Is being single really as bad as some people make out?

[pedrnorth]

Being single can be great, but being with someone can be great too. It's really about what you make of your situation.

That being said, I'm finding that there are a lot of things that a good relationship has that you just can't experience on your own. On the other hand, there are a lot of new things that can go wrong. It's risky business, but you'll never get the payoffs if you're never willing to take the risks.

 

[sky14kemea]

I love being single.
In fact i love it so much I've never had a date in my life (Currently 18 years old)

Seriously, I don't get why people want partners (unless, y'know you find someone you actually care about >.> good for you I guess)
It's just extra stress what I don't need >

 

[Actual]

Different strokes for different folks.

I've been single two years, and there are a lot of good points to that, like you pointed out, however I do very much miss the emotional aspects of it. I've dated a couple times within that time but without the emotional connection it's a bit poohey.

At 16 it's hard to say, most relationships will be bullshit. For some, few, people it will work. The girl I was with when I was 16, I was with her for 7 more years.

 

[Xanadu84]

Depends on where you are in life. Make a choice, and it won't be wrong.

Personally, I can say that being single, me, and 25 sucks hardcore. A major issue is also that you can choose to be single, choosing to be in a relationship is much harder, and less prone to success.

 

[Milkatron]

There are advantages and disadvantages to both sides. It depends on which advantages you like more and what disadvantages you can deal with.

My advice: date within your circle of friends. Getting your significant other's friends to accommodate your presence is very hard and having you share mutual friends makes things considerably easier. At least that's what I've found.

 

[Xanadeas]

Other than the soul crushing loneliness being single's fine. Don't have to spend what tiny bit of money I have on anyone else... Except the government. WHEN DID I MARRY THE GOVERNMENT?! D<

 

[Mr.Pandah]

To answer the question as simply as possible...

No, but neither is being in a relationship.

 

[Et3rnalLegend64]

Being single is fine. Had a few crushes I guess, but those never got anywhere. Never thought I'd make a good bf anyway. And it's fun only having to worry about myself.

 

[Xanadeas]

Other than the soul crushing loneliness being single's fine. Don't have to spend what tiny bit of money I have on anyone else... Except the government. WHEN DID I MARRY THE GOVERNMENT?! D<

When your mother gave birth to you at a hospital! HARR, TRAPPED FROM BIRTH!

DAMN! Must.... get... annulment.

 

[JUMBO PALACE]

Dude being single is awesome. If you're happy don't bother being in a rush to get a girl. I've been with my girl for over a year (I'm 17) and things are good. Luckily she's a real go with the flow kinda girl and doesn't care if I'd rather spend a day playing xbox then seeing her.

 

[ReincarnatedFTP]

Other than the soul crushing loneliness being single's fine. Don't have to spend what tiny bit of money I have on anyone else... Except the government. WHEN DID I MARRY THE GOVERNMENT?! D<

When you were born as a citizen of [insert nation name here] and you received the benefits of civilization and society that your government offered.

Sure you can get a divorce, but that would involve letting go of all public utility and infrastructure. You'd have to become some sort of anarchist.

 

[SantoUno]

Fuck no, still haven't had an actual girlfriend all my life, but I'm not ashamed. I'm a free spirit, I love being single. I mean sure down the line I'll settle with someone, whether it's for a few months/years or all my life, but for now I enjoy my free spiritness.

Seriously, being single means you are absolutely free and independent.

 

[ReincarnatedFTP]

Depends how long you've been single for. This one guy on the escapist said he hasn't kissed a girl and he is 18. That is bad.

Really? I'm 17 days away from being in that category myself. What if you're just apathetic and too lazy to bother with relationships?

 

[Misaek]

I am still in school and no matter what it doesn't matter if you're single or not and ESPECIALLY doesn't matter when your still in school (mainly because safely 90% of all school relationships are just to have someone good looking around and to say "H3Y IVE GOTZ A GF/BF SO UR ALL FAGS LOLOLOL and almost never is love/affection involved) I really don't see what the big deal is with all these school kids who make fun of people (mainly me) because I have never dated anyone and it is because A. Im pretty sure every female in my school is exactly what you would expect a teenage girl to be (not a good thing to explain further) and B. because I would rather wait for someone special than just have some random chick as a girlfriend just to say I have one.

 

[BonsaiK]

Now lets get this out of the way. I'm 16, i've had one girlfriend in my life who screwed me over so much so i went back to just being friends with people again. Now every time i go out and hang out with a group of people i hear them complain about being single which i feel doesn't make sense.

Being single seems to be a great choice for me, You don't have to try so damn hard to look good every day, just kinda take care of yourself, and that tends to look good in its own right. You don't have to worry about dating a girl someone likes and creating a rift and you tend to be happier just hanging out with people in general.

I know that people love the feeling of belonging when they are with someone they believe they "love" (come on, I'm 16, neither me nor my friends know what love is) and love all the rewards that being in a relationship brings. But is that really an excuse to be such a depressing person when you're single?

Any Opinions on this?

Some people have crazy out-of-control hormones that drive them to be in relationships very, very much. I was like that, and I hated being a teenager because of it. Only when I got older did I eventually chill out and go "fuck it, girls either like me or they don't" and ironically it was only then that girls started getting interested in me. If you can be single and happy, more power to you. One less person I feel compelled to give advice to.