Is it possible to lower your libido?

[ATRAYA]

If i could i would become Asexual ( which ,unfortunatly ,is impossible since Asexuality is not a choice .... I think ).

Don't ever let anyone tell you their sexual preference "isn't a choice". I, myself, am an asexual, formerly heterosexual. I may be heterosexual again, one day, it depends on what happens in my life. But at the moment, I am neither attracted to men nor women, thus I will be indefinitely asexual. It's still a CHOICE - it's ALWAYS a choice - but it's based very heavily in what feels the most right and the most comfortable for me, thus making it seem like it's the "natural" path for myself; like I was born to be this way or something equally silly. This is probably what confuses a lot of people when they change their sexual preferences: they feel like they "can't go back" because they would lose face, and that their preference somehow "defines" them and makes up their personality. That they were "supposed" to be gay/straight/lesbian/bi/pan/etc.
I would recommend you take a stroll through the forums on AVEN to learn more about asexuality, so you might consider the possibility that you are indeed an asexual, but you say you often think about engaging in coitus with members of the opposite sex, ergo I believe you are still straight.

But enough of my seemingly irrelevant tangent, back to the OP!

As far as I know, there is no way to really reduce your libido. You can prevent sex from creeping into your thoughts a lot easier by masturbating on a regular basis, however ("regular" is defined by YOUR body, no one else's, so you will have to find that out for yourself. If your body came with a manual, I recommend reading it). As an asexual, I still have a libido (and it's annoying as HELL!), though my genitals know they will never be able to rub against another, so they're never too riled up. All I can do is release the accumulation and live normally for about a week, then start the process over again.

Remember that, just like oysters and other foods with similar mythical properties don't INCREASE your libido, there isn't some magic food or concoction that will decrease it.

 

[ATRAYA]

Plenty of people die alone and miserable.

Misery doesn't go hand-in-hand with being alone. A lot people assume that because someone doesn't want to get married or have a relationship it's because they are "sad", and their life will be sad forever until they "find someone". Because apparently you can't be happy until you've met someone you can rub your genitals on...

There is nothing wrong with staying single. If you meet someone, that's great, I couldn't be happier for you, but don't lock-on to everything in the room with a pulse as a potential mate simply out of fear of dying alone or because everyone wants you to "grow up and start a family" or some stupid bullshit like that. That always concludes poorly, and you'll be no closer to your goal in the end.

IT'S OKAY TO BE ALONE!

/rant

 

[gmaverick019_v1legacy]

Eat a raw potato

I have no problem with my libido, as I'm the kind of ass that would be too proud to change anything negative about himself, but it seriously causes me no problems.
I think it's lower than average. Kinda helpful since I'm long runningly single, so I don't end up sexually frustrated.

damn i missed that post the first time around, but your gif nailed it XD

i was dumbfounded when i read that article..just...wut.

OT:

just wank it, holy hell does my brain work fluidly after a good baby gravy shoot out.

 

[Thaluikhain]

Plenty of people die alone and miserable.

Misery doesn't go hand-in-hand with being alone. A lot people assume that because someone doesn't want to get married or have a relationship it's because they are "sad", and their life will be sad forever until they "find someone". Because apparently you can't be happy until you've met someone you can rub your genitals on...

There is nothing wrong with staying single. If you meet someone, that's great, I couldn't be happier for you, but don't lock-on to everything in the room with a pulse as a potential mate simply out of fear of dying alone or because everyone wants you to "grow up and start a family" or some stupid bullshit like that. That always concludes poorly, and you'll be no closer to your goal in the end.

IT'S OKAY TO BE ALONE!

/rant

Yeah, second that. And, in case it needs to be said, being with someone does not mean you won't be miserable, or make them miserable.

 

[Xan Krieger]

Play Spec Ops The Line, Dark Souls, Condemned and Silent Hill 2 all in a row, then watch Die Hard, The Thing, Evil Dead 2, Reservoir Dogs and Donnie Darko back-to-back. If you still want to think about sex all the time after that then you, sir, have no soul. Alternatively, wear really tight around the crotch, loose around the knew downward trousers it on a 5 hour walk with an attractive girl and her boyfriend, one hour of which you spend pushing them on a swing, because a similar experience destroyed my libido 'til I saw those naked pictures of Scarlett Johansson.

