Is being single really as bad as some people make out?

[Phoenix Arrow]

I hate being single. Once you've had a happy, long-term relationship, it's hard to want anything apart from what you used to have. Or maybe I'm the exception that proves the rule.

 

[junkmanuk]

When you're single - being in a relationship is the best thing in the world.
When you're in a relationship - being single would be awesome.

Essentially the grass will always seem greener sometimes, and sometimes you'll be glad you're in the situation you're in.

The best thing is when you can be in a relationship with someone while keeping your independance to a degree. As previous posters have said though, enjoy the freedom while you can because when you get to 30 you'll wish you could be 16 again

 

[RanD00M]

I have never been in a relationship,and i really don´t care about it.So i can´t really tell how the differences are.But i´m rather going to take points from a relationship my friend was in this summer.

He was happy in the relationship,but is happier now that he's single.Simple as that.

Sure it isn't like that for all people.But this the only experience i have with this matter.

 

[ReincarnatedFTP]

Depends how long you've been single for. This one guy on the escapist said he hasn't kissed a girl and he is 18. That is bad.

Really? I'm 17 days away from being in that category myself. What if you're just apathetic and too lazy to bother with relationships?

Well than you're never going to get laid. And if you are too lazy to get laid, than you're going to fail in life.

Just because you don't get laid the exact SECOND you start dating does not mean your never going to, and also how does not getting laid make you a fail at life last I checked getting laid doesn't mean you cant live a successful happy life. Oh yeah and to your 18 never kissed yada yada statement even if we are judging this on a "how old were you when...whatever" scale 18 is not bad at all im only 4 years from then and I am almost certain I wont kiss a girl by then and I don't expect to for time after that either hell I don't EVER expect it, I sure hope it but I don't sit there going "Hmm maybe TODAY will be the day".

No, what I meant like you are too lazy to get laid as in you are too lazy to do anything else. Like everyone (not everyone, but you get what I mean) wants to get laid, but if you are too lazy to even do stuff you want to do, than you are just too damn lazy.

Oh, sorry man. I think I confused you with my wording. I guess I should only have typed "apathetic" instead of lazy. I don't really care for it at this point, which is why I'm so "lazy" regarding it. It's like if a random stranger told you to mow a huge lawn that would take all day for just a peppermint candy. Sure if it was something I cared about at the moment, but I don't want it right now. I'm still willing to work for grades and friendships, just not interested in a sexual relationship.

Apologies for any misunderstandings.

 

[Xojins]

I've got ninety nine problems...

Basically this.

But seriously, being single is pretty good actually. I've only had one actual relationship in my life, and it only lasted a month or so. In high school and college, it's great to be single, IMO.

 

[funguy2121]

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You're 16, and you certainly seem to have more experience than I had B4 I was 20, but high school romance is by and large overrated.

If you're single by choice then you probably know you've made the right decision. So much bullshit about relationships is fed to us since long before there was a "media" (see Romeo and Juliette).

Enjoy the freedoms of single-hood until a chick comes along who really blows you away.

 

[Caligulove]

not at all.
but at the same time- I've always thought that I can balance some of the benefits with single life and with all my friends with being in a long-term relationship like I am now.

Never hated being single, never hated being in a relationship.
But when youre 16.... dont worry about that for now. now at 22, Im only starting to get serious in actually having a real relationship when I started going out with my girlfriend a year ago, transitioning from High School girlfriends to college changes things because youre more independent.

 

[Godavari]

Now lets get this out of the way. I'm 16, i've had one girlfriend in my life who screwed me over so much so i went back to just being friends with people again. Now every time i go out and hang out with a group of people i hear them complain about being single which i feel doesn't make sense.

Being single seems to be a great choice for me, You don't have to try so damn hard to look good every day, just kinda take care of yourself, and that tends to look good in its own right. You don't have to worry about dating a girl someone likes and creating a rift and you tend to be happier just hanging out with people in general.

I know that people love the feeling of belonging when they are with someone they believe they "love" (come on, I'm 16, neither me nor my friends know what love is) and love all the rewards that being in a relationship brings. But is that really an excuse to be such a depressing person when you're single?

Any Opinions on this?

