I'm not doing so well.

[Jaranja]

I feel like I have nothing to live for. I feel like I don't have a future. I have no aspirations or motivation for anything. Almost all the joy in my life is gone. I don't get satisfaction out of games anymore and I feel like I'm just drifting through life.

I had something similar to this about a year ago for a few years and it's come back since my girlfriend dumped me.

Give me some advice.

 

[DefunctTheory]

The very definition of clinical depression.

I would suggest professional help, or to go live with your parents. As a safety precaution.

 

[Jaranja]

I do live with my parents; I'm 17.

 

[The Human Torch]

Get professional help. Depressions can be dangerous if left untreated.

 

[Mcupobob]

See a therapist. I know how you feel. I've been there before thinking about holding a gun to your head and just ending it. Shes nowhere near worth it though. You have a whole life ahead of you, and while right now that doesn't seem to be a positive. Its always nice to think about a better future. To just always hope for the best. It also wouldn't hurt to turn to the ones that care about you the most. Just know that someone cares really helps. Good luck!

 

[Jaranja]

See a therapist. I know how you feel. I've been there before thinking about holding a gun to your head and just ending it. Shes nowhere near worth it though. You have a whole life ahead of you, and while right now that doesn't seem to be a positive. Its always nice to think about a better future. To just always hope for the best. It also wouldn't hurt to turn to the ones that care about you the most. Just know that someone cares really helps. Good luck!

I know that, I talk to my best friend all day.

I see what you're saying but... She does seem worth it. We planned to live together and everything and, now that this is happening, I wont get my qualifications, which makes it near impossible to get a job so I'll live with my mother for a long while and I don't like living here. I just want out.

 

[The Human Torch]

See a therapist. I know how you feel. I've been there before thinking about holding a gun to your head and just ending it. Shes nowhere near worth it though. You have a whole life ahead of you, and while right now that doesn't seem to be a positive. Its always nice to think about a better future. To just always hope for the best. It also wouldn't hurt to turn to the ones that care about you the most. Just know that someone cares really helps. Good luck!

I know that, I talk to my best friend all day.

I see what you're saying but... She does seem worth it. We planned to live together and everything and, now that this is happening, I wont get my qualifications, which makes it near impossible to get a job so I'll live with my mother for a long while and I don't like living here. I just want out.

Women come and go, and it's not worth throwing your life away just for another human being. Yes, she may have appeared to you as your only shot at true happiness, especially if she 'rescued' you from a depression, but she is not the beginning or the end of your world.

I love my girlfriend, love her to death, and we make every day the best we can. HOWEVER: if for some reason the relationship ends, I will not throw myself in front of a train, there will be others worthy of my affection. Life does not end with the relationship.

Like I said, you are depressed, you need help. I had some therapy myself when I was 16 years old, I was dealing with major self-confidence issues since I got teased a lot. I was a bit ashamed to accept the help, but looking back, it's probably the smartest thing I ever did, since I would have never been able to deal with my personal issues myself.

Get help, get happy, get a life.

 

[Jaranja]

See a therapist. I know how you feel. I've been there before thinking about holding a gun to your head and just ending it. Shes nowhere near worth it though. You have a whole life ahead of you, and while right now that doesn't seem to be a positive. Its always nice to think about a better future. To just always hope for the best. It also wouldn't hurt to turn to the ones that care about you the most. Just know that someone cares really helps. Good luck!

I know that, I talk to my best friend all day.

I see what you're saying but... She does seem worth it. We planned to live together and everything and, now that this is happening, I wont get my qualifications, which makes it near impossible to get a job so I'll live with my mother for a long while and I don't like living here. I just want out.

Women come and go, and it's not worth throwing your life away just for another human being. Yes, she may have appeared to you as your only shot at true happiness, especially if she 'rescued' you from a depression, but she is not the beginning or the end of your world.