I have the problem of being perpetually horny sometimes, it's definitely frustrating when your friends are starting to have it off while you're stuck single with a hard drive full of porn, but who cares.

Personally I'd love to kill my sex drive, I hate the fact that I love women but none will ever love me so I'd pay for something that could remove my libido.

Ah, dude, you'll meet someone. She may not speak the same language, and you may only be in the same country for a few months before you wonder everyday whether she's gone for good... But they're out there.

That's a lie, there is no woman out there who would ever love me. This is a fact, not disputable.

 

[Hap2]

Meditation and busywork (e.g. hobby, work, volunteering, etc.) are the best methods I have found (I'm an asexual with a libido, meaning my urges are completely directionless and a matter of my hormones peaking every two weeks or so). Beware of black licorice, the phytoestrogens found in it will mimic real estrogen and will temporarily reduce libido; however, a male body will produce more testosterone to compensate, and urges will come back even stronger. Also, with extended use the kidneys and liver can be damaged, along with a few other physical changes.

 

[Aramis Night]

Im currently being prescribed finasteride. Late last year i had hair replacement surgery. The doctor who performed it, gave me the prescription to make sure that over time, even if he missed an area the pills would see to it. It is like propecia, but much less expensive. As it turns out one of the common side effects is that it has been known to cause lowered sex drive in men. Perhaps that can be an option to consider. Even if it doesn't work, at least you'll never have to worry about going bald.

The irony is that my lying whore of an ex put me under the requisite stress to cause my hair loss. My rate of hair loss slowed dramatically shortly after we split. Perhaps had my libido been sufficiently deadened, i wouldn't have wound up with her and needed the pills.

 

[camazotz]

I don't recommend supressing your sex drive, and speaking as an older dude I can assure you that unless you suffer from a debilitating medical condition later in life it doesn't usually go away. So, with that in mind:

Exercise a lot, get in shape, then don't be afraid to meet women (or whatever preferred gender), and don't be afraid to get shot down. Keep in mind: the worst a woman can say is no (unless you've got a creepy vibe and then the options expand a bit!) so if you keep asking, odds are inevitable someone will say yes. Assuming your male: a lot of guys have bizarre notions about what constitutes an acceptable mate, usually way out of proportion with their own appearance. If you're a chunky guy then look around for women that are in a similar size range. If you're more bookish then look for women who might respect that. Do not under any circumstances think you're required to go out with the cheerleaders and models of the world, ain't gonna happen. On the other hand, if you do keep up the exercise, and try to socialize a lot (even if it means getting shot down a thousand times) you will inevitably get better at the whole process, improve your physique and otherwise move yourself up into a more sellable level.

Very, very important: Do not get discouraged. If you get discouraged or bitter you will become your own worst enemy.

If you're younger, try hitting on older women. You'll be amazed at how many thirty-something gals take an interest in a younger man. If your older, don't be too afraid to try talking to younger women (just not too much younger; the rule of thumb is don't try to date anyone more than half your age plus seven years....or anyone illegal, essentially).

If you're just tired of the whole idea of meeting women, or have a social issue that makes the whole concept repugnant, then maybe see if you can visit a therapist. If you have a genuine social disorder or mental health issue maybe they will prescribe medication; a lot of meds for anxiety and depression coincidentally tend to kill sex drive.

This has been a post from Bad Advice Theater!

 

[faranar]

You didn't say how old you are, so I assume you are a teen. If that's the case you should know - YOU ARE SUPPOSED TO THINK ABOUT SEX ALL THE TIME! Get yourself a kinky girlfriend!
If you are between 20 and 40 years old, get yourself a kinky girlfriend!
If you're older than 40 and still think about sex all the time, good for you - Get yourself a younger kinky girlfriend.

Sex is awesome and trying to lower your libido is insane. On the other hand satisfying it is fun.

PS. If you're hideously ugly disregard all the above and castrate yourself.

PPS. If you're filthy rich you can disregard the PS.