I saw myself saying that. I, too, am 16 and had an ex who screwed me over. Now I just don't date at all. For one, she ruined it for me and secondly I realized that it's all extremely shallow, especially at a high school level. I probably won't find love until I'm out of college, maybe even longer. And I'm happy to accept that. Less drama = good.

 

[dont_blink]

Now lets get this out of the way. I'm 16, i've had one girlfriend in my life who screwed me over so much so i went back to just being friends with people again. Now every time i go out and hang out with a group of people i hear them complain about being single which i feel doesn't make sense.

Being single seems to be a great choice for me, You don't have to try so damn hard to look good every day, just kinda take care of yourself, and that tends to look good in its own right. You don't have to worry about dating a girl someone likes and creating a rift and you tend to be happier just hanging out with people in general.

I know that people love the feeling of belonging when they are with someone they believe they "love" (come on, I'm 16, neither me nor my friends know what love is) and love all the rewards that being in a relationship brings. But is that really an excuse to be such a depressing person when you're single?

Any Opinions on this?

i wholeheartedly agree.

for the most part i prefer being single

though i wouldnt change my current [not single] relationship status for the world.

 

[sokka14]

apologies if i've been ninja'd, i cba to check all the posts.

to quote mel gibson:

FREEEEEEEEEEEEEEDDDDOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOMMMMMM!!!

 

[Ocelot GT]

Being single is fine, the ppl who rave about being with someone only do because they're tools.

Companionship is excellent, the ability to be content with yourself alone is also excellent.

 

[Jaythulhu]

All of my girlfriends have encouraged me to hang out with my friends every now and then

Aah, must be those new-age girlfriends I've heard about. The ones that give a damn about something other than the brandname on their handbag. Sadly, I think they're all a bit too young for me.

Hmm... may sound like I'm bitter or something. I'm not. I love my life as a singleton. It's more fun than whack-a-mole night at the local womens' shelter.

 

[Haunted Serenity]

Yes because every night i get to curl up with my wife when we aren't fighting...so maybe once or twice a week and since we live in the basement of my in-laws...yeah my night life with her is non existance


Oh hell no being single is amazing. I would go back in a heartbeat but i love my wife so i stay with her. If i ever got a divorce i wouldn't date seriously for years. Just flings because some of my best relationships with people are the ones i knew breifly and intensly then went to be friends with.

 

[Haunted Serenity]

apologies if i've been ninja'd, i cba to check all the posts.

to quote mel gibson:

FREEEEEEEEEEEEEEDDDDOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOMMMMMM!!!

Do you find it odd that at the end when he yells that he is being gutted and having his emausculated? I thought it was mildly ironic to put that as a good quote here. However it did make me almost pass out laughing.

 

[The Other]

Some of the advantages of being single:

- You can stare at other girls or boys and not get into trouble
- You tend to have a lot more disposable income to waste on games and dvds
- You can take a nap when you want to instead of having dinner with their folks
- You will only be annoyed by your creepy friends instead of their creepy friends
- Don't have to worry about all that bothersome personal grooming.

Some of the dis-advantages?

- No matter how much baby-oil you use, a hand will always be just a hand

 

[Kimarous]

Topic Title: "Is being single really as bad as some people make out?"

Just for fun, I'm going to respond to this in a distorted context.

Yes, it's really bad to be the one person around not making out with anybody.

But in all seriousness, I have nothing to say about the actual context of the question, currently being single myself.

 

[YoUnG205]

Being single is good I am Currently single. however should an oppertunityt come up to change that then there is no harm in either.

 

[AmazingShortbus]

In my opinion, its better to be single unless you really connect with the person your dating. If you're dating someone for the hell of dating someone, then thats just plain dumb.

Why?


No really, why is it just plain dumb?


I have been on dates with people I didn't know, girls I happened to find cute and snagged a number after a five minute conversation. I apologize in advance if you are talking about exclusively dating (or a committed relationship), which is not at all the same thing as dating in my book. You meet someone you think you might like, you make it known, you date, and somewhere along the line you figure out if you really like this person or not and move it up a notch.

Trying to get to know someone as a friend first when you have budding romantic urges towards them is not a good idea, it can only end in disaster.

I was talking about a commited relationship. Thank you very much for not jumping to conclusions and calling me a shitbag and stuff. But, you are very right about going on dates with girls. We just have different perceptions.