I'm jealous.

[Fetzenfisch]

If you would trust her, you would have no reason to be worried. Also you already did go to far, if she found out about your trickery and testing she probably would leave you with good reason.
She has every right to talk to everyone she wants to, or to go out with friends without you, yes even male ones.

I do trust her, really.

No you don't.
You made a fake facebook page to try and seduce her, and you don't want her to talk to other guys or go out without you.
You don't trust her at all. If you did, you wouldn't act like a possessive lunatic.

I get that you don't like being lied to.
I would even get that you like her so very much that you're just worried that you dn't know what you'd do without her.

But I don't like being lied to either, and if my wife died or left me my life would be utterly destroyed, but she can go out with her friends as she sees fit, and talk to all her guy friends that she wants. That is because I actually trust her.

You evidently have serious trust issues that need to me worked out.
I know you posted a 'Thanks, you guys are right' post not too far up this page, but this really needed to be said again.
You're extremely possessive. Get help for that.
If you don't, this could damage this relationship and all others that follow it.

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Has to be said again. If you cant cope with that, you are probably not able to be part of a relationship.

 

[RIOgreatescapist]

Congratulations bra, you're a man.
Btw the one where she instantly told another guy (you) to bugger off respect, thats keeper material loyalty wise.

 

[Hanzo Hattori]

I do trust her, really.

No you don't.
You made a fake facebook page to try and seduce her, and you don't want her to talk to other guys or go out without you.
You don't trust her at all. If you did, you wouldn't act like a possessive lunatic.

I get that you don't like being lied to.
I would even get that you like her so very much that you're just worried that you dn't know what you'd do without her.

But I don't like being lied to either, and if my wife died or left me my life would be utterly destroyed, but she can go out with her friends as she sees fit, and talk to all her guy friends that she wants. That is because I actually trust her.

You evidently have serious trust issues that need to me worked out.
I know you posted a 'Thanks, you guys are right' post not too far up this page, but this really needed to be said again.
You're extremely possessive. Get help for that.
If you don't, this could damage this relationship and all others that follow it.

Don't get me wrong dude, I REALLY trust her. Maybe the kind of how I said wasn't quite the right one.
Yeah the facebook one was a fault, it was months ago, it was even before we were together, like a week or something... and I really don't care if she talks to other guys in a normal way, but I hate her ex friend for example. He doesn't really want her back, he just wants to bang her.

Once we were out just as usual, lil dancing and stuff, when her pathetic ex comes over and grabs her ass.
Well one of my mates instantly broke his nose, but still, what am I supposed to do? Talk about that?

That's why I trust HER, but I dont fucking trust other guys. She can't do anything about it when someone suddenly tries to "touch" her, still it's making me insane.

Luckily this only happened once.

 

[Thundero13]

If you really love her then you have to accept that she'll talk to other people who make up 49% of the population.

 

[teisjm]

Heres how it goes.

here are 2 possible scenarios, one assumes that she's gonna stay faithfull to you, and the other that she don't

A) A loyal girlfriend who will not cheat on you, whether or not you're there to keep an eye on her. If you are openly jealous, and tries to controll stuff, she'd prolly be annoyed with you, if you're trying to restrict her from having a life of her own, including doing things without you, she's gonna be sick of feelign constrained sooner or later.
But in this scenario, she's faithfull, and you shouldn't worry about loosing her to other guys, but worry about loosing her to your own jealousy.

B) She's a cheating skank (sorry, but thats how i feel about cheating, goes for guys too)
She doesn't give a shit about whether or not you're in a commitet relationship, and fucks around anyways. The more you try to get in her way, the more justified she'll feel, cause when some handsome dude i hitingon her, all she remembers you as, is like a prison guard, trying to prevent her form having a social life or anything.
In this scenario, she'll cheat on you regardless of whether you watch over her or not. So given that she will fuck around, wouldn't you rather know sooner than later? If she's a cheating skank, i'd personally owuld liek to find out ASAP so i could tell her to GTFO, and then get over beeing dumb enough to fall for such a woman.