 

[KingsGambit_v1legacy]

I can't tell if the OP is serious or just a teenage boy talking about the things that matter to them. But to be serious, do not take any advice on this forum. If you are genuinely concerned that you have an unhealthy libido (though if you're a teenage boy as your post suggests, I would say it's pretty normal), see a health professional or go to a web site dedicated to (men's health).

There is of course, Dr. Mark [http://www.escapistmagazine.com/articles/view/columns/ask-dr-mark] on this very site. You could ask him and he will either offer advice or refer you to where some is available.

If i could i would become Asexual ( which ,unfortunatly ,is impossible since Asexuality is not a choice .... I think ).

Anyone who says they are asexual either has a genuine physiological (eg. hormonal) or psychological issue, or is a liar. A healthy person is not asexual.

 

[Relish in Chaos]

I don't mean to speak on behalf of them, but isn't that pretty offensive to asexuals? Some people just...aren't interested in sex. It's not that they can't have sexual pleasure; it's just that they're not sexually attracted to men, women, or anything inside or outside. Some can still feel romantic or emotional attraction, just like you can feel something for your siblings or a friend without sexual arousal, and some enjoy sex only when it's to satisfy their partner.

So I wouldn't say there's anything wrong with it. That kind of mindset can also lead people to think, "Oh, maybe you're just gay in denial" or "you should get yourself checked out; everyone should want sex". It's just different, is all. Remember, as recent as fifty years ago, homosexuality was still classed as a disorder, and now, in most civilised areas around the world, it's classed as just as much of a healthy sexuality as heterosexuality, the societal norm which seems to have been even more hammered into our system through media where the guy "gets the girl" at the end of the film.

okay, what i'm about to say here is going to be taken wrong, some people are gonna probably have unkind words to say, but if so, its simply because they either don't understand MY point or they don't understand humanity's point. but here goes...

being gay or asexual IS a disorder. but it's not wrong. let me explain. we are animals, an our brian, whether we like it or not, is wired to make us want to have sex with the opposite gender for the purpose of survival of the species. but the human body and brain is unfathomably complex, and sometimes it doesnt work the way the blueprint laid out. so when someone's brain is not functioning that way, its disordered. THAT IS NOT TO SAY HOMOSEXUALITY IS WRONG. far from it, it's just a genetic trait. tommy has astigmatism, johnny has a cleft pallet, and billy wants to bang tommy and johnny. it's just a variation from what the blueprint intended.

Where did you get the idea that we have sex primarily for procreation? No, seriously. People have been having sex for pleasure for donkey?s years, and the idea that ?sex should be for making babies? only came in when Christianity started demonizing anything that wasn?t unprotected missionary penis-in-vagina sex for the sole purpose of reproduction. If anything, we have sex primarily to build social bonds, and babies could just happen to be a byproduct of that. Not to mention, I think I heard a scientific theory that homosexuality arose from back when men (and women, for that matter; let?s not forget, lesbians exist!) may not have had enough women to go around for them because they?d all been taken up by the more attractive fit men, so they just started to formulate sexual bonds with their own sex. Also, it could be to curb overpopulation (if you think about how many people are having kids now, just imagine how many more there would be if everyone was straight).

Furthermore, I don?t think you seem to understand what a mental disorder actually is. The technical definition of a medical disorder is a psychological developmental anomaly that is generally associated with stress that negatively impacts on a person?s day-to-day life. For example, OCD, bipolar, generalized anxiety. People only get stressed out if they are gay because of social pressures, rather than any circuitry issue in the brain.

If i could i would become Asexual ( which ,unfortunatly ,is impossible since Asexuality is not a choice .... I think ).

Don't ever let anyone tell you their sexual preference "isn't a choice". I, myself, am an asexual, formerly heterosexual. I may be heterosexual again, one day, it depends on what happens in my life. But at the moment, I am neither attracted to men nor women, thus I will be indefinitely asexual. It's still a CHOICE - it's ALWAYS a choice - but it's based very heavily in what feels the most right and the most comfortable for me, thus making it seem like it's the "natural" path for myself; like I was born to be this way or something equally silly. This is probably what confuses a lot of people when they change their sexual preferences: they feel like they "can't go back" because they would lose face, and that their preference somehow "defines" them and makes up their personality. That they were "supposed" to be gay/straight/lesbian/bi/pan/etc.
I would recommend you take a stroll through the forums on AVEN to learn more about asexuality, so you might consider the possibility that you are indeed an asexual, but you say you often think about engaging in coitus with members of the opposite sex, ergo I believe you are still straight.

