Is it fair to make a guy jealous to keep him interested?

[Amberella]

She's going to have a bad reputation pretty soon. And why does she need to make him jealous to keep him interested? I mean it's not that hard to keep a guy interested. I've been with the same for almost 3 years and I don't do that crap. -.- It's just shameful and I bet once he finds out he won't be happy. People really need to think what their actions may cause. Everything has a consequence, it's up to you if it's a bad or good one.

 

[Raika]

Seems pretty manipulative. I never understood why women do this.

 

[Balvale]

Sounds like a pretty miserable way to keep someone interested. Perhaps you should tell her to try buying some lingerie or something.

 

[Andrew_Waltfeld]

If I was the boyfriend, I would just dump her ass. I already went thru a situation where I watched her slowly fall for another guy who was a friend, she left me for him. Why? Cause of unintentional and soon to be 'innocent' flirting. Yeah I wouldn't touch that even if someone paid me 5 million dollars. I don't tolerate the immaturity or drama bull. None of my friends do anymore either after they saw what happened. You end up on our blacklist of girls to avoid which is worse. Far worse, since the blacklist will then spread to other groups of guys pretty quickly. Some may say that BS for the girl, but we guys are sick of this **** at my college.

 

[honestdiscussioner]

I can't understand that. Women have boobs. If you're a decent person, and not a complete dud in bed, that's about all you need to keep a guy "interested". Now a long term relationship requires a bit more than that, but still, guys are a bit more simple than girls are.

 

[Mandalore the Gear]

omfg, you nailed it. i get describe that any other way.

 

[Gamer_152]

No, at the best it's emotional manipulation through dishonesty, at worst it could be the kind of thing that makes her boyfriend so insecure they break up.

 

[Speakercone]

If my girlfriend is trying to manipulate me, she won't be my girlfriend for long. I have no patience for people who pull shit like that

I think you made the right call mate.

 

[Artina89]

No it's not fair on you, or her boyfriend. If she has to make her boyfriend jealous to keep him interested (which has never worked as far as I can tell, it just leads to an explosive argument) then I can't see them being together for very long. My advice to the OP would be to keep out of it and don't get involved. Not much good can come out of it if you get involved.

 

[thedeathscythe]

"All's fair in love and war."

If this makes you mad, well then you can stop talking to her and hanging out with her, and if your friends find it weird they will also join you. If he dislikes it, he will leave her. If it actually makes him more interested, then what's the problem? Have you ever had a girl be your wing man? I had a coworker talk to this girl with me, and she never "flirted" with me, but she acted a little less like a coworker and that sort of gives the other girl a "hmm, maybe there's something to this guy" thought process. I wouldn't want my girl doing that to a guy to get my jealous, but I wouldn't really date someone like that anyways.

Don't go along with it if it bothers you. If someone you're with does it, leave them. People sometimes cheat on people to get their person they cheated on into them again. That's not for me at all, but if it works for them, what's it for me to stop them?

 

[uzo]

Jealousy is not shit that women try on me more than once.

I *immediately* confront them, give them an ultimatum, and see what happens. If it ends, it ends. C'est la vie. 99 problems but a ***** ain't 1 of `em, and all manner of other related cliches. If she's gonna flirt it up with someone else, whatever the fucking reason, be it to make me jealous or because she actually likes him, fuck her. I haven't the time nor the patience for a tart like that. She wants him? Fine, break it off with me and enjoy your gonorrhoea, cause I don't want it. She doesn't want him, and actually wants to be with me, but is trying to play mind games? Fuck off. You can't call my bluff because I never bluff in relationships.

Don't get me wrong, I'm a very easy going guy, but I have absolutely no patience for that kind of armchair psychologist bullshit.