I think my parents might think I'm gay...also I have bad parents...slightly

[Chamomiles Davis]

Now I've been wondering this for a while now and I think my parents think I'm gay, or there's something wrong with me. Tonight my dad had brought over my brothers stuff from my brothers old place, when he left I think he was eyeing my pink pillow case with an anime girl on it. If you must know, it is from the "Record of Agarest War" collectors edition and I only got the game for the collectors edition (I'm crazy about these things) but he was eyeing it for longer then then just looking at it, he also had a certain look on his face, almost like a look of disgust.

Now my mother, while I was in her room talking to her, a Twilight Eclipse commercial came on the TV and she said "Look *insert my name here* it's your favorite show" now...why would she say that? That's not even funny, it just...FUCK it makes me so angry, I fucking hate when people make jokes about that, it's in bad taste and not funny (I fucking hate that series) so why would she do this??? Last but not least she has made two fat jokes about me recently....and I'm not even fat.


So my question is what should I do? Should I talk to them about this or just grin and bear it and have my paranoid mind put thoughts into my head? Also what do you think of parents who judge their own kids?

Only quoted you because I wanted you to read this and not have it be lost amongst the rest.

Talk to your parents! It sucks and its hard and its awkward and miserable and will feel horrible for a while. But keeping it to yourself is a long and desperate path to repression and even bigger issues.

Please, please do not let your issues with your family define the person that you will become. Only years of therapy has taught me this, but if you submit to the judgements of your family then you become a person forever judged, and will find it harder and harder to be comfortable with yourself.

You know that there is nothing wrong with you, and its about fucking time that your parents knew it too! (don't say that to them. you want them to listen not be defensive.)

 

[ZehGeek]

So you have an anime pillow and a Twitard mom to mock you and you think that means they think you're gay?

Honestly, I'm sure your dad just hates the pillow and your mom knows you hate Twilight. When I lived with my grandmother she once got me a CD with Christmas songs on it, as she knows I hate Christmas music with a burning passion to the point where I watch horror movies from November until January to get all the holly jollies out...And did I think she questioned my sexuality for that? Fuck no, she was joking with me.

Take a deep breath and relax, and quit being so insecure with things and you'll deal with things better and you'll feel a lot better too.

Yea but with the fat jokes, twice, that's not good.
OT: It's probably just best if you try and spend as much time away from them as possible. If there gonna give you greif, just get away as much as you can. I've had shit with my parents,and it does get annoying. Honestly, I'm just gonna be glad when I'm away from them, and can do my own thing. Should probably think the same. But for now, just relax, take a deep breath, and enjoy who you are.

 

[Canid117]

Get rid of the pink pillow case and tear your mother a new one when she tries to make a joke like that again. It might work...

 

[Keela]

You're paranoid. Be comfortable with your own sexuality and ignore them. What the fuck does it matter what they think?

Well I live with them.....plus if they're gonna start do it constantly

Yea, I live with my parents too. Maybe I'm disconnected, but I pretty much don't see them at all and they attempt small talk every now and again but it's obvious that neither of us really care.

And again, you should feel comfortable with your own sexuality. So your dad doesn't like your pink hug pillow? Put it away, or ignore it. If you're ashamed of it because of your dad, then you should put it away if you can't take it. So you can't take a light joke by your from your mom? I hate to say it, but man up. It's a joke; you need to learn to roll with it.

Stop taking everything so personally, or confront your parents about it if it's really getting to you.

Pretty much this. I would avoid putting pink anime pillows front and center for everyone to see when they walk into your room. Just shove it on a shelf, preferably in an environment with boyish things; like next to your dragon statue or lay your AR-15 on it. Or put it in your closet.

About your mom's comment: Try faking enthusiasm, or take an exhasperated sigh and point your fingers at your head like you're shooting yourself. Hell, when you see a kid's show on, sing the theme song. I do it all the time, and my parents (mainly my dad) make gay jokes occasionally, just say something like "Was that an insult or a come on?" because that should disturb your parents well enough that they'll leave you alone. In all seriousness, that first one works for me. Also, make comments about manly things like action movies and guns and fighting and make jokes about how easy the woman is in that one movie you happen to be talking about, like "In a perfect world..." or "I wish women that smart and pretty existed...." I say stuff like that all the time, and my family seems unsuspicious of my being gay.

EDIT: Which I'm not.

 

[zestamaster]

i kinda have the same problem. but fuck anyone who thinks anime is gay

 

[Feste the Jester]

The Anime Pillow isn't because your dad thinks your gay, its because it does look odd to have a pillow like that.