I don?t mean to go off-topic, but?no. Just no. No offence, but as much as some gay people try to make themselves straight by fucking as many women as possible, you can?t change your sexuality just by waking up in the morning and saying, ?You know what, I like men now? or ?Women no longer turn me on?, unless, for some reason, you unlocked something that was already in your brain anyway by watching so much porn that you experimented enough with your sexuality to realise you were gay or bi, or you became so desensitised to it (like how humans have become so desensitised to violence because we see it on TV and video games all the time) that you just ?burned yourself up?.

If you?re asexual, but were formerly heterosexual...obviously, you have a different perspective, and I don?t like to make judgements about people who I can never truly know what they?re feeling, it could?ve just been a hormonal change. And as such, you can?t choose to change your hormones, because I believe that sexuality is primarily determined by hormones, with environment probably being a secondary factor.

But I?ll give you my personal experience for a moment. A while ago (and still even now), I got so bored on my computer that I just ended up watching a lot of gay porn for a while, and although there were some things that peaked my interest (depending on the ?category?), it just didn?t do for me what porn with women did. Part of the reason I watched it was because I wanted to see if I could expand my sexual horizons and discover if I was bisexual, because I was getting a little bored with girls and wanted to see if guys could be sexually attractive too. But nope. On the other hand, I did discover that I had a fetish for transsexuals and ?traps?, so that was nice. But I don?t necessarily identify as bisexual?more like heterosexual bicurious, with a thing for androgyny and kinky blends of surface feminine characteristics with underlying masculine characteristics.

But since sexuality is so much more complicated than we think, I can guess we can never really find a true answer. I mean, there are some people who just like sex, no matter who it?s with. I mean, heck, that must pretty much be why Rule 34 exists, and I know (not personally, though?just online) an artist who draws things from across the spectrum of sexuality and sexual fetishes: straight stuff, gay stuff, trans stuff, lolicon, shotacon, rape fantasy, gore, bestiality, watersports?

Anyway, that?s just my 2 cents. I should be getting to bed now, considering I have a Politics exam in the morning.

 

[Ikasury]

*snickers* well this is a first i think... i actually get annoyed when i'm not mildly horny, everything just seems so 'boring' then... plus yes, there are Asexual people, they're... 'interesting', you can pretty much trust them to never hit on you without meaning it, or even noticing if you flirt with them, they can honestly be your best friend and be totally fine with that... the 'hard' part is getting them to take their damn pants off!! XD *cough* anywho, so you're a highly sexual, i'm assuming male from the castration comment, and want to think of sex... less... hmm... that's still weird in my brain...

i'd suggest getting a hobby, like gaming or reading or discovering the secrets of the universe, anything to get your mind off 'sex' persay, or just to make it not an immediate thought, repeat that a couple... hundred... times till it becomes a habit and presto, you now seek knowledge before sex... good job? people are all wired different, i think that since you 'acknowledge' your high libido is a good thing, its good to know about yourself, and how you function, though lowering it is 'interesting' but i suppose if BNRs get in the way, sure, why not? bonus points if its getting you in trouble... *shrugs* but think about it, when you get older and 'bored' you're gonna be pissed you have a lower libido XD

oh apathy... everyone seems to get it eventually...

but yea, hobbies, things to distract you, that old saying about 'idle hands' exists for a reason XD

as for the bonus question? i'm female, why in the world would i bother lowering my libido? i'm programmed to breed, and while that can get annoying, eh, its there, my hubby both loves and hates it, especially since he's more on the Asexual side of things and i'm on the Demisexual, its funny that there are words for these things... though i will say it gets lower with time, or your body is just 'evening out', i didn't really notice until this one time i was gaming and my husband was getting out of the shower and i didn't even bat an eye, whereas years ago i would have jumped that instantly instead of having to have it pointed out to me... though i was killing giants at the time in probably Dark Souls so that's a thing that would distract you...

