I'm feeling pretty empty right now...
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Ok, first off, regarding the self doubt; one of my favourite quotes from House M.D. is "how's self doubt going to help you when you're right?".
For the most part, things have never really gone my way either, but I'm pretty much just coming out of a long period of depression, and it wasn't that long ago that I was in school, so I can pretty much relate to your situation.
summerof2010's suggestion of just fooling around with someone is a terrible idea (not that I've done it myself, so I'm not talking from experience here). Firstly, it would probably be very unfair to whoever it would be. Secondly, it would be clear that you wouldn't really want it, even if only to yourself, because you'd rather be with the girl you said tore you a new one. Regarding the love aspect of your depression; it took me a long time to learn that there's so much more in life than love, and that love is only part of an entirety. Also, based on what you've said, it seems fairly clear that she's, at least currently, not a great person. It's quite likely that, since she likes the biggest douchebag there, she won't really be a great person for a while. Maybe I'm wrong about that, though.
Regarding public humiliation, you pretty much just have to hang around with friends in a place where the annoying people don't go very often. In lessons, though, it's really just a matter of trying to get on with the work. For dealing with bullies, a lot of people say to just ignore them, but that never actually works in practice. It's just school, though, and the important things about school are the people you make friends with and the things you learn. Any effort towards preventing bullying ends negatively (I think).
Even if there's just one sentence there that helps, I'll be happy. My school experience was terrible, and I'm glad to be out of it with most things I consider important intact.
For the most part, things have never really gone my way either, but I'm pretty much just coming out of a long period of depression, and it wasn't that long ago that I was in school, so I can pretty much relate to your situation.
summerof2010's suggestion of just fooling around with someone is a terrible idea (not that I've done it myself, so I'm not talking from experience here). Firstly, it would probably be very unfair to whoever it would be. Secondly, it would be clear that you wouldn't really want it, even if only to yourself, because you'd rather be with the girl you said tore you a new one. Regarding the love aspect of your depression; it took me a long time to learn that there's so much more in life than love, and that love is only part of an entirety. Also, based on what you've said, it seems fairly clear that she's, at least currently, not a great person. It's quite likely that, since she likes the biggest douchebag there, she won't really be a great person for a while. Maybe I'm wrong about that, though.
Regarding public humiliation, you pretty much just have to hang around with friends in a place where the annoying people don't go very often. In lessons, though, it's really just a matter of trying to get on with the work. For dealing with bullies, a lot of people say to just ignore them, but that never actually works in practice. It's just school, though, and the important things about school are the people you make friends with and the things you learn. Any effort towards preventing bullying ends negatively (I think).
Even if there's just one sentence there that helps, I'll be happy. My school experience was terrible, and I'm glad to be out of it with most things I consider important intact.
Sorry, where I live it's just really, really, REALLY common. I live in Canada B.C. which is considered the weed capital of Canada (16% of people smoke weed on a regular basis).kingcom said:
Man, what is up with the Escapist today? Let's have a look at the Popular Topics, shall we? (A highlight reel, if you will)
Ever Been Caught? [Masturbating? No, seriously. That's what that thread is about]
Crossdressing-Ever Done It?
At What Age Did You Lose Your Virginity?
I'm Feeling Pretty Empty Right Now....
Seriously, I feel like it's only a matter of time until someone starts asking about Furries and favorite types of porn again...*shivers*
*Ahem* More on topic, though...Pssh, I don't know, boobs and kittens?
Ever Been Caught? [Masturbating? No, seriously. That's what that thread is about]
Crossdressing-Ever Done It?
At What Age Did You Lose Your Virginity?
I'm Feeling Pretty Empty Right Now....
Seriously, I feel like it's only a matter of time until someone starts asking about Furries and favorite types of porn again...*shivers*
*Ahem* More on topic, though...Pssh, I don't know, boobs and kittens?
I suffer from depression, and I used to suffer from self loathing. Now it's loathing of others, (I group most people into the above aversion below tolerable category) and the way I deal with it is I learned to enjoy the pain, and my advice to you is don't be like me please! just find someone you trust and ***** their ear off, and remember what ever happened. In 5 years no one's gonna remember or give a damn
Wait it out. Things have a weird way of sorting themselves out. I just went through some of the worst months of my life. My grandpa died, the people I was going to get an apartment with decided to start acting like total dicks to me, and the only real friend I had in town moved out. For a few months, I had absolutely no one I could talk to about any of this, and I'd spend all day in my room playing games. Out of absolutely nowhere, I met some really awesome people, including my current girlfriend. It almost instantly became some of the best months of my life, and I had no idea it was about to happen.
I suppose what I'm trying to say here is that things will eventually turn around if you give them time. It's not as much a matter of actively changing your life as is it of waiting for the inevitable hard times to blow over.
I suppose what I'm trying to say here is that things will eventually turn around if you give them time. It's not as much a matter of actively changing your life as is it of waiting for the inevitable hard times to blow over.
Brightly colored candies? Or a book with a tragic ending might help... To maybe convince you that shit could be worse. Unless it can't get worse.
Due to my general invisibility people don't tend to notice me enough to make fun of me, but marshmallows tend to make me feel better when things take a turn for the worse at school.
All fluffy, and white, and explodable....
Due to my general invisibility people don't tend to notice me enough to make fun of me, but marshmallows tend to make me feel better when things take a turn for the worse at school.
All fluffy, and white, and explodable....