The Twilight Comment isn't for your mom thinking your gay. My mom does the same for me because she knows I really hate it and I'll do the same for her when I find something she really doesn't like (i.e. fish).

 

[Lim3]

No, never been caught.

But people who don't like anime don't understand hentai.

Eg the cops in america who arrested that dude or hentai of underage characters:

http://www.escapistmagazine.com/forums/read/7.175488-Hentai-Collector-Sentenced-to-Jail-Over-Obscene-Material?page=10

 

[Omnific One]

Wait, you ARE?! fuck, we're beyond the pillow thing now and up to DefCon 5. Tone down the fucking anime stuff and don't come whining to a fucking forum for advice on dealing with some very simple and very reasonable things in your home. Go speak to your friends or talk directly about it with your parents, for god's sake.

FYI: DefCon 1 is the highest.

OT: Confront them. It's the simplest and best way to do it. Otherwise, they might think you are just trying to cover it up.

 

[Shru1kan]

Although you haven't answered this yet: ARE you gay?

Regardless, your dad probably looked at the pillowcase in disgust for being a Anime girl (I know my parents hate me liking Anime).

As for twilight, I dunno maybe your mom did it out of a joke knowing you hate the franchise.

Look at the game the one guy linked, and tell me if you think hes gay...

Would a gay man buy the NAUGHTY addition of a game involving busty anime women?

No but I'd beat the hell out of my kid for looking at trash like that and not finding a real woman to try and woo. Especially that mousepad, its disgusting and no self respecting woman would stay with someone who so readily and openly objectifies them.


OP aren't you the same guy who got pissed because some chick said you wore perfume and you really were actually still using scented women's products? Seriously, anyone would be concerned about your sexuality or at least connection to reality when you're 20 and buying stuff like that for yourself of your own volition. It's not gonna help you get a girl, having that stuff laying around in your room, because even if you get that far, they won't stay long. Oh and if they do, chances are you wont want to keep them if they don't put their foot down on the borderline porn you so proudly display and seem clearly enchanted by.

To recap, if you want people to take you seriously as a mature and capable man, lose the feminine products, lose the 14 year old jackoff material, and either stay home until you graduate college, or if you aren't in it, look for an apartment because nobody is going to want to go back to your place when you're 20 and living at home. Seriously, reality check time. You aren't a teenager anymore.

 

[userwhoquitthesite]

Now I've been wondering this for a while now and I think my parents think I'm gay, or there's something wrong with me. Tonight my dad had brought over my brothers stuff from my brothers old place, when he left I think he was eyeing my pink pillow case with an anime girl on it. If you must know, it is from the "Record of Agarest War" collectors edition and I only got the game for the collectors edition (I'm crazy about these things) but he was eyeing it for longer then then just looking at it, he also had a certain look on his face, almost like a look of disgust.

Now my mother, while I was in her room talking to her, a Twilight Eclipse commercial came on the TV and she said "Look *insert my name here* it's your favorite show" now...why would she say that? That's not even funny, it just...FUCK it makes me so angry, I fucking hate when people make jokes about that, it's in bad taste and not funny (I fucking hate that series) so why would she do this??? Last but not least she has made two fat jokes about me recently....and I'm not even fat.


So my question is what should I do? Should I talk to them about this or just grin and bear it and have my paranoid mind put thoughts into my head? Also what do you think of parents who judge their own kids?

This will sound like a troll post

It is not.

I do not know whether your parents think you are gay or not. However, if you are really that concerned, here is how you can dispel the idea

Above, people have mentioned bringing home a girl. This is not enough, as how many gay man in denial have done exactly that (even married to say they arent)

What you ought to do is get some nice, straight or girl/girl porn and "accidentally" get caught fapping to it.

People do all sorts of things to keep up a pretense that they are something they arent. No one, however, faps to things he isnt attracted to just to seem not gay.

Now, you might think "oh, i could just have porn and let them find it"

Don't do that. I have had three gay friends try the same thing with their parents. Leaving porn out to be found shows you want it found.

This method will likely get you in trouble, but they will know you damn sure aren't one of them "queer-o-sexuals"

thankfully, I dont have to deal with such things. *looks for Kingdom Hearts yaoi*

 

[likalaruku]

Put a poster of an anime girl wearing little more than underwear on your wall. If you dad looks relieved, then he was thingking gay. But if he still looks worried, then he's afraid you might have a 2D complex & will never bag a flesh & blood woman of your own. In which case, replace the poster with a real woman.