The point is, that in both scenarios, it speaks to you and your girlfriend and your relationships advantage, that you forget about that jealousy, and if you can't do that, at least acknowledge that it won't do ou any good, and try to hide it, OR tell her about it, and tell her that you don't want t feelthat way, and that you know it's unjustified and that she is beeing told so she knows why you act strange sometimes, and if she would be kind enough to bear over with it, and not think it has anything to do with you not trusting her.

 

[KindOfnElf]

I am everything opposite of jealous. It hurts me mindless when I am lied or cheated on, but I am never jealous cause I have different concept for things. I believe that if you really love someone you accept everything about that person, flaws and virtues all the same. I believe in unconditional love and giving absolute freedom to the one I love, wouldn't restrict him anyhow. Problem is not everyone can handle this freedom cause people actually do want to make jealous scenes for them, it makes them feel wanted.
So no, jealousy is not my thing, and I hope you work your own jealousy out, cause really, it's only you that is hurt all the time, you are giving yourself really hard times.

 

[Cain_Zeros]

You seem fairly insecure, and maybe a little of the possessive side. She's probably not gonna up and leave you for some other guy. Us telling you that probably won't change your mind any, but worth a shot.

 

[Baby Tea]

Once we were out just as usual, lil dancing and stuff, when her pathetic ex comes over and grabs her ass.
Well one of my mates instantly broke his nose, but still, what am I supposed to do? Talk about that?

Well you busted the guys nose, what else is there?
It wasn't her fault that it happened.
She didn't provoke him, right?
She didn't flirt with him to make him think it was OK, right?

So why harp on her for another guy being a dick?
You don't have to trust other guys, but you do have to trust that she'll act accordingly.
If your friend wasn't there, would she have told him off?
I know that my wife would have slapped that guy 'till the middle of next week (Then I would have busted his nose). But I wouldn't dream of being obsessive over her for that. It was the guy, not her.

And, on top of everything else, she's an adult. She's a person. Even as her loving husband, I don't have the right to tell her who she can't see, or when she can and can't go out. I can tell her how I feel about certain jerks, but she's her own person. She's not my person.

So that goes same for you and your girlfriend.

 

[Ace of Spades]

The most important thing you can learn about relationships is never to test the beloved. It's better to be thought a sucker than overly paranoid. You need to quash this feeling so it doesn't jeopardize your relationship.

 

[Kevin Hyena]

One could say jealously is just a bad side effect of true love. But Relationships tend to get really messed up that way. Irony, no?

 

[The Man With the Soap]

Please explain to me why I should care?

Because you dont have to post or look here.

Anyways id say OP should take it easy, its rather unfair that you question her trust and faith to you, when she appears to be faithful.

Oh, come now. I have seen you post on many "relationship threads" stating that you "don't care" and that "people need to stop making relationship threads." You are not one to talk, sir.

Please explain to me why I should care?

Chill dude, why so hostile?

I'm not hostile. I merely posed the question as to why I should care about the relationship predicaments of a person I neither know, nor will ever see.

 

[CarpathianMuffin]

Just believe that she's happy in her relationship with you. I suffer through paranoia like that, but I don't really believe any of it, and I've learned to let those thoughts just drift away. It takes some practice, but it does a lot of good.

 

[Bruin]

It's trust.

You obviously don't trust her if you spy on her with a fake Facebook account.

Added to the fact that you have unfounded fears about these things.

I'd say she's probably not been very loyal to past partners and this is coming to bite you in the ass now, or that she's just more of a "free spirit" when it comes to staying with one partner for satisfaction of the numerous kinds.

Or I could be wrong.

But I always bet on me.

 

[fgdfgdgd]

Aussie answer: Take some concrete and harden the fuck up.

Self loathing answer: It's just natural to mistrust others.

Optomistic answer: No need to worry.

Paranoid answer: Just keep an ear to the ground, nothing more though.

Conservative answer: Just smile and pretend that suspicion and paranoia aren't tearing you up inside.

Ork answer: Kill 'em for te lootz and smash 'em ta bitz.

I've just been awake for three days and feel like death answer: Meh, shit happens.

 

[Syrus Vikeruce]

Eh been there before and fucking hated it but that's where the trust aspect of the relationship comes in. If you can't trust her it ain't worth squat in my opinion.