AdeptaSororitas said:
I will take a rather dangerous leap and state my preference. I prefer white men and women. And no not "average Caucasian" no, I mean white, Gothic white, never seen the freakin' sun white, Christina Hendrecks looks tanned white.
Doing fine so far.
I'm not sure why, to me it is an unconscious symbol of purity and depth. It also really goes excellent with red hair, dark hair and green eyes.
And here's your problem.
I've been trying to re-read it several times to see if I'm getting it wrong. But every time I read it, it sounds like you're equating white skin to purity, or at least you're reminded of purity when you see white skin. I will simply not comment on that any further until I get that clarified because it wouldn't be fair to anyone if I did.
Personally, while in extreme cases I can find white women attractive on a purely physical scale, I usually don't. I see it so much that it gets boring. In fact, that's how my attraction usually works. I want something new. I've seen people of my race all my life. Ok. been there, done that. I've been drowning with White people. What else is out there?
Now, the rub is that I'm apart of a culture that white people vastly make the number of. So, while I'm not usually physically attracted to the girls I end up liking, I just happen to like them because their personalities are amazing and being just friends is not an option for me. It tends to hurt when someone says 'Wow, you do have a great personality. But you just happen to fall under a group of those I don't find desirable. If only you were a white guy'
And yes, I've had that real discussion plenty o' times.
Now, as one of the only token ethnic geeks who has admitted being so in this thread, I'll hazard what a few of my other token geek friends and I have discussed with our white geek friends when we talked about this; We're already seen as a skin color. I'm six foot two, I'm a personal trainer by trade, and I'm black. Also, I can out game most in any form of Warhammer, I collect video game trivia like it was the only way to keep me alive, and I'm a Browncoat for life. People have a hard time connecting the two.
And that's just regular people. I couldn't give two licks about them. But it's my own culture that still treats me like a leper. I can't tell you how many geek homes I've walked into and had to prove my geekdom because 'I didn't look the part'. That gets tiring. And, you know, you might want to have a mate with your similar interests. That's always nice. But alas, most white geeks either look for other white geeks or asians because they are the acceptable exotic.
I'm proud of my geekdom. Is it really that much to be seen as a geek first and everything else last?
