Ideal partner: Smarter, dumber, or about on your level?

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EeveeElectro

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Smarter than me. Which is not exactly hard to find, I think a rock has a bigger IQ than I do.
Smart men are sexy. (Stephen Hawking? Yes please).
Personality is more important, but personality and intelligence go hand in hand.

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Zannah

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Well, I daresay I've found my ideal match, and while I consider myself to be on the smarter side of things, I by no means compare to him. But then, I am a bit on the submissive side, at least with him.
 

x0ny

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Hard to say, my gf's smarter than me in some aspects, but I'm smarter than her in other areas. Kinda like Intel vs AMD processors.
 

Palademon

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I like them the same level, that way I can just be myself without having to either dumb down or trying too hard. Plus it makes it easier for them to understand me and my thoughts.
 

Alien Mole

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I'd have to say smarter or just about the same. Actually 'just about the same, but maybe slightly smarter' or more practical (they usually are) or more socially apt would be nice (I'm not calling myself a social retard, I just tend to approach social situations as mathematical problems I solve based on experience rather than... well, social situations)

I don't think I've ever met more than one or two potential partners who were significantly 'smarter' than me purely on a brain-power basis (i.e. IQ-wise) but I do know several that I've been academically or intellectually impressed with and those tend to be the ones I fall for. I'd actually say that I use relationships as a form of self-development.
For example, my last relationship really improved my work ethic as she was significantly more driven, cultured and (I'll admit it, mature) than I, and lived up to her (quite darn amazing) potential a lot more than I did. She's not necessarily smarter than I am, but I certainly was intimidated enough to have to up the ante on my end and live up to that. It's certainly made me a better person, and it's shown me that relationships are a fantastic means (for me, at least) to actually get me to make an effort. Heavens know I need that.

But yeah, I either need to be challenged when it comes to my strong suits or complemented when it comes to my weaker ones. If there's no potential for personal growth in a relationship, I can't imagine myself avoiding boredom past the initial stages of being in love. So either smarter or just as smart but better at other things would be my answer.
 

Dexiro

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Intelligence isn't a massive factor for me but if they're too smart I might find it a little intimidating, it's not nice feeling stupid :(

I do like to have somewhat intelligent conversation occasionally too, so I wouldn't want them to be completely backwards.

So I suppose they can be smarter or dumber, as long s it's not too extreme.
 

moretimethansense

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Somwhere around my level preferably, I don't mind someone a bit less intellegent than me but I can't stand stupid, stupidity(from anyone) makes me rage hard.
As for smarter girls I find them to be very sexy, but I'd always feel like they can and should do better than me, I'm kinda insecure that way.
I'm also the naturally dominant type, but I'd rather have a submissive that's on my level intelectually, it's just my preference.

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AK47Marine

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Well that's actually an interesting question, my fiancée and I are on a similar mental level but in varying ways. She's better with sciences and math, while I'm better with verbal/written expression and what she usually sums up as just "history". So while we're both about the same mentally, excel at different things, so not matching each other beat for beat but complimenting the other's weakness with the other's strength.

So.... yeah I prefer that, not exactly in your original question OP but I think I'm close enough to the mark.
 

theevilsanta

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My significant other is smarter than me in a lot of ways. I'm smarter than her in a few ways. I prefer at least as smart. Smart girls are so much better ;). I think it's the confidence or something.
 

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Unfortunately, I do.

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I feel your pain, but alas I have a feeling that guy won't be allowed to hang out for long.
On topic I would say that what I want is a strong, independent girl sharing my ideals. about the same level og intelligence is to prefer, but I don't focus on that alone. I have a trend for dating girls thats somewhat less intelligent than me.
 

Nyerion

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I've always liked smarter women or at least in my level of intelligence.
When I get to know someone that I'm really atracted to and I discover that she is kind of dumb... well, suddenlly I don't fell the atraccion anymore.

Not that I find many people dumber than me anyway, I'm far from being a genius.
 

Zannah

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Dexiro said:
Intelligence isn't a massive factor for me but if they're too smart I might find it a little intimidating, it's not nice feeling stupid :(
Wouldn't generalize it like that - being able to rely on someone to know better, and make the decisions can be rather comforting at times :)
 

alinos

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i don't think it matters really so long as you can talk with them and there not like "um like what's a car?"
 

Smooth Operator

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I don't know really, someone alot dumber would probably infuriate me and at some point I would just go nuts.
But then on the other hand someone alot smarter would make me feel inferior and emasculated(I understand how silly it is to feel that way but it is beyond my control).

I would like someone a little smarter then me, because I like to be challenged in a conversation(that doesn't involve shoes/clothes or social drama), but I really wonder if it wouldn't be just a burden in the long run.

Once I met this girl at my university that had a somewhat photographic memory(she just remembered things really quickly) she was like a living wikipedia, she retained full knowledge of every topic she ever read, and that was extremely emasculating, I could practically feel my willy shrinking as she talked.
And in the end I didn't even want to see her ever again because she made me feel like an insignificant speck of dust.
 

ViciousMoon

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At the same level "intelligence" or higher I'd say, I can not for the life of me understand how people can live with a person for long without the mental stimulation that a good, intelligent conversation provides.

I would at least tire pretty quickly, if not immediately.
 

Elivercury

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Same or smarter. Dumb people annoy me. There is nothing worse than having to explain words and meanings of every other sentence to someone.

That and I don't really think that feelings of superiority are very healthy in a relationship.
 

Sarkule

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Roughly same level, of course.
But I wouldn't mind smarter, I just wouldn't be able to handle someone a lot less intelligent with me.
 

Astoria

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I like people at the same level as me though not necissarily knowledgable about the same things as me.
 

Hafnium

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Couldn't date a dumb woman, and I'd probably find a much smarter partner irritating (intelligent women tend to be obnoxious about it, in my opinion). So I prefer, and have already snagged, a lady of similar intellect. :)