If you had the choice of being in a relationship, would you?

[Amberella]

I'm in one and I wouldn't change it for the world.

 

[runnernda]

I've been single for...about a year and two-thirds. While I like being single because of the freedom and everything, it's nice to feel loved. Being single gets lonely sometimes. But my problem is I refuse to compromise my standards just to be in a relationship, and I just haven't met anyone interesting enough yet.

 

[arsenicCatnip]

Nope, I tried a relationship for relationship's sake, and it was doomed to failure. She was the one who left me, but I shouldn't have pretended to feel something for her in the first place.

If there was a genuine connection though, why not? It'd be nice to experience the real thing before making a judgement.

Pretty much this. I was dating someone simply because she wanted a relationship with me. It was horrible, she made me miserable, and I ended up alienating a lot of people who I cared about and who cared about me when the whole mess ended.

However, given the choice to let the relationship develop normally and slowly, well. I'm in a very happy relationship. We met, became friends, and things just happened between us. This time next month, I'll be cooking him dinner for his birthday in our shared home.

I'm happier when I can be with someone, but it has to be the right someone, and the connection has to be more than just physical. Sharing an evening just talking with someone is the best part of a relationship.

 

[quantum mechanic]

...Eventually, yes. Right now, I don't have the time to commit to someone.

 

[Shroomhell]

If the person I were to enter into a relationship with was intuitive and intelligent I would gladly associate with them. especially if they didn't share some of my viewpoints. I believe there is no activity more fulfilling than a conversation where you can actually learn something.

 

[AvsJoe]

I generally enjoy being single more than being in a relationship but I'm getting bored. I really should find someone I can date sometime soon. So to answer the question: yes, I would choose to be in a relationship, provided that it's with someone I care about and with whom I can have a good time.

 

[2xDouble]

No.

I don't want to be in a relationship, I think love is worthless.

EDIT: To add reason:

Relationships always in end, in death, break ups, or divorce (anyone who knows where it's from will get a high-five and a cupcake), and it will usually end in tears.

And it's expensive, and I'm a cheap bastard.

In the words of the late, great Mitch Hedberg (bear with me, he rambles a bit): I like red wine. My friends ask me, "red wine? doesn't that give you a headache?". And I'm like, "Yeah, at the end. But the beginning and middle parts are amazing." I don't decide what I'm going to do because of what's going to happen at the end... "Do you want an apple?", "No, eventually it will be a core."

I'm sure there's probably a video on youtube somewhere, but... 12 second rule. (If I can't find it in 12 or less seconds of searching youtube, I no longer care).

OT: After reading this thread I notice there's an interesting divide between the romantics and the cynics. (I believe the exact thought was 'DAAAMN! I thought I was cynical...') Maybe someone should do a study. Perhaps we could set up a chart on romanticism vs how many and how many bad romances the participants have been in... (ramble, ramble)

Actually OT: If it was my choice, I suppose I'd choose to be in a good (key word) romantic relationship.

 

[SilverUchiha]

Sadly, it is very rarely every my choice. I'm usually the one on the stand having to do my best to win the attention of a girl so I can waste a couple of her hours before she decides to dump me for reasons that far exceed my mental understanding due to their lack of existence. It as at that point, I reflect back on the time with her. All the effort, money, and time wasted to end up broken and alone again. It's not so much the rejection that hurts. It's the fact that I can do everything right and still fuck up somehow, whether I know I fucked up or not. That... and merely being alone again. Thinking you found someone who gets you and they leave you. Leaving you alone and that sucks just as much.

In short, if given the choice, I'd love to be in a relationship. Hell, I'm hoping to meet someone again soon or get back together with someone who realizes leaving me was a mistake (at this point, only one of the three exes is someone I'd even consider getting back with if the chance occurred). But my personality, looks, and general attitude towards mankind as a whole makes that rather difficult. Bit of a paradox. I wish to be in a relationship but I have a general dislike for the average person. Haha!

 

['The Eel']

Yes, definitely. So lonely...

 

[no one really]

Not right now. I got little spare time for a couple of years.

 

[DoomyMcDoom]

I guess i wouldn't mind, though it would most likely end in a disaster like my last ones... my most successful relationship lasted 4 days... and i was dumped in a message over facebook...
other than that i have yet to get past 3 sentances before the woman in question decides to go find someone else like right away...

of course i turned my failures into a game of how fast can i turn someone away... my record for fastest social dismissal was in number of words 4..."hi, i eat babies"
other than that... it has been a long road of rejections and failures... i don't "feel" the same way most people do... my emotions are pretty damaged from the medication i was forced to take when i was younger... when your psychologist starts mixing antidepressants and sedatives and such... please, for your own sake question their methods... and be careful...

 

[CRoone]

Yeah, I'd like to have one...but I want to wait until I have a better job, with a better paycheck and benefits package.

I'm going to be waiting a while, I think...*sigh*

 

[Jedoro]

I'd love to, if we were attracted to each other. It's always been nice being in a relationship, having someone that you mutually cared about to that degree.

 

[RicoADF]

A question posed to the community at large. Hopefully I have made it a topic that does not promote such comments like: "Never been in one, FML." I see a lot of people on this website who reject relationships entirely, and while some people have genuine reasons as to why they do not, others, I suspect, simply fall into this category because they have not had success with those who they would wish to pursue romantically or sexually. I am not here to judge, and I am not here to debate the merits of a relationship. And, to add an element of complexity, do not view this from a purely sexual viewpoint, view it also as having a companion. So, as the title states, if you had the choice of being in a relationship, would you?

In one and wouldn't want it any other way.

 

[SimuLord]

I'm single now, but if the right girl came along I would absolutely love the opportunity to build a relationship with her. Being alone and having plenty of freedom has its perks, but there's nothing quite like being able to share myself with someone who is my lover, my best friend, and my biggest cheerleader all in one...and for me to be the same to her.

 

[Socius]

I am in a relationship, and during the last 5 years I have never been single for more than 3 months in a row so I suppose I have to say: yes.

 

[thom_cat_]

Yes. Only if I liked the person.

 

[ShadowsofHope]

Yes. Only if I liked the person.

I shall echo this good sir.

Also, there must be delicious cookies involved. I will not take no for an answer!

That is all.