If you're being bullied, go to someone for help. Maybe try to see if you can talk about it with a police officer, if you can? Not to cause trouble for the other person, but to have someone talk you through dealing with the problem.
Spend some time out in the sun, it does wonders.
Also, there are plenty of girls better than the one who was a jerk to you. The reason I know that is because she verbally attacked you (or whatever) because you showed her affection.
Humiliation will pass. People will forget about it faster than you think.
Also, there are plenty of girls better than the one who was a jerk to you. The reason I know that is because she verbally attacked you (or whatever) because you showed her affection.
Humiliation will pass. People will forget about it faster than you think.
Might I be so bold as to recommend excercise? I used to be really inactive and felt depressed ALOT!!! When I feel down, I grab a weighted back pack (normally around 40lbs) and go for a hike. Push yourself to go as long as you can when you do this and you will feel even more accomplished when you're done. Also, drink plenty of water when you do. I've learned this helps relieve tension and gives you plenty of alone time to either think of nothing or focus on your problems. If you want noise, talk on a cell phone to a nonstressing friend, listen to music...whatever helps you really. And, no, I didn't mean this as an elaborate "take a hike" joke before anyone tries twisting it into that.
You'll feel better if you solve your problems.
I was chronically depressed some week ago. I felt everything was hopeless and things didn't matter, no matter what I would do. And this life was my only chance of living.
How I solved it, was listening to some advice from my mother, listening to songs (Don't Fear the Reaper) and accepting that this life is a weird enough thing as it is. I don't even know why there's air around me for breathing and getting my brain to work and shit... I mean, what's the reason for all that technicality?
It's so confusing I'm just going to say fuck it and use what I've gotten so generously.
How do you think you'll solve YOUR problems? Think about it.
I was chronically depressed some week ago. I felt everything was hopeless and things didn't matter, no matter what I would do. And this life was my only chance of living.
How I solved it, was listening to some advice from my mother, listening to songs (Don't Fear the Reaper) and accepting that this life is a weird enough thing as it is. I don't even know why there's air around me for breathing and getting my brain to work and shit... I mean, what's the reason for all that technicality?
It's so confusing I'm just going to say fuck it and use what I've gotten so generously.
How do you think you'll solve YOUR problems? Think about it.
I've seen you state this a few times and would just like to say that I think you're doing a good job...unless you're starting a cult (you're not, are you?) Also, if anybody wants someone to talk to, I'll try my best, just let me know.marter said:I can be your friend if you want me to. I'm always up for listening to people and trying to help them.Skobvs said:I wish I had a friend as good as you.marter said:If you need to talk, I will listen to you. That may be all I can do for you, but sometimes that can help you feel better.
I hope everything turns around for you.
OP, things may look down, but just remember, there is people like @marter who will listen and that is all you need sometimes!
I'll tell you exactly what NOT to do: don't fixate on your depression or do obviously out-of-character things to fix it.
Sure, it helps to get things off your chest, but repeatedly "talking it out" will invariably lead to ingrained negative thought patterns that only reinforce the depression.
Yes, doing overtly cheery things you wouldn't normally do, like walking on the beach (or whatever), provides some temporary relief, but the depression will return when you resume your normal day-to-day ritual.
Instead, do something creative. Everyone has some talent, so pick it up or figure it out and spend your free time practicing it. Engage your mind with something productive, fun, and hopefully self-improving. This does wonders for your confidence and self-esteem because no one can ever take it away from you. No matter what they say at school or how that cute girl might treat you, none of them have the power to prevent you from writing, painting, singing, etc. In the end, you'll have an ability others will admire, and that admiration will draw them to you.
Some of them might be cute girls, too.
Sure, it helps to get things off your chest, but repeatedly "talking it out" will invariably lead to ingrained negative thought patterns that only reinforce the depression.
Yes, doing overtly cheery things you wouldn't normally do, like walking on the beach (or whatever), provides some temporary relief, but the depression will return when you resume your normal day-to-day ritual.
Instead, do something creative. Everyone has some talent, so pick it up or figure it out and spend your free time practicing it. Engage your mind with something productive, fun, and hopefully self-improving. This does wonders for your confidence and self-esteem because no one can ever take it away from you. No matter what they say at school or how that cute girl might treat you, none of them have the power to prevent you from writing, painting, singing, etc. In the end, you'll have an ability others will admire, and that admiration will draw them to you.
Some of them might be cute girls, too.
Oh you can't be that empty! Just do what I do when I'm feeling sad! Remember that it can and will always get worse. Repeat this every time something bad happens and you'll be right as rain!
(Optimism is the deterrent of happiness!)
(Optimism is the deterrent of happiness!)
Dude, I went through a major bout of depression recently. Ya wanna know the cure? It's gonna sound corny and preachy, but go help someone else solve a problem they're having. It's better than medication, self-gratification, or pity parties. I was thinking I was gonna need serious meds because everything I loved doing just felt like a bucket of bleah and used hypodermic needles. What got me out of it? I was walking across my college campus at the end of last semester and I saw a girl that had been in one of my classes. We talked, and I found out she didn't have the textbook for the next semester. I pulled my textbook out of my backpack and gave it to her, and BAM! depression was gone! Then I worked a shift for a guy so he could go see his sister's new baby, and it was like the difference between night and day.
Seriously, if you're feeling empty, get off your duffer and go make someone's day. it will make yours too.
Seriously, if you're feeling empty, get off your duffer and go make someone's day. it will make yours too.