 

[martyrdrebel27]

I don't mean to speak on behalf of them, but isn't that pretty offensive to asexuals? Some people just...aren't interested in sex. It's not that they can't have sexual pleasure; it's just that they're not sexually attracted to men, women, or anything inside or outside. Some can still feel romantic or emotional attraction, just like you can feel something for your siblings or a friend without sexual arousal, and some enjoy sex only when it's to satisfy their partner.

So I wouldn't say there's anything wrong with it. That kind of mindset can also lead people to think, "Oh, maybe you're just gay in denial" or "you should get yourself checked out; everyone should want sex". It's just different, is all. Remember, as recent as fifty years ago, homosexuality was still classed as a disorder, and now, in most civilised areas around the world, it's classed as just as much of a healthy sexuality as heterosexuality, the societal norm which seems to have been even more hammered into our system through media where the guy "gets the girl" at the end of the film.

okay, what i'm about to say here is going to be taken wrong, some people are gonna probably have unkind words to say, but if so, its simply because they either don't understand MY point or they don't understand humanity's point. but here goes...

being gay or asexual IS a disorder. but it's not wrong. let me explain. we are animals, an our brian, whether we like it or not, is wired to make us want to have sex with the opposite gender for the purpose of survival of the species. but the human body and brain is unfathomably complex, and sometimes it doesnt work the way the blueprint laid out. so when someone's brain is not functioning that way, its disordered. THAT IS NOT TO SAY HOMOSEXUALITY IS WRONG. far from it, it's just a genetic trait. tommy has astigmatism, johnny has a cleft pallet, and billy wants to bang tommy and johnny. it's just a variation from what the blueprint intended.

Where did you get the idea that we have sex primarily for procreation? No, seriously. People have been having sex for pleasure for donkey?s years, and the idea that ?sex should be for making babies? only came in when Christianity started demonizing anything that wasn?t unprotected missionary penis-in-vagina sex for the sole purpose of reproduction. If anything, we have sex primarily to build social bonds, and babies could just happen to be a byproduct of that. Not to mention, I think I heard a scientific theory that homosexuality arose from back when men (and women, for that matter; let?s not forget, lesbians exist!) may not have had enough women to go around for them because they?d all been taken up by the more attractive fit men, so they just started to formulate sexual bonds with their own sex. Also, it could be to curb overpopulation (if you think about how many people are having kids now, just imagine how many more there would be if everyone was straight).

Furthermore, I don?t think you seem to understand what a mental disorder actually is. The technical definition of a medical disorder is a psychological developmental anomaly that is generally associated with stress that negatively impacts on a person?s day-to-day life. For example, OCD, bipolar, generalized anxiety. People only get stressed out if they are gay because of social pressures, rather than any circuitry issue in the brain.

If i could i would become Asexual ( which ,unfortunatly ,is impossible since Asexuality is not a choice .... I think ).

Don't ever let anyone tell you their sexual preference "isn't a choice". I, myself, am an asexual, formerly heterosexual. I may be heterosexual again, one day, it depends on what happens in my life. But at the moment, I am neither attracted to men nor women, thus I will be indefinitely asexual. It's still a CHOICE - it's ALWAYS a choice - but it's based very heavily in what feels the most right and the most comfortable for me, thus making it seem like it's the "natural" path for myself; like I was born to be this way or something equally silly. This is probably what confuses a lot of people when they change their sexual preferences: they feel like they "can't go back" because they would lose face, and that their preference somehow "defines" them and makes up their personality. That they were "supposed" to be gay/straight/lesbian/bi/pan/etc.
I would recommend you take a stroll through the forums on AVEN to learn more about asexuality, so you might consider the possibility that you are indeed an asexual, but you say you often think about engaging in coitus with members of the opposite sex, ergo I believe you are still straight.

I don?t mean to go off-topic, but?no. Just no. No offence, but as much as some gay people try to make themselves straight by fucking as many women as possible, you can?t change your sexuality just by waking up in the morning and saying, ?You know what, I like men now? or ?Women no longer turn me on?, unless, for some reason, you unlocked something that was already in your brain anyway by watching so much porn that you experimented enough with your sexuality to realise you were gay or bi, or you became so desensitised to it (like how humans have become so desensitised to violence because we see it on TV and video games all the time) that you just ?burned yourself up?.

