I think my parents might think I'm gay...also I have bad parents...slightly

[silversnake4133]

Crack jokes back at them that hit close to home for them. Nothing shuts a person up faster than a legit taste of their own fuckin' medicine.

 

[ShoopDaToaster]

Having the girl on your pillow doesn't mean you want to sleep with her... does everything have to be sexual?

But it's sold for sexual reasons!
Why else would you buy one?!
And it's probably in a.....revealing positon.

 

[Dexiro]

Wow everyone here sucks. If you like the pillow then keep the damn pillow! Don't let people cry at you judging them by their own standards because they think it's for kids or whatever.

Though if you're indifferent about the pillow then it's probably the best to tuck it away, it just seems like it's causing controversy.

Last of all stop caring what your parents think of you; so what if they think you're gay? That's their problem and you'll be laughing when they catch you with a girl.

 

[Dexiro]

[EDIT] Sorry double posted.

 

[Ziadaine_v1legacy]

Although you haven't answered this yet: ARE you gay?

Regardless, your dad probably looked at the pillowcase in disgust for being a Anime girl (I know my parents hate me liking Anime).

As for twilight, I dunno maybe your mom did it out of a joke knowing you hate the franchise.

Look at the game the one guy linked, and tell me if you think hes gay...

Would a gay man buy the NAUGHTY addition of a game involving busty anime women?

Quite a few actually, I know at least 3 of them.

 

[zombiesinc]

snipsnip

Lighten up kiddo. I think you're looking into this entire thing a little too much.

I could understand you getting upset if your mother made a joke about you being fat if you were, in fact, fat. As you've stated, you're not, so why let it bother you?

So, it seems you loathe Twilight. Maybe your mom doesn't know how much it bothers you when someone implies that you like it? Consider the entire situation before getting so upset about a joke. Hell, and if she does know how you feel about it, realize that she's making a joke.

As for the pink pillow... your dad probably doesn't like the idea of his son having some 'femmy' pink pillow in his room. Likely because he was raised in an age where the only acceptable thing for men to be was manly. Again, you should try to consider their point of view.

Lastly, who gives a fuck if your parents (or anyone for that matter) thinks you're gay? Are you? No? Then quit worrying about it, or about what anyone thinks about you. Be confident and comfortable with who you are.

Edit: Slighty bad parents, hey? Pfft, highly fucking doubt that.

 

[Hashime]

If your not gay, comment on some chick in front of your dad, Problem solved. If you are, comment on some girl in front of your dad, and never succumb to your other urges.

 

[sirkai007]

Move the fuck out.

Also, get a girlfriend. Get caught having sex in your parent's bed with her. That will help with the gay thing.

 

[LordWalter]

Now I've been wondering this for a while now and I think my parents think I'm gay, or there's something wrong with me. Tonight my dad had brought over my brothers stuff from my brothers old place, when he left I think he was eyeing my pink pillow case with an anime girl on it. If you must know, it is from the "Record of Agarest War" collectors edition and I only got the game for the collectors edition (I'm crazy about these things) but he was eyeing it for longer then then just looking at it, he also had a certain look on his face, almost like a look of disgust.

Now my mother, while I was in her room talking to her, a Twilight Eclipse commercial came on the TV and she said "Look *insert my name here* it's your favorite show" now...why would she say that? That's not even funny, it just...FUCK it makes me so angry, I fucking hate when people make jokes about that, it's in bad taste and not funny (I fucking hate that series) so why would she do this??? Last but not least she has made two fat jokes about me recently....and I'm not even fat.


So my question is what should I do? Should I talk to them about this or just grin and bear it and have my paranoid mind put thoughts into my head? Also what do you think of parents who judge their own kids?

Boot up "Record of Agarest War" and show your dad. Whatever else he may think of you after that, it most certainly won't be about being gay.

I mean FUCK, did he not see the fucking MOUSEPAD that came with that thing? Christ...

 

[SodaDew]

With your Dad, he was confused and your mom, she was teasing you my mom says the same thing about that crappy series to me.

 

[The Tommunist]

Put a poster of an anime girl wearing little more than underwear on your wall. If you dad looks relieved, then he was thingking gay. But if he still looks worried, then he's afraid you might have a 2D complex & will never bag a flesh & blood woman of your own. In which case, replace the poster with a real woman.

