Is 18 too young to be bitter?

[Bravo 21]

well I used to be cynical, but then i decided whenever faced with a problem that I couldn't overcome, to say to myself, "F**k this s**t, Im F**king Awesome, and don't need to take this crap." As you can guess, i am both loud, and swear like a sailor. (censored on a second though, though you know what i mean)

 

[Delritho]

I'm bitter at not being bitter. Wait....YAY! Wait again....BOO! /etc


Not really bitter at 20. Cynical? Maybe a little. Apathetic? Again, maybe a little. Bitter? Not really.

I mean really, I'm 20 and male. How much suckiness in my life is not my main train of thought. I'll give you three guesses as to what is.

 

[The Small Cheese]

Don't lose hope; many teens feel that way, hell, even I do! Something thst's helped me (other than damaging my inner ear with loud music) is to not look at past events with bitterness. Life's tough, and it's your right to be pissed and angry, but at the end of the day, you can tune out all the good life brings so that your cynicism becomes a self-fufilling prophecy, or you can have a more balenced view of the world.

anyway, if you want to feel better now, the call up your parents, or friends, or even a help line. Being listened to and having your emotions validated can do wonders, even if they won't objectively change a thing.

 

[jack583]

nope

 

[springheeljack]

I think if your bitter at 18 you need a damn good reason to be
I mean if your in your 40s or 60s or older and bitter as shit then its kinda understandable you might have a lot of things to bitter about but 18? nah..

 

[Skoldpadda]

It's perfectly normal to be all angsty and bitter at that age, but it's also utterly utterly wrong.

I was a bitter little shit at that age, and now that I'm 31, and actually have to struggle through life, as opposed when I went to school and lived with my parents and got everything handed to me, I seem to be a lot happier.

You'll grow out of it if you really want to.

 

[springheeljack]

well its all well in good to be angsty but bitterness takes time..its different allot of bitterness comes from years of being fucked over
I dont think you can experience that at 18 unless you grew up in a horrible situation..

 

[nofear220]

I just realised after 18 straight hours of doing little more than read and generally be broody, i am a very bitter person deep down. The phrase "Why bother you'll just get fucked over again" has sprung to mind many a time.
Anywho my question still stands. Is their an age limit to absoloute bitterness, and if you are udner it is their something severly wrong with you?
Thoughts, Comments, Criticism's and STFU you mopey shit's are all welcome

Well I am just as bitter as you (if not more) deep down (and I have just turned 18). Although Im learning to control it and also not to show it, because some people just dont like cynical people.

snip...

Then you fuckin' come back to me and tell me how "bitter and cynical" you are.

Since grade 9 the only thing that has stopped me from killing myself has been the fact that my pet peeve is waste, and that would just be a waste of the perfectly able body I have. Id much rather join the army and put myself to use... To bad I disagree with the 'war' being fought in Iraq now, or else Id already be signed up. Everybody is different, my bitter outlook on life and my own life is different to everyone else's.

 

[Verp]

No, I don't think so. I was bitter and cynical at the ripe age of 10.

... I wasn't a happy puppy.

 

[badgersprite]

Have you met many teenagers? Honestly, I was far more bitter at age fourteen or fifteen than I am now at twenty, because of a mixture of teenage angst, being bullied and being stuck in a place I really didn't want to be. Now, at twenty, I'm probably the happiest I've been since I was a kid, even though I should probably be more stressed out.

I know it sounds weird now, but things really do get better as you get older, when you have the independence of a job, or pursuing things that interest you in college. It's really hard to put things in perspective when you're a teenager. Even in as short a space as two years, the things that seem like the end of the world now won't even enter your mind or matter to you the way they're weighing down on you now.

My only advice is - don't shut yourself off from opportunities to do things or meet people. I really regret being too shy and closed off and too afraid of other people to put myself out there and go have fun when I was eighteen. The world and the people in it really aren't as bad or hostile as it may seem in your mind, but you need to get out there and experience life in order to prove that to yourself.

 

[nipsen]

..is 18 too soon.. If you mean you've been through life, spent all your hours viciously at work, being in love with your job, the challenges it brings you, all the ways it lets you flaunt your ego -- and then end up realizing it gives you absolutely no consolation that a genuinely loving hug from your girlfriend wouldn't instantly win over - then sure.

If it's about things you haven't done, and have had good reason not to, because you've always been reasonable and orderly with everything. Or if it's mistakes that end up marking you for a long while -- then no. Life is kinda long in the end, you know.

 

[Zerstiren]

It's perfectly fine for you to be bitter; just don't be bitter over being bitter.

 

[CODE-D]

Well if you're too young than I was beyond too young. I've been bitter since age 11.

Yay me too.

 

[Hazy992]

It seems the dark art of necromancy has once again reared it's ugly head

 

[DoPo]

It's perfectly fine for you to be bitter; just don't be bitter over being bitter.

OP is certainly 19 now. It's a good enough age to be bitter, if you ask me.

 

[Kolby Jack]

Well, I think ANY age is too young to be bitter. Life may not always go the way you expect it to, and people may not always be who they seem to be, but if you let those things stick in your head, yea, of course you'll be bitter. You gotta learn to move on from misfortunes and let-downs and find something or someone that makes you happy. Happiness is a choice, after all.

EDIT: Wow, now I feel weird for not noticing the necromancy. My dark arts detection skill must be low. -_-;

 

[Helmholtz Watson]

yeah, its definitely too young. Wait until your at least 55.