If you?re asexual, but were formerly heterosexual...obviously, you have a different perspective, and I don?t like to make judgements about people who I can never truly know what they?re feeling, it could?ve just been a hormonal change. And as such, you can?t choose to change your hormones, because I believe that sexuality is primarily determined by hormones, with environment probably being a secondary factor.

But I?ll give you my personal experience for a moment. A while ago (and still even now), I got so bored on my computer that I just ended up watching a lot of gay porn for a while, and although there were some things that peaked my interest (depending on the ?category?), it just didn?t do for me what porn with women did. Part of the reason I watched it was because I wanted to see if I could expand my sexual horizons and discover if I was bisexual, because I was getting a little bored with girls and wanted to see if guys could be sexually attractive too. But nope. On the other hand, I did discover that I had a fetish for transsexuals and ?traps?, so that was nice. But I don?t necessarily identify as bisexual?more like heterosexual bicurious, with a thing for androgyny and kinky blends of surface feminine characteristics with underlying masculine characteristics.

But since sexuality is so much more complicated than we think, I can guess we can never really find a true answer. I mean, there are some people who just like sex, no matter who it?s with. I mean, heck, that must pretty much be why Rule 34 exists, and I know (not personally, though?just online) an artist who draws things from across the spectrum of sexuality and sexual fetishes: straight stuff, gay stuff, trans stuff, lolicon, shotacon, rape fantasy, gore, bestiality, watersports?

Anyway, that?s just my 2 cents. I should be getting to bed now, considering I have a Politics exam in the morning.

you don't seem to understand... uh... reality, i guess? we have sex for procreation. that is the point of sex. always has been. yes, we achieve other things with it, like you said, social bonding and such. but sex is for procreation. thats just a fact. the fact that it feels good is an incentive for us to do it.

also, if you don't think mental disorders can be genetic, you are again just wrong.

 

[Wraith]

Watch scat porn....if....if..if you're not into it that is. If you are, that's cool, I don't judge, but I find watching and/or thinking of something that's a hard tunr off can end any randy thoughts very quickly.

 

[Ikasury]

Where did you get the idea that we have sex primarily for procreation? No, seriously. People have been having sex for pleasure for donkey?s years, and the idea that ?sex should be for making babies? only came in when Christianity started demonizing anything that wasn?t unprotected missionary penis-in-vagina sex for the sole purpose of reproduction. If anything, we have sex primarily to build social bonds, and babies could just happen to be a byproduct of that. Not to mention, I think I heard a scientific theory that homosexuality arose from back when men (and women, for that matter; let?s not forget, lesbians exist!) may not have had enough women to go around for them because they?d all been taken up by the more attractive fit men, so they just started to formulate sexual bonds with their own sex. Also, it could be to curb overpopulation (if you think about how many people are having kids now, just imagine how many more there would be if everyone was straight).

Furthermore, I don?t think you seem to understand what a mental disorder actually is. The technical definition of a medical disorder is a psychological developmental anomaly that is generally associated with stress that negatively impacts on a person?s day-to-day life. For example, OCD, bipolar, generalized anxiety. People only get stressed out if they are gay because of social pressures, rather than any circuitry issue in the brain.

actually sex's main function, no matter how you look at it, is for 'procreation', from a biological stand-point, that's what its for... just like boobs are for feeding offspring not being fondled by whoever... its just that we, as humans, via our evolution somehow figured out by whatever means that if we 'enjoy sex' we're more likely to have it, more likely to breed, more likely to have children and our species would continue to exist... with the advent of 'culture' sex became a means of dominance and pleasure, the reason we have 'pleasure sex' is really just because we're at a point in our evolution where we're twiddling our thumbs and have nothing better to do, the only 'threats' to humans are other humans, we make our own problems and ***** about it, so since we're so freakin' bored we'll literally just do anything that gets our attention, Ie: is pleasurable, and thus our ancestries development of 'reward for breeding' has become as frivolous as it is today... we don't NEED to continue the species, we just do it cause it feels good...

