Insane or romantic?

[holy_secret]

Hey y'all.

Don't want to bore you with a wall of text, so I'll keep it short.

I've been talking to guy online. We skype all the time, and seeing him smile makes my heart skip a beat. It's very much mutual (which is AWESOME)
After three months of talking, he's finally coming over to Stockholm to visit me in three weeks.

He's going to travel from London. I know which flight is his and when he arrives.
So here's what I thought. I found some ridiculously cheap tickets to London and back. I was thinking of telling him that I'd meet him up at the airport.
Well, the airport in London, and then travel back to Stockholm together Surprise!


Personally, my heart would melt if someone I like would do something like this for me. But not everyone is me.
So, dear escapist forumites. Is this super romantic, or is it completely insane and slightly creepy?

Thanks

 

[gazumped]

Well, the only problem I can thing of is this:

"I just spent £x on tickets to go to another country to see you, and then you make it completely pointless by coming to my country?"

This is the way I think because I try to save as much money as I can. Might not even cross his mind, though.

 

[Angie7F]

Hmmmm...It is sweet/ creepy idea. But I would keep the money to do something else.
Or use it for the trip back. As in, accompany him back to stockholme, and then fly back.

All that ends well....

 

[Ando85]

Hmm maybe it isn't the most practical thing to do. But, I don't think it as overly insane. I could imagine he would love what you have done, but I'm not him so I'm not sure.

All is fair in love and war. Also, sometimes being practical all the time is overrated. I'd say go ahead and do it.

 

[verdestylo13]

Save the cash. Meet him at Stockholm airport.
Instead you could use the money you would spend on a flight to fund a day on the town for you both. Make the day part of both of your memories so when he returns to his country of origin he tells everyone how awesome you were to be around! Good luck.

 

[Batou667]

This idea is great in theory but might be disastrous in practice. What if he's a nervous flyer?

I agree with the majority here. Save the cash, and either use it to enjoy your time is Sweden, or to get tickets to London to visit him next time.

 

[Spy_Guy]

This idea is great in theory but might be disastrous in practice. What if he's a nervous flyer?

I agree with the majority here. Save the cash, and either use it to enjoy your time is Sweden, or to get tickets to London to visit him next time.

What this person said.

As a person in a similar relationship, I can tell you that you'll want to hold on to a bit of money to get some quality time together (as opposed to the 1½ hour spent in the air).
...in case it works out.

Best of luck to you. Don't blow your money on (almost) nothing, you'll need it.

 

[The_Great_Galendo]

A better idea would be to see if you can get those ridiculously cheap tickets for some other weekend, so you could spend twice as much time together. One weekend with him seeing your hometown, another you seeing his.

I don't know about creepy, exactly, but your first idea definitely seems a little...eccentric, shall we say?

 

[snagli]

Heh, better make sure he's really okay with that. I've seen relations getting shattered because one of them did something that's really romantic and sweet in its own way, but way too clingy for the other one. Make. Sure. It's. Serious.

 

[NightmareWarden]

I don't think it is creepy, but definitely odd. Not even weird, just a bit odd. Like most of the people above me, I think it is impractical regardless of the cost.

This idea is great in theory but might be disastrous in practice. What if he's a nervous flyer?

I'd say this would be a good reason for him meet up and go on the flight together. If he were able to comfort him and make him feel less nervous, I'm sure he would really appreciate it. If this is the case, I support holy_secret's plan.

 

[Batou667]

I'd say this would be a good reason for him meet up and go on the flight together. If he were able to comfort him and make him feel less nervous, I'm sure he would really appreciate it. If this is the case, I support holy_secret's plan.

That's the kind of thing that would be sweet and comforting for people who were in an established relationship. But the situation here is two people who are meeting for the first time. I don't know about you, but if my first "date" had been at 30,000 feet in the air, in a tinny pressurised flying metal tube, experiencing stomach-churning turbulence and ear-popping pressure changes, I was damp from perspiration and stale from being up at 5 in the damn morning, perhaps nauseous from the travel or the food or a fear of heights - and on top of all this I was expected to make suave sweet-talk for a good couple of hours while strapped in next to the potential object of my desires... I don't know, I think I would have made an excuse to crawl into the overhead baggage storage just to retain a shred of dignity.

First impressions count, and the poor guy may well be nervous enough anyway. No need to fray his nerves even more.