Or you can just f**k with your parents by sending them really mixed messages.

 

[RhombusHatesYou]

Put a poster of an anime girl wearing little more than underwear on your wall. If you dad looks relieved, then he was thingking gay. But if he still looks worried, then he's afraid you might have a 2D complex & will never bag a flesh & blood woman of your own. In which case, replace the poster with a real woman.

My parents called the police when I started hanging real women on my wall. In hindsight, I should have gagged them first.

 

[likalaruku]

i kinda have the same problem. but fuck anyone who thinks anime is gay

Some are actually. Boy x Boy fanservice is aimed at girls & Girl x Girl fanservice is aimed at guys. & pretty much all animes have some hint of it or crossdressing these days.

 

[BonsaiK]

Now I've been wondering this for a while now and I think my parents think I'm gay, or there's something wrong with me. Tonight my dad had brought over my brothers stuff from my brothers old place, when he left I think he was eyeing my pink pillow case with an anime girl on it. If you must know, it is from the "Record of Agarest War" collectors edition and I only got the game for the collectors edition (I'm crazy about these things) but he was eyeing it for longer then then just looking at it, he also had a certain look on his face, almost like a look of disgust.

Now my mother, while I was in her room talking to her, a Twilight Eclipse commercial came on the TV and she said "Look *insert my name here* it's your favorite show" now...why would she say that? That's not even funny, it just...FUCK it makes me so angry, I fucking hate when people make jokes about that, it's in bad taste and not funny (I fucking hate that series) so why would she do this??? Last but not least she has made two fat jokes about me recently....and I'm not even fat.


So my question is what should I do? Should I talk to them about this or just grin and bear it and have my paranoid mind put thoughts into my head? Also what do you think of parents who judge their own kids?

You Dad doesn't think you're gay, he probably just thinks that anime pillows are kind of creepy. Remember that many people of the older generation think that cartoons are for kids, so he may be looking at the pillow and thinking that you're using it like a security blanket. On the other hand, if he actually does know a lot about anime he'll know exactly what sort of values Japanese anime culture is informed by, and then he probably thinks you're humping it at night. Either way, he's unsettled by the pillow, because it's a sign that you haven't grown up yet. Since it's his job as a parent to help you grow up, any sign that you, at nearly 20 years old, are developmentally delayed is going to be met with revulsion, because inside this makes him feels like he's failed as a parent. He's asking himself "what did I do wrong?".

He's probably right, too. You're nearly 20 and your mum makes a joke about Twilight and you let it get to you so deeply, you can't just brush it off? Now there's a telltale sign that you definitely have some growing up to do. Moving out of home is recommended. Maybe go out with some girls... hell, just go out with anybody male or female just to get out of the house because I sense that you spend too much time there. Cool it with the anime stuff too, there are other things in life. And next time your mum gives you shit, relax, it's not the end of the world. She's just pushing your buttons because she can, that's how some mums show that they care.

 

[teqrevisited]

Man, they sound like a lot more than I could put up with. My parents generally just leave me alone, but I'm fully aware that the majority of what I do tends to have some sort of eccentricity about it.

On the point of the anime pillow; it's not my thing but I think that the older generation doesn't really understand what it's all about and would probably base their assumptions on the colour and the design of the objects they see.

I really don't know what to say about your mum's comments on Twilight & the fat jokes. They just seem like completely random verbal abuse. I'd have a strong conversation with her if I were you. Assert what you are and what you aren't and your opinions on her comments.

 

[likalaruku]

Put a poster of an anime girl wearing little more than underwear on your wall. If you dad looks relieved, then he was thingking gay. But if he still looks worried, then he's afraid you might have a 2D complex & will never bag a flesh & blood woman of your own. In which case, replace the poster with a real woman.

My parents called the police when I started hanging real women on my wall. In hindsight, I should have gagged them first.

The try f**king with them. Put pictures of women, men, & children, one each real & drawn on yor wall & laugh at whatver reaction you get from them. You can also put an upside down cross or a pentagram on your wall. If they freak out when they see it, move out as soon as possible.

 

[blankedboy]

Twilight is a love story, watching it isn't gay in the slightest.
I kind of want to see New Moon.

Anyway, just ignore it until something big happens.

 

[likalaruku]

Twilight is a love story, watching it isn't gay in the slightest.
I kind of want to see New Moon.

Anyway, just ignore it until something big happens.

Nohthing says romance like breaking into people's houses & watching them sleep.