I love my girlfriend, love her to death, and we make every day the best we can. HOWEVER: if for some reason the relationship ends, I will not throw myself in front of a train, there will be others worthy of my affection. Life does not end with the relationship.

Like I said, you are depressed, you need help. I had some therapy myself when I was 16 years old, I was dealing with major self-confidence issues since I got teased a lot. I was a bit ashamed to accept the help, but looking back, it's probably the smartest thing I ever did, since I would have never been able to deal with my personal issues myself.

Get help, get happy, get a life.

I got help for years before I met her and it wouldn't work. It'd seem to work but then I'd just become depressed again.

I guess I was just being naive in thinking it would be a long term thing with her.

 

[Elamdri]

I feel like I have nothing to live for. I feel like I don't have a future. I have no aspirations or motivation for anything. Almost all the joy in my life is gone. I don't get satisfaction out of games anymore and I feel like I'm just drifting through life.

I had something similar to this about a year ago for a few years and it's come back since my girlfriend dumped me.

Give me some advice.

Go talk to a Psychiatrist, in all likelihood you are suffering from depression. I've been there, It sucks I know, but you need to nip it in the bud or you're just going to get worse. You don't want to be like me and hit rock bottom before you realize you need help, because the climb back up is no fun.

Talk to your parents and get them to find someone to help you. Being a teenager is tough enough as it is, don't make it harder for yourself by not taking care of yourself.

 

[Jaranja]

I feel like I have nothing to live for. I feel like I don't have a future. I have no aspirations or motivation for anything. Almost all the joy in my life is gone. I don't get satisfaction out of games anymore and I feel like I'm just drifting through life.

I had something similar to this about a year ago for a few years and it's come back since my girlfriend dumped me.

Give me some advice.

Go talk to a Psychiatrist, in all likelihood you are suffering from depression. I've been there, It sucks I know, but you need to nip it in the bud or you're just going to get worse. You don't want to be like me and hit rock bottom before you realize you need help, because the climb back up is no fun.

Talk to your parents and get them to find someone to help you. Being a teenager is tough enough as it is, don't make it harder for yourself by not taking care of yourself.

Parent* (My Dad died a few years back)

I've seen therapists before. Read above comment, by me.

 

[Elamdri]

Parent* (My Dad died a few years back)

Been there man, happened when I was 15. Sorry for your loss.

I've seen therapists before. Read above comment, by me.

Yeah, I was writing my post when you posted that. I still say you need help, even if you don't think it works.

I've been through just about everything you've been through. I've seen 4 different doctors, I've been on multiple medicines. I've tried to hurt myself before. I've had relapses after breakups.

The big thing is you gotta keep at it, even if it doesn't feel like it's working. It's easy to defeat yourself when you're depressed. Giving up on trying to get better isn't going to fix anything. I have faith you can do it.

 

[The Human Torch]

See a therapist. I know how you feel. I've been there before thinking about holding a gun to your head and just ending it. Shes nowhere near worth it though. You have a whole life ahead of you, and while right now that doesn't seem to be a positive. Its always nice to think about a better future. To just always hope for the best. It also wouldn't hurt to turn to the ones that care about you the most. Just know that someone cares really helps. Good luck!

I know that, I talk to my best friend all day.

I see what you're saying but... She does seem worth it. We planned to live together and everything and, now that this is happening, I wont get my qualifications, which makes it near impossible to get a job so I'll live with my mother for a long while and I don't like living here. I just want out.

Women come and go, and it's not worth throwing your life away just for another human being. Yes, she may have appeared to you as your only shot at true happiness, especially if she 'rescued' you from a depression, but she is not the beginning or the end of your world.

I love my girlfriend, love her to death, and we make every day the best we can. HOWEVER: if for some reason the relationship ends, I will not throw myself in front of a train, there will be others worthy of my affection. Life does not end with the relationship.

