nasteypenguin said:
Jamash said:
This sounds like premeditated revenge and makes you seem like someone who hates women and is just waiting for an excuse to punch them.
Other people have quoted you on this before but still; you were given no other information than "I would hit a women if she hit me", so what you seem to be suggesting is, if someone hit a women who has just hit them, that person must hate all women. Is that right?
I can see where you got to that conclusion; he thought of the question, that must mean he was thinking about hitting women, and maybe that means he wants to hit women but was taught by society that it was wrong, so he asked the question for confirmation that he can feel good about hitting a women if this situation came up. That's still an extremely harsh judgement of character considering the information given.
You're right, it is a bit of a harsh judgement based on the little information given, but it's precisely because of the lack of information given that gave me this impression.
When I read the OP, apart from the line about who could respond to this thread, it's basically just one sentence stating "I'd hit a woman..." I know there's slightly more to that, especially with the thread title, but that's the part that stood out to me.
It struck me as an odd statement to make, let alone make a thread for and it made me wonder what possible underlying issues would cause some to make such a statement and why they'd felt the need to create a thread in order to make that admission.
If he's added more information to his opening post, such as making it clear that it was a question he was asked by a friend and he wanted to ask the Escapist the same question, I wouldn't have got such a strange impression from that statement.
If somebody just came up to you and simply said "I'd hit a woman if she hit me", wouldn't you think it was a bit of a strange, unsolicited statement to make and perhaps question the thought processes of that person?
Also this may seem like I'm splitting hairs, but I with regards to the
"it makes you seem like you want to hit women" aspect of what I said, "seem like" is the operative phrase (as is "sounds like").
I wanted to inform him of how his short statement came across, of the immediate first impression I got when I read that statement. I wasn't really accusing him of it, rather I was was showing him a possible way such a bold statement could be interpreted.
I probably could have worded it better and less confrontationally... perhaps subconsciously I was matching like for like and responding to that bold statement with one of my own, but however clumsily I may have worded my thoughts I'm still going to stand by them and say that this is the immediate impression I got when I read that statement.
I know that probably isn't the truth of the matter, but more often than not, how things first appear to the public eye is more important than the actual truth.