My parents called the police when I started hanging real women on my wall. In hindsight, I should have gagged them first.

Oh god, you win a cookie for making me feel better at the end of a shit day.

 

[Tdc2182]

Now my mother, while I was in her room talking to her, a Twilight Eclipse commercial came on the TV and she said "Look *insert my name here* it's your favorite show" now...why would she say that? That's not even funny, it just...FUCK it makes me so angry, I fucking hate when people make jokes about that, it's in bad taste and not funny (I fucking hate that series) so why would she do this??? Last but not least she has made two fat jokes about me recently....and I'm not even fat.

You hate your parents for this? For joking about you liking Twilight? My parents do that all the time, it's called being playful or teasing.

Also, It would be one thing if you were fat and she was making fat jokes, but seeing how you are not, its yet again called teasing.

Having a pink pillow case with anime girls on it isn't exactly what older people will understand.

This isn't a case of whether your parents think your gay, this is either a case of you being waaaay to sensitive or not being able to take a joke. Most likely a mixture of both.

 

[snide_cake]

Bring the hottest girl round that you can reasonably pull.
That will shut them up.

That's much like my idea.

Bring the hottest boy home you can pull. That'll shut them up one way or another. Plus I'd give you 93+ kudos for having the guts to make them confront the possibility that you could be gay.

 

[Trivun]

You're almost 20 ffs. Perhaps in that time you might have learned that when someone takes the piss out of you, the only way to handle it well is to brush it off and laugh along. Grow up, stop sleeping on pillowcases with anime girls on (that look of disgust was both warranted and NOTHING to do with anyone thinking you're gay - he thinks you're pathetic), and stop whining.

Personally, I think you're being extremely ignorant and nasty with that comment. Having an anime-girl pillowcase is perfectly fine and normal, it's no different to having a pillowcase or duvet cover or whatever with your favourite football team or actor or TV show or whatever on it. As far as people brushing it off when you have the piss taken out of you, it's a completely different thing when it's your own parents, and also when it seems people are doing it behind your back. I think you're the one who needs to grow up, rather than using the anonymity of the internet to take cheap shots at someone who quite frankly seems like a perfectly normal and decent person. Otherwise, your stay here won't be very long.

As far as the OP's concerns go, it seems a little like you (OP) are reading too much into it all, slightly. To be honest, though I'd probably have that pillowcase myself if I could, I dare say my friends and family would think it at the least a little odd (though since my family accept my relative geekiness, they wouldn't really judge me over it). That said, I would be a bit suspicious. Wait it out a little while, keep your eyes and ears open, and if your family do or say anything else that you think seems out of character or makes you think they reckon you're gay or weird in any way, then confront them over it then. It's a bit early to go charging in guns blazing now, but just keep an eye out and see if it all continues, and act on that...

I love it when relative newcomers such as yourself assume that just because this account is fresh I haven't been here since the .pdf days, meaning that my stay here has already outlasted yours by three years (assuming, of course, that you've only been around as long as your account has - please correct me if I'm wrong, I wouldn't assume it was the case if you hadn't already put us on that path). Perhaps if you'd been here a bit longer you'd have learned the old etiquette of reading the whole thread before responding to someone's comments on the first page. If you had, you might have read this [http://www.escapistmagazine.com/forums/read/18.205535-I-think-my-parents-might-think-Im-gay-also-I-have-bad-parents-slightly?page=2#6937755] post where you'd notice that I agree with your assessment that there is little if any difference between an anime pillowcase and a football related one (or any of the other types). It certainly isn't normal to have such things by that age, though that in itself is not enough reason to change.

I tried to find a version of the pillow available for sale on ebay but couldn't, so the main joke I was hoping to make has failed. Thought you might appreciate knowing that at least the effort was made.

Hmmmm, relative newcomer? I suppose if you've been here since 2005 then I guess you'd be justified in seeing me and others that way. Just seems a little odd for me personally to hear myself referred to as a newcomer despite the fact I'm, along with many others, apparently considered one of the more well-noticed posters here? Just saying is all, no intention of insulting you there.

