Is being single really as bad as some people make out?

[Wutaiflea]

I'm fortunate enough to be happily married, but prior to meeting my husband, being single really didn't bother me.

An old school friend of mine recently broke up with her husband (and father of her 2 year old), and immediately added a new boyfriend to her Facebook status.
Some time later after he apparently realised she's a psycho-hose-beast, this ended and she's now dating someone else I went to school with- a guy who had always had a crush on her, but who she never ever spoke to prior to being so desperate for male partnership that she had to fall back on him rather than be "alone".
And all this took place within a month and the woman is 24 years old.

If you can honestly read that, and think that being single is disastrous and would rather be an undignified laughing stock like my old friend, then you need serious help.

 

[ThreeWords]

Fuck no, still haven't had an actual girlfriend all my life, but I'm not ashamed. I'm a free spirit, I love being single. I mean sure down the line I'll settle with someone, whether it's for a few months/years or all my life, but for now I enjoy my free spiritness.

Seriously, being single means you are absolutely free and independent.

Who told you having a relationship ties you down?

This guy (quoted below) is a prime example: a good girlfriend can accept your opinions and doesn't mind if you have more worldly interests than only her. She can bear being a part of your life without being the centre

I've been with my girl for over a year (I'm 17) and things are good. Luckily she's a real go with the flow kinda girl and doesn't care if I'd rather spend a day playing xbox then seeing her.

As for you, dude, congratulations =D

 

[Tourette]

Enjoy the freedom you have while it lasts because when it's gone, it's gone for good, or until you get a divorce,lol.

 

[Lemon Of Life]

At this stage in life (I'm 15) I'm just be in it for the tits, but later on, I won't marry till I find true love. But, for now, I ain't got no one, and I'm not that desperate.

 

[Gingerman]

Your 16 so you have nothing to worry about, relationships don't really become real until you are out of the hormone stage (I.e they wont last very long) every person I knew in High school that dated around your age aren't together today as it was purely based on either looks, social status and/or they made them laugh, hardly something to base a relationship on in my eyes the Hollywood vision of High school sweethearts is very very rare.

I started dating when I was 18 and I'm now been in a relation ship for almost a year and a half, one of my friends also dated around that mark and they've been together for two years so I hope this helps your perceptive. My advice is at your age focus on leaving school with good grades and getting into a good Uni or college, that's the place where your most likely to meet the other half if statistics are to be trusted.

 

[omega 616]

"teenagers fall in love more than they change there oil and they should change there oil more often"

Reference?

 

[Gildan Bladeborn]

There is something about the idea of people who are bloody 16 bemoaning their single status that I find inherently hysterical. Your friends can start feeling sorry for themselves in earnest when they're still single and in their 30s - otherwise they don't really know what the hell they are talking about.

Also there is nothing wrong with being single, I'm quite happy with my bachelor status.

 

[Snork Maiden]

There is something about the idea of people who are bloody 16 bemoaning their single status that I find inherently hysterical. Your friends can start feeling sorry for themselves in earnest when they're still single and in their 30s - otherwise they don't really know what the hell they are talking about.

Also there is nothing wrong with being single, I'm quite happy with my bachelor status.

This. No bachelor status, no bachelor pad my friend. And who wants to miss out on that?

 

[Soxafloppin]

Its great being single for things like parties and nights out. Its sucks being taken, espcially if she isnt there.

 

[TheRightToArmBears]

It depends on who you are. I enjoy being in a relationship far far more than being single, and I don't really get some of the complaints people have about relationships. I mean, if you don't feel independent, then there's probably something wrong with your relationship.

 

[pantallica95]

Being single is the worst thing I have ever had the bad luck to experience. I didn't think too much of it. Then i got a couple girlfriends, i dumped the first, the second cheated on me, and now I've been single for 5 goddamn months. It wouldn't be so bad if all my friends were single, but nooo, they're having the times of their lives with their girlfriends/boyfriends--my friends are a mixed bag. Both guys and girls.--while I sit at home by my self every Friday night. Every one i talk to says "Oh, you don't need a relationship to be happy, you're too young." well, i wish that was true. Being "free and independent" when you're single doesn't mean a fucking thing to me, as i don't go to parties (no one tells me about any), my friends don't make plans with me, and when i try to make plans they already have something.

Bah!

 

[WolfThomas]

I've got ninety nine problems...

..... so..... you going to elaborate on them or keep us waiting eagerly?

But being single ain't all that bad, but I gotta say I prefer having a girlfriend.

...but a ***** ain't one. -Jay-Z

I'm not a rap/hiphop fan, but those are some wise words.

 

[Dogstile]

FUCK TO THE NO!

(YOu pathetic whiny teenager)

Did you just read the first sentence?

 

[Jaythulhu]

Nope. I love it. Damned if I want to spend every non-working minute with someone. I like my quiet time.

A relationship is a lot like a hostile takeover of your life. Pretty soon you'll find out that all your stuff is gone, you're not allowed to talk to or hang out with your friends, and you no longer have any hobbies or leisure time that you can waste. Eventually you even lose your own opinions, thoughts and feelings.

It's really not worth it. The benefits don't outweigh the negatives.

 

[Eatbrainz]

INDEPENDENCE RULES!

 

[-Orgasmatron-]

If Orgasmatron gave a fuck about a *****, I'd always be broke, I'd never have no motherfucking endo to smoke... (8)

 

[comadorcrack]

Not single, But being singles okay, I prefer being with Hebe though.

 

[Drakenian]

Now lets get this out of the way. I'm 16, i've had one girlfriend in my life who screwed me over so much so i went back to just being friends with people again. Now every time i go out and hang out with a group of people i hear them complain about being single which i feel doesn't make sense.

Being single seems to be a great choice for me, You don't have to try so damn hard to look good every day, just kinda take care of yourself, and that tends to look good in its own right. You don't have to worry about dating a girl someone likes and creating a rift and you tend to be happier just hanging out with people in general.

I know that people love the feeling of belonging when they are with someone they believe they "love" (come on, I'm 16, neither me nor my friends know what love is) and love all the rewards that being in a relationship brings. But is that really an excuse to be such a depressing person when you're single?

Any Opinions on this?

They shouldn't complain about being single. I mean, yeah, I prefer to be with someone, but I've never complained about being single. I've only complained about either 1) the girl that fucked up my life, or 2) wanting to find the right girl. That's not the same as being sad for being single, just when I am single, I start looking for the right girl, not just someone to fill the void.

 

[Drakenian]

Nope. I love it. Damned if I want to spend every non-working minute with someone. I like my quiet time.

A relationship is a lot like a hostile takeover of your life. Pretty soon you'll find out that all your stuff is gone, you're not allowed to talk to or hang out with your friends, and you no longer have any hobbies or leisure time that you can waste. Eventually you even lose your own opinions, thoughts and feelings.

It's really not worth it. The benefits don't outweigh the negatives.

Really now? The person you were with must have been a really controlling *****. All of my girlfriends have encouraged me to hang out with my friends every now and then, especially if I ask, because they don't want me to lose my friends. I've never had a girl initiate a "hostile takeover of [my] life", because every girl I've been with has had at least some shred of care for me.

EDIT: Sorry for the double post.

 

[veloper]

relationships at the age of 16 are doomed anyway.