Is my buddy sexist? Or does he make a little sense?
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it's pretty funny when people ***** that chivalry is dead, not realizing that chivalry is just the light side of the chauvinism coin, misogyny being the dark side.
i hold doors open for people of either gender, and i'm not likely to do any special favors for females. they want equality, that's it.
i hold doors open for people of either gender, and i'm not likely to do any special favors for females. they want equality, that's it.
Yes, he is sexist, saying that women in general cannot do things for themselves, is sexist. If he said "Why don't you do it for yourself" that would be a valid point.
It?s an overreaction to a small occurrence and the only reason the point came up is because she happened to be female. What would the reaction be if a male did this? It isn?t an unlikely occurrence since people in general can be lazy sometimes. She didn?t ask because she?s a week female she asked because she?s like everyone else, a little lazy sometimes.
The statement and your friend are sexist only because the specific point was made because of her gender when it probably had nothing to do with gender.
The statement and your friend are sexist only because the specific point was made because of her gender when it probably had nothing to do with gender.
It's hard to judge honestly. If he had said that comment BEFORE the argument, then yes he's sexist. But since he said that based upon what the girl said it might not be. Was he rude? Maybe but considering I've been in similar situations, I'm not sure.
In itself it's a sticky situation we guys have. Something is big and heavy we are to assist in carrying for the lady; it's the right thing to do. Now if we are lugging something big and awkward I have yet to see any female try to assist in any way. To be chivalrous and kind at all times, and yet not expect the same in return. It's accepted as the norm. Equals and yet not equals. Fun times indeed.
In itself it's a sticky situation we guys have. Something is big and heavy we are to assist in carrying for the lady; it's the right thing to do. Now if we are lugging something big and awkward I have yet to see any female try to assist in any way. To be chivalrous and kind at all times, and yet not expect the same in return. It's accepted as the norm. Equals and yet not equals. Fun times indeed.
Is his statement true? Yes, I think it is. In the context of your story though I have to make an assumption. Where ever the girl asked him to take her papers to he was originally intending to go there. I this was the case and he still got all pissy then he's being a dick.
You mentioned that people do this all the time. Why didn't he say something similar about whatever other demographics asked as I imagine that it's not only females who do so.
Also, I feel I should point this out. It's asking him to put a book back. My friends and I do similar things for each other all the time, and don't feel the need to state that we're not independent, equal individuals. The sexism in his behaviour arises from his singling out of one demographic based on one person who asked him something that is far from uncommon, and in the fact that he didn't think "Man, if blondes/brunettes/students/nerds/young people want equality they should do things for them selves," it was women.
Also, I feel I should point this out. It's asking him to put a book back. My friends and I do similar things for each other all the time, and don't feel the need to state that we're not independent, equal individuals. The sexism in his behaviour arises from his singling out of one demographic based on one person who asked him something that is far from uncommon, and in the fact that he didn't think "Man, if blondes/brunettes/students/nerds/young people want equality they should do things for them selves," it was women.
no not really, its a fair point, if not overly simplified.
theres a strong argument for what your friend has said, its one of the main arguments used against some of the extremer schools of sexism
theres a strong argument for what your friend has said, its one of the main arguments used against some of the extremer schools of sexism
Well, he does have a point in general. The whole gender equality argument kind of falls flat when you hear about working women divorcing their stay-at-home husbands because apparently men lose all their sex appeal when they're not the major breadwinners, and expecting men to always leave the toilet seat down when (all things equal) it would be perfectly reasonable to expect women to leave the seat up instead.
However, the girl in question was just asking your friend for a favor, and the whole "gender equality =/= actual equality" argument doesn't really apply.
However, the girl in question was just asking your friend for a favor, and the whole "gender equality =/= actual equality" argument doesn't really apply.
I think that everybody is forgetting that he was arguing withe her about it and probably used that as a conversation killer so her could get on with his day.
It is sexist, but because he assumed that she was asking because she was female.
If another bloke had asked him instead what would have been his response?
If another bloke had asked him instead what would have been his response?