as for what the other guy was saying, actually most 'orientation' is genetic to a point, environment plays a part, just like any other nature vs. nurture thing, but genetics and mutation does mean a lot... there's nothing wrong with stating 'gays are wired differently' because typically they are, my brother's gay and he did this study and had a brain scan and pretty much how his brain is wired is the same as a woman's, he likes men because he's wired to like them, this is actually pretty typical if you do any kind of research on the subject of homosexuality, which he got into a lot and i learned via him, but most 'gays' (men and women) are really that, biologically 'off', same as someone with their heart on the wrong side or progeria, its a genetic variance, so what? environment then affects weather or not they accept this or try to go against it, 'choosing to follow society' or 'choosing to follow their instinct', simple as that, i just kinda wish more people were aware of it or that it wasn't such a freakin' 'issue' for everyone... plus with how men are designed it makes sense they'd like it a little anyway even if they're not 'wired gay' *snorts* not to mention all the other 'things' we've invented... now there are those without the 'genetic variance' and for whatever reason like their own sex, humans we come in all flavours, even 'new' ones... personally i feel this can also be blamed on lowering testosterone and higher estrogen rates, but that's a whole other thing dealing with industrial bs~

I don?t mean to go off-topic, but?no. Just no. No offence, but as much as some gay people try to make themselves straight by fucking as many women as possible, you can?t change your sexuality just by waking up in the morning and saying, ?You know what, I like men now? or ?Women no longer turn me on?, unless, for some reason, you unlocked something that was already in your brain anyway by watching so much porn that you experimented enough with your sexuality to realise you were gay or bi, or you became so desensitised to it (like how humans have become so desensitised to violence because we see it on TV and video games all the time) that you just ?burned yourself up?.

If you?re asexual, but were formerly heterosexual...obviously, you have a different perspective, and I don?t like to make judgements about people who I can never truly know what they?re feeling, it could?ve just been a hormonal change. And as such, you can?t choose to change your hormones, because I believe that sexuality is primarily determined by hormones, with environment probably being a secondary factor.

But I?ll give you my personal experience for a moment. A while ago (and still even now), I got so bored on my computer that I just ended up watching a lot of gay porn for a while, and although there were some things that peaked my interest (depending on the ?category?), it just didn?t do for me what porn with women did. Part of the reason I watched it was because I wanted to see if I could expand my sexual horizons and discover if I was bisexual, because I was getting a little bored with girls and wanted to see if guys could be sexually attractive too. But nope. On the other hand, I did discover that I had a fetish for transsexuals and ?traps?, so that was nice. But I don?t necessarily identify as bisexual?more like heterosexual bicurious, with a thing for androgyny and kinky blends of surface feminine characteristics with underlying masculine characteristics.

But since sexuality is so much more complicated than we think, I can guess we can never really find a true answer. I mean, there are some people who just like sex, no matter who it?s with. I mean, heck, that must pretty much be why Rule 34 exists, and I know (not personally, though?just online) an artist who draws things from across the spectrum of sexuality and sexual fetishes: straight stuff, gay stuff, trans stuff, lolicon, shotacon, rape fantasy, gore, bestiality, watersports?

Anyway, that?s just my 2 cents. I should be getting to bed now, considering I have a Politics exam in the morning.

asexual and heterosexual are two different categories...

lets say that 'orientation' is Hetero, Homo, Bi: these affect what we're 'interested in' as preferred partners and is generally 'physical' in its set up... other sex, same sex, both... no one is truly 'straight' or truly 'gay' the Kinsey Scale effectively proved that...

