Is she worth it?

[SiskoBlue]

I find it strange that somehow you're being painted as the villian? Admittedly it seems no one KNEW you were burning a candle for her but you're the loser in this battle (not saying your a loser). You've liked this girl, and he's liked this girl. He told her first and got her. You missed your chance and don't have her. I can see him being a little mad that you said it after you found out they got together but frankly he got her so he doesn't have a lot to complain about.

On the flip side you can't blame him either. If he didn't know you liked her then that just leaves you kicking yourself for not saying something sooner. Which you are.

If your also taking the high road and stating you plan to keep your distance and not interfer in their relationship (which means not talking about it to ANYONE that knows them, just so we're clear) then that's it.

But if this monkey prefers to punch things than talk to them then he's not going to be a logical bloke. I'd doubt he'd fight you. This isn't the 17th century so duelling isn't likely, and it's not an 80s film so I doubt there will be any downhill ski race for her affection. It's a threat to establish dominance and a fairly empty one at that.

I'd state your case to your friends. This is what happened, this is what I feel, and this is what I'm going to do. Then just walk away from it. Unfortunately, this is always going to taint your friendship with him and any relationship you have with her. When they break up (no if about it) you will get blamed regardless. The less contact you have with either of them the less that blame has something to stick to.

Good luck. And well done for being someone who actually told a girl they liked her (albeit a bit too late).

 

[artanis_neravar]

Yeah, they're still dating, if they weren't I'd have asked her out already. When we talked again she said she was speechless and confused so I told her I thought it would be better if I left her alone. I did that for two reasons. One is so she could gather her thoughts and the second is the fact that I thought he'd be offended if I kept talking to her.

That was probably the right thing to do

I think he understands how much I love her but I don't think he likes it, if he's willing to end our friendship over her then I think he WILL hold a grudge, that might even screw over a lot more of my friendships because of that for multiple reasons. One is because he introduced me to a lot of people like two of his ex-girlfriends and his neighbor with whom I've become good friends with. Another is the fact that he might spread rumors like I stole his girl, or that I stalked his girl, or that I'm gay which will eliminate all of my other friends. I really can't afford to loose this friendship.

If he's willing to end the friendship over this then he isn't worth it in all honestly. Most of your other friends should understand, assuming that they are reasonable people, and not just take his word for it.

 

[thegirlwiththesoap]

This is exactally what I was afraid was going to happen when I told my boyfriend that I have been in love with him for five years. I think it would be worth it because then everything is at least out in the open for everyone. I hope it works out for you in the end.