ass anime stuff and your mother has a sense of humor? Dude, I wish I had your problems. My dad's a pot-smoking jackass who yells for not holding a fork right in a battlefield voice and my mom's gets into relationships with men who abuse her and I get the washover abuse and the emotional aftermath. Tell me how bad your life is when you've got an ex-football player, current drug dealer, literally throwing you out before you can bring your dog with you... I'm sorry, I just had a flashback.

Judging from the facts you've given I kinda think that the homosexuality might be a question you're posing to yourself and you're not completely sure. I'm not calling you gay, but you may be projecting the question onto your parents because you're afraid to face it head on. You might have to look deep down into who you are and figure it out yourself, because what you described just sounds like a pair of pretty good parents.

If your dad forbade the pillow and made it a big deal or your mother downright called you a queer for liking Twilight, which you don't, you might have more of an argument, but this actually makes your parents look pretty good.

EDIT: The weird-ass anime stuff is meant to be a general view. I actually think the fact that he didn't point it out is the sign of a great parent. You like it, he doesn't but he didn't make a big deal. That was my point up there.

Well my dad also tells me how to hold a fork right, I only mentioned some of the things they do

Nah, my dad yells at his eight year old daughter to hold the fork right, calls her an idiot, tells her to think, in a voice you could hear outside quite clearly over someone else talking and rain.

And, just judging from what you've told me, they seem like good parents. Be happy, man, I know a bunch of peoples parents who downright abuse their children. Actually hard-hitting or using weapons.

 

[the Dept of Science]

You're almost 20 ffs. Perhaps in that time you might have learned that when someone takes the piss out of you, the only way to handle it well is to brush it off and laugh along. Grow up, stop sleeping on pillowcases with anime girls on (that look of disgust was both warranted and NOTHING to do with anyone thinking you're gay - he thinks you're pathetic), and stop whining.

I have to hate you but also slightly respect you because of your avatar, now how the fuck was that look warranted??

You have a picture of an anime girl on your pillow. You. Have. A. Picture. Of. An. Anime. Girl. On. Your. Pillow. You... Have... etc. you get the point.

Yeah but just because of that doesn't mean anything (although my dad hates anime or he just can't understand or get into it)

Whether or not it means that you have some sort of wierd relationship with the pillow doesn't actually matter. Consider more the impression that it gives out. The fact that he thinks it means something is all that matters.
I know we all like to think we should be judged by our inner selves, but like it or not, its how we present ourselves that makes the difference.

 

[TheLaofKazi]

So you have an anime pillow and a Twitard mom to mock you and you think that means they think you're gay?

Honestly, I'm sure your dad just hates the pillow and your mom knows you hate Twilight. When I lived with my grandmother she once got me a CD with Christmas songs on it, as she knows I hate Christmas music with a burning passion to the point where I watch horror movies from November until January to get all the holly jollies out...And did I think she questioned my sexuality for that? Fuck no, she was joking with me.

Take a deep breath and relax, and quit being so insecure with things and you'll deal with things better and you'll feel a lot better too.

Just 'bout sums up my thoughts right there.

 

[Sikachu]

All I'm saying is, a lot of people get put on probation or suspension here for saying things like that, and the moderation is a lot stricter than the listed rules make them seem. Seeing as you haven't been on here very long, and have a low post count, you might not know how strict the moderation is. It might be irritating to have some tosser on the internet ask you to be more polite, but its more irritating to be suspended from a forum because nobody ever told you the mods were extremely strict.

Well in that case I take back my sarcastic tone but inform you that I've been here since the .pdf days in one form or another (about 4 years before your join date) and consequently that I know what the moderators are like. Putting it the way you have did defuse my being narked though, so kudos for expressing yourself well

 

[Sporky111]

You seem pretty paranoid, and your parents seem like they have their heads up their respective asses.

First step: tell them when something they do bothers you.

Second step: find a way to get more comfortable with your sexuality.

 

[2012 Wont Happen]

All I'm saying is, a lot of people get put on probation or suspension here for saying things like that, and the moderation is a lot stricter than the listed rules make them seem. Seeing as you haven't been on here very long, and have a low post count, you might not know how strict the moderation is. It might be irritating to have some tosser on the internet ask you to be more polite, but its more irritating to be suspended from a forum because nobody ever told you the mods were extremely strict.

Well in that case I take back my sarcastic tone but inform you that I've been here since the .pdf days in one form or another (about 4 years before your join date) and consequently that I know what the moderators are like. Putting it the way you have did defuse my being narked though, so kudos for expressing yourself well

Oh, alright. Thank you for understanding, and sorry for my misunderstanding of how long you've been here.

 

[ShadowsofHope]

You're almost 20 ffs. Perhaps in that time you might have learned that when someone takes the piss out of you, the only way to handle it well is to brush it off and laugh along. Grow up, stop sleeping on pillowcases with anime girls on (that look of disgust was both warranted and NOTHING to do with anyone thinking you're gay - he thinks you're pathetic), and stop whining.