'Sexuality' would then be Asexual, Demisexual, Sexual (we'll leave Pan and Trans in another category since they deal with something 'else') basically this is HOW you are attracted, its more mental... and Asexual person is generally NOT INTERESTED for whatever reason, they got bored, a flip switched in their head, whatever... a Demisexual person is someone that is ONLY attracted to things with high emotional value, they typically tread the line between A/Sexual because they are only turned on by something/one very specific for typically highly emotional reasons... for a better example, i consider myself Demi, as in a crowd of people i could care less, men, women, attractive, ugly, young, old, they all register the same to me 'not interesting'... but my husband walks into a room i'm probably going to rip his clothes off and have my way with him (he likes it don't worry) so while to a crowd of people i'd be seen as Asexual as i have no interest, while to my husband i'd be considered HIGHLY SEXUAL as... well... yea, the whole clothes ripping thing, and it has little if anything to do with 'physical traits', as he could suddenly turn into a woman and i'd still do the same, as it is 'Laser-Guided 'love'' *snickers* people who experience 'love at first sight' would fall under this or something like it... and like i was saying 'Sexual' people just generally like sex, no way around it, they want it, need it, crave it, and a vast majority of people i feel are this... lots of useless procreation for base pleasure...

as for what attracts us beyond those factors *shrugs* that's a WHOLE OTHER mess of psychological bullshit, guys are more physical, women are turned on by fear, those can be explained away by basic hominid instinct things, but a lot of it comes down the that, instinctively what attracts us, pleases us, and rewards us...

 

[DavidBowieNoReally]

I've heard smoking cigarettes lowers your libido... that and castrations.

 

[Johnny Novgorod]

Rather than repressing your drive you could channel it into something productive, or something that will at least keep your mind busy for long intervals of time.

 

[gazumped]

It might be different for me as a female, but I find my libido is pretty much none existent if I keep myself occupied. For instance, I've been dead busy for the last couple of weeks and I just realised I don't even remember the last time I wanted to masturbate.

actually sex's main function, no matter how you look at it, is for 'procreation', from a biological stand-point, that's what its for... just like boobs are for feeding offspring not being fondled by whoever... its just that we, as humans, via our evolution somehow figured out by whatever means that if we 'enjoy sex' we're more likely to have it, more likely to breed, more likely to have children and our species would continue to exist...

That's the thing, though, now that we've evolved to 'enjoy' sex, it has a different main function. You say procreation is the main function no matter how you look at it, but look at it like this: How do you explain so many people wanting to have sex and not want babies? Why do people tend to use contraception? Do all people who don't have any desire to procreate but want to have sex have a mental disorder? Why do people want to have sex even when they're infertile, or at a less fertile stage of their cycle?

Animals who don't get sensual pleasure from sex (which is almost all of them) will only have sexual intercourse at certain times, when the female's body is fertile and ready to reproduce. For the animals who do get pleasure from sex (I'm only aware of this being the case in dolphins, humans and some apes) they'll have sex whenever. Biologists suggest that lesbian sex between Bonobo chimpanzees is to strengthen emotional bonds, for example. http://www.blockbonobofoundation.org/

 

[Lord Kloo]

Have your balls cut off with a hot knife, anesthetic is optional.

Bonus: Become master of spies in a fantasy realm somewhere.

Additional Bonus: Become a Eunuch guard for a harem, assuming any still exist, its good pay and not very dangerous.

Or just masturbate more, seriously works really well and completely fools the penis into being quiet for a few hours.

 

[Silvanus]

being gay or asexual IS a disorder. but it's not wrong. let me explain. we are animals, an our brian, whether we like it or not, is wired to make us want to have sex with the opposite gender for the purpose of survival of the species. but the human body and brain is unfathomably complex, and sometimes it doesnt work the way the blueprint laid out. so when someone's brain is not functioning that way, its disordered. THAT IS NOT TO SAY HOMOSEXUALITY IS WRONG. far from it, it's just a genetic trait. tommy has astigmatism, johnny has a cleft pallet, and billy wants to bang tommy and johnny. it's just a variation from what the blueprint intended.

Don't worry, I'm not going to say what you think I'm going to say.


However, I don't agree. You say, "a variation from what the blueprint intended"-- but, there is no "intention" in evolution. There is no guiding will. Biological characteristics either survive or die out, and very often, the more useful a trait is, the more likely it is to live on in future generations.

But, there is no "intention" to go against; it's a natural process, with no will, and not everything in biology is beneficial to procreation. If homosexuality is not evolved out of us, that doesn't mean it is a disorder. It doesn't mean a thing. It cannot be a "variation from what the blueprint intended", because there is no intention at any stage in this natural process. Homosexuality is merely a characteristic, and the term "disorder" is better reserved for that which harms the species.