is it wrong for guys to shed tears?
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I don't think that is wrong to shed tears as a guy.
In my case,I try to hide it when I'm in public.The only exception there being at funerals.
In my case,I try to hide it when I'm in public.The only exception there being at funerals.
Crying is fucking awesome, although I rarely cry. In 10 years, the only time I've ever cried was the ending of Air, a fairly unknown anime show. I shed 4 tears. And it was awesome.
Well reasoned, but the dilemma still remains: You said that one should not get overly emotional over minor things (which triggered this whole discussion) but you also said that one should not bottle up their emotions. Suppose that despite finding a creative outlet for their emotions, they still have a hard time dealing with setbacks, big and small. If they should not unleash their emotions (i.e crying) at every setback but at the same time not bottle them up, they find themselves in a tricky situation, as both their options are "wrong". Also, let's add a little spice to make this situation a bit more interesting: Suppose them showing their emotions is causing people close to them harm in some way. Then what? Is it still preferable to not bottle up emotions?Amondren said:
Or have I over-analysed this and you are saying that letting your emotions flow is the lesser of two evils in this dilemma?
Wrong? No, of course not. It's nobody's business but the crier. That said, I wouldn't feel comfortable crying at all, and especially not in public - it's not a way in which I like to deal with things. I much prefer to maintain the stiff upper lip and remain dignified at all times.
As much as it might be denied, the man represents his families strength. In no manner is the man allowed to cry, as it would make his family look weak.
I suspect this behavior goes a long way back, but I am not entirely sure.
Single? Do what the fuck you please so long as you don't care at all.
I suspect this behavior goes a long way back, but I am not entirely sure.
Single? Do what the fuck you please so long as you don't care at all.
I think it is important to express emotion. This trait and our ability to rationalize it separates humanity from most animals. However, I do not support being a whiny little emo-kid, who cries when something unimportant takes place. Emotion is a powerful thing, and it would underplay its power for me to say that you shouldn't cry when you see something distressing, be it soldiers on the news, or that one scene from James Cameron's Avatar where the big tree falls over.
I think crying is wrong if you are crying about something that only effects you. You are just wasting energy that could otherwise be used fixing your problem, instead of making yourself feel worse.
Yes I think men can cry. Should they cry as often as women? Absolutely not. Men have taken a beating in the gender war recently, and while I agree with equality, I don't think that means we should start acting like girls.
(edit)The genders have a lot to learn from each other, I will admit, but we also have to decide what qualities we are unwilling to relinquish. I think the ability to grit our teeth and banish thoughts of sorrow lest they sap our strength, is something men need to cling to with all their might. You may want to cry when the dragon burns your village, but the time for that only comes once you have sliced that pyromanic-reptile's head clean off, capiche?
I think crying is wrong if you are crying about something that only effects you. You are just wasting energy that could otherwise be used fixing your problem, instead of making yourself feel worse.
Yes I think men can cry. Should they cry as often as women? Absolutely not. Men have taken a beating in the gender war recently, and while I agree with equality, I don't think that means we should start acting like girls.
(edit)The genders have a lot to learn from each other, I will admit, but we also have to decide what qualities we are unwilling to relinquish. I think the ability to grit our teeth and banish thoughts of sorrow lest they sap our strength, is something men need to cling to with all their might. You may want to cry when the dragon burns your village, but the time for that only comes once you have sliced that pyromanic-reptile's head clean off, capiche?
I'm perfectly happy for men to cry as much as they want. I have dated a guy or two who wouldn't and it infuriated me, they didn't know how to express anything they felt they had no idea.
Everyone is allowed to cry, it is the best form of stress relief and anti depressant next to sex.
Everyone is allowed to cry, it is the best form of stress relief and anti depressant next to sex.