Like I said, you are depressed, you need help. I had some therapy myself when I was 16 years old, I was dealing with major self-confidence issues since I got teased a lot. I was a bit ashamed to accept the help, but looking back, it's probably the smartest thing I ever did, since I would have never been able to deal with my personal issues myself.

Get help, get happy, get a life.

I got help for years before I met her and it wouldn't work. It'd seem to work but then I'd just become depressed again.

I guess I was just being naive in thinking it would be a long term thing with her.

No, it was just human. Some relationships will last forever, and others only a few months. You cannot predict such things. If it's meant to be, than it's meant to be.

You cannot do anything but be yourself in a relationship, and that is either good enough for a girl or it is not. Don't think too dramatically about this, just go with the flow, even if the flow is going down the drain.

 

[Mcupobob]

See a therapist. I know how you feel. I've been there before thinking about holding a gun to your head and just ending it. Shes nowhere near worth it though. You have a whole life ahead of you, and while right now that doesn't seem to be a positive. Its always nice to think about a better future. To just always hope for the best. It also wouldn't hurt to turn to the ones that care about you the most. Just know that someone cares really helps. Good luck!

I know that, I talk to my best friend all day.

I see what you're saying but... She does seem worth it. We planned to live together and everything and, now that this is happening, I wont get my qualifications, which makes it near impossible to get a job so I'll live with my mother for a long while and I don't like living here. I just want out.

I know how you feel. Was getting ready to move to whole new state for a girl then she dumps me over skype in a super bitchy way. All you can do is take your licks and keep moving on. YOU have to decide right now if its worth it keep yourself down. About two years ago, my whole life was shit hell right now its shit. I was looking at the gun in my closet that I take to go shooting, it just stared at it for about an hour and kept thinking how easy it would be. Then I thought about what I might be giving up. A chance to see the world, find love, live out a dream, or simple make a difference in someones life. Not to mention your family, friends.

Look like I said, its hard to look to the future when life just keeps wanting to kick you down. But believe me even after things went from amazing to even worst, I still don't regret any of it. Because there will be other girls, there will be other chances. Giving up right now, you won't ever see them. You may need Anti depressants or you may even need to hit rock bottom and climb back up just know you can do it. You may need to just take a step back and try to figure out what you want form life and how you can get. Whatever the case, don't stop trying to strive for your happiness. Because it will come and it will be worth it and all those ups and downs in between your goals is just another notch to add to your belt and with each one you go through, you can look back and be proud of your victories and aware of your mistakes. Do what you need to do for you.

 

[Erana]

Now personally, I like to view depression and chronic anxiety as a symptom for something else. (Yes, there's just depression, but soooo many things can cause it, its good to be thorough) Are you eating right? Getting enough sleep? Getting some exercise? Are you having any health or physical quirks? Take note of anything abnormal and get it checked out.

Also, why don't you have any aspirations for the future? Does nothing appeal to you? Feel like everything's out of reach?

 

[kaintehdragoon]

Please don't end it all. That would be very tragic. While you may not think so, you are a valuable human being. You have amazing potential, you just need to realize it. There is some point in your future that will define your life. Don't miss out on it.

In the mean time, live for yourself. Develop your interests and go out and meet people. I had a similar experience about drifting through life and I decided to turn things around. I focused on improving myself (weight loss) and I made little goals. When I finished, I felt on top of the world.

Enjoy the small things in life. There is a lot of bad stuff in our world that will get you down. Don't let it get to you and take time to appreciate everything you have, even if it's something silly like your shampoo (this works for me, mmmmm pomegranate shampoo <3)

If you need to chat with someone, feel free to pm me and I'll be here for you.

 

[Goofguy]

Apart of getting professional help, I recommend surrounding yourself with people who genuinely care about you and that you care deeply for. That isn't to say that you should dote on or be doted on by these people, but listening to their issues or venting your own can be extremely cathartic for both parties. You'll find that in caring for other people (sometimes even if just lending a friendly ear), you might just give yourself that satisfaction you're looking for.