So helpful! /sarcasm

Really, don't give them a fucking moments thought. Pricks will be pricks.

 

[Quiet Stranger]

You're almost 20 ffs. Perhaps in that time you might have learned that when someone takes the piss out of you, the only way to handle it well is to brush it off and laugh along. Grow up, stop sleeping on pillowcases with anime girls on (that look of disgust was both warranted and NOTHING to do with anyone thinking you're gay - he thinks you're pathetic), and stop whining.

I have to hate you but also slightly respect you because of your avatar, now how the fuck was that look warranted??

You have a picture of an anime girl on your pillow. You. Have. A. Picture. Of. An. Anime. Girl. On. Your. Pillow. You... Have... etc. you get the point.

Yeah but just because of that doesn't mean anything (although my dad hates anime or he just can't understand or get into it)

Let me explain, it's not that it is anime, it is that it is so spectacularly juvenile. Pictures of cartoons on your bedding when you're 10, that's ok. 13? Pushing it. 19? *shakes head* Are you ever hoping to lose your virginity? You think anyone's going to join you on that bed? It wouldn't be any better if it was a picture of your favourite football team's crest. Or any other such design.

well, i've already lost my virginity and what exactly is wrong with being a kid? I think thats a stereotype actually, anyone can have anime or cartoons or stuff on their walls (posters) or bedding, also many girls have joined me in my bed (just sleeping though) with my CCCCRRRAAAAZZZY bedding

 

[wkrepelin]

you're an adult. Talk to them, ignore it and put up with it or move out.

Also, if you think that makes your parents "bad" then you are really ignorant of what happens outside of your home or what some other people have to deal with.

Note: My parents are awesomely awesome i am not making reference to them.

 

[Trivun]

You're almost 20 ffs. Perhaps in that time you might have learned that when someone takes the piss out of you, the only way to handle it well is to brush it off and laugh along. Grow up, stop sleeping on pillowcases with anime girls on (that look of disgust was both warranted and NOTHING to do with anyone thinking you're gay - he thinks you're pathetic), and stop whining.

Personally, I think you're being extremely ignorant and nasty with that comment. Having an anime-girl pillowcase is perfectly fine and normal, it's no different to having a pillowcase or duvet cover or whatever with your favourite football team or actor or TV show or whatever on it. As far as people brushing it off when you have the piss taken out of you, it's a completely different thing when it's your own parents, and also when it seems people are doing it behind your back. I think you're the one who needs to grow up, rather than using the anonymity of the internet to take cheap shots at someone who quite frankly seems like a perfectly normal and decent person. Otherwise, your stay here won't be very long.

As far as the OP's concerns go, it seems a little like you (OP) are reading too much into it all, slightly. To be honest, though I'd probably have that pillowcase myself if I could, I dare say my friends and family would think it at the least a little odd (though since my family accept my relative geekiness, they wouldn't really judge me over it). That said, I would be a bit suspicious. Wait it out a little while, keep your eyes and ears open, and if your family do or say anything else that you think seems out of character or makes you think they reckon you're gay or weird in any way, then confront them over it then. It's a bit early to go charging in guns blazing now, but just keep an eye out and see if it all continues, and act on that...

 

[Xanadu84]

Based on the information given...

The pillow. It's not news that parents often dislike things that their children like. I wouldn't worry about it, I don't think it has anything to do with sexuality.

As for the Twilight commercial, I gotta agree with most people here. She was teasing you. If your hatred of Twilight is to the point where its no laughing matter, you seriously need to lay off the internet rage. If it does seriously bother you, tell her that you have a serious problem with Twilight, and you find her joke insulting. I think you will weird her out that you take it so seriously, but I'm sure she will lay off.

As for fat jokes...being upset is a little more warranted, but same deal. My parents have made fun of me for plenty worse, and I know that the reason they do that is because they know I'm mature enough to handle it. If you tell her it bothers you, I'm sure she will stop.

 

[Huddo]

Sure, anime's fine. But I draw the line at someone of your age to have an anime pillowcase. Sure, you might like anime for all it's worth, but most people would be put off by the fact that you have anime on your pillow. I know that my dad would give me weird looks if I had an anime pillowcase.
You should just explain to him how you like anime. Sure, it won't completely solve the problem, but it'll help.

As for the Twilight thing, you're being far too paranoid. She's merely playing on the fact that you obviously hate Twilight. My parents make jokes about that kind of stuff all the time, and I just laugh along with them. It actually shows that they care for you, and that they trust you enough to make a simple joke like that.

The fat jokes fall into the same category as the Twilight jokes. They would only be teasing you. If you actually were fat they would be more serious about it, but as they are joking about it it's nothing to worry about.

So, yeah, talk to your dad about anime, and get over the Twilight and 'fat' comments. If you're really worried about the comments talk to your parents about them.

That is all.