 

[holy_secret]

I'd say this would be a good reason for him meet up and go on the flight together. If he were able to comfort him and make him feel less nervous, I'm sure he would really appreciate it. If this is the case, I support holy_secret's plan.

That's the kind of thing that would be sweet and comforting for people who were in an established relationship. But the situation here is two people who are meeting for the first time. I don't know about you, but if my first "date" had been at 30,000 feet in the air, in a tinny pressurised flying metal tube, experiencing stomach-churning turbulence and ear-popping pressure changes, I was damp from perspiration and stale from being up at 5 in the damn morning, perhaps nauseous from the travel or the food or a fear of heights - and on top of all this I was expected to make suave sweet-talk for a good couple of hours while strapped in next to the potential object of my desires... I don't know, I think I would have made an excuse to crawl into the overhead baggage storage just to retain a shred of dignity.

First impressions count, and the poor guy may well be nervous enough anyway. No need to fray his nerves even more.

You make a good point.
I've already asked him if he likes surprises and he said he loves 'em. Guess I have to find out if he's cool with flying.
Considering that he flew half across the world some time ago I can't imagine it being a problem.

Also please, it is not an economical issue. It costs 15? ($20) back and forth. I don't know about you guys, but that is really not a big deal for me. It's like two pizzas.

 

[Batou667]

I've already asked him if he likes surprises and he said he loves 'em.

Well, in that case he only has himself to blame! Go for it.

 

[SeaCalMaster]

I don't think it's creepy or anything, but here's something you might not have considered: This is going to be the first time you've spent time with this guy in person. Do you really want those first couple hours to be spent on a plane?

 

[holy_secret]

I don't think it's creepy or anything, but here's something you might not have considered: This is going to be the first time you've spent time with this guy in person. Do you really want those first couple hours to be spent on a plane?

Oh.

I have not thought of that.

Screw this plan! I'll just wait by the bus terminal and catch a taxi home or something.

Thanks y'all <3

 

[SpectacularWebHead]

Hey y'all.

Don't want to bore you with a wall of text, so I'll keep it short.

I've been talking to guy online. We skype all the time, and seeing him smile makes my heart skip a beat. It's very much mutual (which is AWESOME)
After three months of talking, he's finally coming over to Stockholm to visit me in three weeks.

He's going to travel from London. I know which flight is his and when he arrives.
So here's what I thought. I found some ridiculously cheap tickets to London and back. I was thinking of telling him that I'd meet him up at the airport.
Well, the airport in London, and then travel back to Stockholm together Surprise!


Personally, my heart would melt if someone I like would do something like this for me. But not everyone is me.
So, dear escapist forumites. Is this super romantic, or is it completely insane and slightly creepy?

Thanks

What you may want to do is, wait till he meets you in stockholm, spend however long you were going to spend together, and if after that you think it would be appropriate, surprise him and offer to go back for a little while and do what you did but like, in reverse.

Personally, If a girl (Or indeed a guy) met me at the airport when I was coming to see them, I'd think it was cute but a little weird and/or redundant, because we'd be going back straight away anyway. If, however, we spent a wonderful week together and just as I thought it would end, Boom, airplane tickets for her/him to come with me to spend ANOTHER great week with me, I would just melt. And also Do you really want to be on an aeroplane for that long? That would suck, seriously. Think of the jetlag, It starts of as a nice idea, but after about 6 hours or more in airports and planes I can pretty much guarantee you'd either be sleepy or pissed off.

Get to know him better, and if you have a great time, spring the tickets on him and see what happens. You never know

 

[toadking07]

I think this is a great idea to hold on to! Right now, let them come to you, get to know each other more, and then at a later point you can try for something like this. Some people don't do well with surprises, and maybe it's too early to do that just yet. But points for thinking of it!

 

[BloatedGuppy]

Oh.

I have not thought of that.

Screw this plan! I'll just wait by the bus terminal and catch a taxi home or something.

Thanks y'all <3

Actually, meeting in a low-expectations space like a shared plane ride isn't such a bad idea if this is the first time you're meeting in person.

Romantic liasons over the internet can build a sense of false intimacy that can be nigh impossible to carry over into physical space, resulting in some PAINFULLY awkward first meetings with people you felt like you had a rapport with.

The whole VISIT is special and incredibly romantic, so anything you can do to bleed stress out of that initial contact is probably a Good Thing.