Anyway, despite that I have learned that etiquette, learned it long ago, and I did read that post. I simply felt that I also wanted to put my personal view across too anyway, so apologies if it offended you, but that is genuinely what I think. As far as things being normal at 'that age', i.e. around 20 or so, I would beg to differ. I respect your opinion here but I feel there is no definite age to stop liking something you used to enjoy or could have enjoyed when you were younger, or that's aimed at kids. I had a friend in Sixth Form who, when we were 18, talking about things we enjoyed as kids, mentioned that if it wasn't for the fact that the soft inddor playcentres (you know, with the ball pits and stuff) were only for little kids and their parents, he'd love to go back to some for a while and just play around for a bit. Nostalgia, nothing more. He's now 20, and as far as I'm aware still holds that opinion. He's also one of the most mature people I know, quite religious, at university, living on his own and generally having a pretty decent adult life.

As for my own personal experience, I'm currently rewatching the entire anime of Yu-Gi-Oh! just for the ostalgia, as I used to love it as a kid. I still have Pokemon games on my DS. I have Harry Potter and Artemis Fowl on my bookshelf, alongside more adult stuff like Dan Browm, Terry Pratchett, Ian Irvine, and so on. Yet none of my friends or family have ever called me out on any of this, they seem to not mind and just let me get on with it. They know that I'm a pretty mature guy, trying to find a part-time job, living on my own at university, and so on.

So basically, at the end of the day, though I respect your opinion, I do disagree with it. Of course, that's exactly what all this is, a matter of opinion, so if you still think all this stuff is childish and immature for someone aged 20, then that's fair enough. We're all entitled to say whatever we feel, after all. Gotta love free speech and healthy debate, eh?

 

[UnravThreads]

You hate your parents for this? For joking about you liking Twilight? My parents do that all the time, it's called being playful or teasing.

Also, It would be one thing if you were fat and she was making fat jokes, but seeing how you are not, its yet again called teasing.

Having a pink pillow case with anime girls on it isn't exactly what older people will understand.

This isn't a case of whether your parents think your gay, this is either a case of you being waaaay to sensitive or not being able to take a joke. Most likely a mixture of both.

Pretty much this. They're just teasing you and poking fun, it's what parents do. The fact you've taken it to be "offensive" and them questioning your sexuality makes me wonder if you're insecure over something about yourself that you're not willing to admit to or deny. It doesn't mean you are gay, but perhaps you wonder if you are and that's why it's a sensitive subject.

I won't say anything harsh like "grow a pair" or "get a life", I'll just say you need to sit down with yourself and work out why you're so offended by these things. If you put things like your anime pillow out to be seen, then you're leaving yourself open to being mocked. If you don't want people to see it, hide it when you're not "using" it. If you don't want your mum to make Twilight jokes, then don't react to them.

P.S. I'm 20 and I have cartoon-style Star Wars bedding. Don't give a damn what others think about it, as I like it. I'm the one sleeping in that bed, not anyone else.

 

[Master Kuja]

Consider this.
My mum worries that I'm gay, as does my dad, hell, even my step-dad wonders sometimes and this has been going on for several years largely owing to the fact that they've never *seen* me in the company of a woman I'm romantically involved with, some days my mum is downright convinced I'm gay, and yet here's the little secret.

I couldn't fecking care less, I know I'm not gay, I have a girlfriend, hell, it's just playful ribbing, they're your parents, it's what they do, get over it and stop giving a shit about what other people think, you know you're not gay so why the HELL should you even be concerned that your parents think you are? You know the truth, so unless them thinking you're gay somehow miraculously makes you that way, I'd stop worrying.

Try sitting down and talking to them as well, that always helps, but seriously, it's playful ribbing, there's no need to be so offended.

 

[Packed Snack]

This has probably been posted several times now, but I can't be bothered sifting through five pages of replies.

Why does everyone have a problem with queers? I mean, you obviously aren't gay, but if your parents would have a problem with it, I'm sorry to say they're beyond pathetic -.o

Snacks, bisexual.

 

[similar.squirrel]

You're almost 20. Maybe you should be considering moving out with your beautiful pillow-cases. In any case, so what if you are gay? Are they the kind of parents who frown upon that? Because if they are, then it's their loss, not yours.

My parents take the piss out of some of my hobbies, especially gaming. You're going to have differences of opinion at some point.

 

[Jack and Calumon]

Nothing wrong with having the pillow. If you're comfortable with who you are, then it's all fine. Now, eat some cake and don't think about anything else.

Calumon: Only real men watch Anime!