Sometimes, making the difference for someone else might just do the same for you.

 

[Azure Sky]

I feel like I have nothing to live for. I feel like I don't have a future. I have no aspirations or motivation for anything. Almost all the joy in my life is gone. I don't get satisfaction out of games anymore and I feel like I'm just drifting through life.

I had something similar to this about a year ago for a few years and it's come back since my girlfriend dumped me.

Give me some advice.

Just out of morbid curiosity, how long was this feeling in place before you met her?
Also, is the feeling more typical to the 'ups and downs' of depression or is it a more consistent melancholic low mood?
If it is more melancholic it might be worth running through the symptoms for Dysthymia, which is a 'type' of depression, albeit harder to manage.
If you it sounds like it could be the case, it may be worth name-dropping it onto some professionals and seeing what they say.

Alternatively, and possibly while getting help, find something to live for. Perhaps, and hopefully something that isn't a girlfriend or a significant other (as putting your life in someone elses hands in that manner can be dangerous, as you can see) would be my advice. This way, you can have a goal in life, which will give you a feeling of purpose and determination.

I second what Aylaine says.
It might be something small like a hobby, or something more on the active side like taking up Martial Arts.

To make an example of this, I suffer from what I mentioned above (Which is why I suggested it), and recently took up Ninjutsu. Gets me out of the house, gets me active, gets me around other people (All of which I normally dislike) and the mental discipline is a massive bonus. =3

 

[Jaranja]

I feel like I have nothing to live for. I feel like I don't have a future. I have no aspirations or motivation for anything. Almost all the joy in my life is gone. I don't get satisfaction out of games anymore and I feel like I'm just drifting through life.

I had something similar to this about a year ago for a few years and it's come back since my girlfriend dumped me.

Give me some advice.

Just out of morbid curiosity, how long was this feeling in place before you met her?
Also, is the feeling more typical to the 'ups and downs' of depression or is it a more consistent melancholic low mood?
If it is more melancholic it might be worth running through the symptoms for Dysthymia, which is a 'type' of depression, albeit harder to manage.
If you it sounds like it could be the case, it may be worth name-dropping it onto some professionals and seeing what they say.

Uhm... It's more ups and downs now. I can be surprisingly, and unnervingly, happy for no reason. Quite strange.

Alternatively, and possibly while getting help, find something to live for. Perhaps, and hopefully something that isn't a girlfriend or a significant other (as putting your life in someone elses hands in that manner can be dangerous, as you can see) would be my advice. This way, you can have a goal in life, which will give you a feeling of purpose and determination.

I second what Aylaine says.
It might be something small like a hobby, or something more on the active side like taking up Martial Arts.

To make an example of this, I suffer from what I mentioned above (Which is why I suggested it), and recently took up Ninjutsu. Gets me out of the house, gets me active, gets me around other people (All of which I normally dislike) and the mental discipline is a massive bonus. =3

Firstly, martial arts seems like a big old waste of time and money to me.

Also, I do have a hobby, it's video games but I guess everyone knew that. I also used to drum until I started feeling like this. I realized that it's not worth the time or money, so I cancelled my lessons and sold my drum kit. It's not as easy as saying "Go find something to live for" because I can't. I just can't.

 

[Jaranja]

Now personally, I like to view depression and chronic anxiety as a symptom for something else. (Yes, there's just depression, but soooo many things can cause it, its good to be thorough) Are you eating right? Getting enough sleep? Getting some exercise? Are you having any health or physical quirks? Take note of anything abnormal and get it checked out.

Also, why don't you have any aspirations for the future? Does nothing appeal to you? Feel like everything's out of reach?

Eating less than normal, I feel exhausted a lot of the time, no exercise at all and, I don't think it's relevant but, I've had a cough and a cold that should last a week or two but has lasted 4x that.

Also, yes. Nothing appeals to me. It's not that everything's out of reach... It's just that... I just don't find anything worth aspiring for.