Well shit, I was going to say some witty joke but I forgot the same thing happened to me. And still is!
Is there a way to fall OUT of love?
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3 questions/points from me;
- Why exactly do you want to fall out of love with her? Are you sure she doesn't reciprocate? Or are you experiencing heavy self-doubt and are convinced it's a dead end? I'd really like to know more about the 'why' than the 'how' you're asking for.
- In all likelihood, even if things went perfectly with this girl, you'd not end up marrying her or settling down anyway, so put that into perspective. You're young enough to be in the stage where you start learning some of the basic lessons of life and in this case, feelings/sexuality. Dive into them. The sooner you take the emotional punches, the sooner you're going to learn how to avoid them.
- This seems really silly alongside everything in the thread, but how many sugary drinks and snacks do you get through? High sugar intake can have some serious drawbacks, especially on an adolescent mind. Depression, anxiety, you name it, sugar has caused it. I cut back (didn't stop, mind you) on refined sugar like a year back (mostly stopped drinking Coke and sodas), after reading a column on depression and doing a little research, and I'm not kidding you, my state of mind has been so much better for it. No sugar highs, no sugar lows. Sorry if this last part sounds a little preachy and off-topic, just thought I'd share the one thing that seems to have worked for me.
- Why exactly do you want to fall out of love with her? Are you sure she doesn't reciprocate? Or are you experiencing heavy self-doubt and are convinced it's a dead end? I'd really like to know more about the 'why' than the 'how' you're asking for.
- In all likelihood, even if things went perfectly with this girl, you'd not end up marrying her or settling down anyway, so put that into perspective. You're young enough to be in the stage where you start learning some of the basic lessons of life and in this case, feelings/sexuality. Dive into them. The sooner you take the emotional punches, the sooner you're going to learn how to avoid them.
- This seems really silly alongside everything in the thread, but how many sugary drinks and snacks do you get through? High sugar intake can have some serious drawbacks, especially on an adolescent mind. Depression, anxiety, you name it, sugar has caused it. I cut back (didn't stop, mind you) on refined sugar like a year back (mostly stopped drinking Coke and sodas), after reading a column on depression and doing a little research, and I'm not kidding you, my state of mind has been so much better for it. No sugar highs, no sugar lows. Sorry if this last part sounds a little preachy and off-topic, just thought I'd share the one thing that seems to have worked for me.
I want to fall out of love because I......don't really know....Jinjiro said:3 questions/points from me;
- Why exactly do you want to fall out of love with her? Are you sure she doesn't reciprocate? Or are you experiencing heavy self-doubt and are convinced it's a dead end? I'd really like to know more about the 'why' than the 'how' you're asking for.
- In all likelihood, even if things went perfectly with this girl, you'd not end up marrying her or settling down anyway, so put that into perspective. You're young enough to be in the stage where you start learning some of the basic lessons of life and in this case, feelings/sexuality. Dive into them. The sooner you take the emotional punches, the sooner you're going to learn how to avoid them.
- This seems really silly alongside everything in the thread, but how many sugary drinks and snacks do you get through? High sugar intake can have some serious drawbacks, especially on an adolescent mind. Depression, anxiety, you name it, sugar has caused it. I cut back (didn't stop, mind you) on refined sugar like a year back (mostly stopped drinking Coke and sodas), after reading a column on depression and doing a little research, and I'm not kidding you, my state of mind has been so much better for it. No sugar highs, no sugar lows. Sorry if this last part sounds a little preachy and off-topic, just thought I'd share the one thing that seems to have worked for me.
I suppose some advice that might work is to attempt to find someone else to love. It's similar to when you have a song stuck in your head, you can think of a different song to get it out.
I've read through every post, and I'm going to tell you what others have said.
You need serious psychiatric help. Stop posting on a forum and do it now.
Too many people here rely on The Escapist to solve their personal problems. It may not be the WORST course of action, but it's lazy and ineffective. Also, you've been ignored Bruin because you believe he has verbally attacked you. While he may have been a bit harsh, he is correct in every post. You are not in love. You are infatuated with this girl, and the feelings will pass. If they do not, you have become mentally unstable, and you need to get psychiatric help. You said you already do see a psychologist, if you actually do, you need to tell him/her that whatever you're doing isn't working.
If you are having such a big problem here, you need to fix it rationally before it gets worse. That is all that I will say, because I've summarized everything that other people have told you that is actually the correct thing to do. Having sex could possibly make things worse. Trying to imagine her differently is just a poor way of dealing with it.
Of course, I am not a professional psychologist. And neither are 99% of people here. Which is why you should go to a professional and stop asking serious personal questions like this on an internet forum.
You need serious psychiatric help. Stop posting on a forum and do it now.
Too many people here rely on The Escapist to solve their personal problems. It may not be the WORST course of action, but it's lazy and ineffective. Also, you've been ignored Bruin because you believe he has verbally attacked you. While he may have been a bit harsh, he is correct in every post. You are not in love. You are infatuated with this girl, and the feelings will pass. If they do not, you have become mentally unstable, and you need to get psychiatric help. You said you already do see a psychologist, if you actually do, you need to tell him/her that whatever you're doing isn't working.
If you are having such a big problem here, you need to fix it rationally before it gets worse. That is all that I will say, because I've summarized everything that other people have told you that is actually the correct thing to do. Having sex could possibly make things worse. Trying to imagine her differently is just a poor way of dealing with it.
Of course, I am not a professional psychologist. And neither are 99% of people here. Which is why you should go to a professional and stop asking serious personal questions like this on an internet forum.
Brutally honest works I guess: 1. I would hate myself if she would ever be unhappy. 2. I would feel terrible if anything bad ever happens to her. 3. I think I would go insane if I continue like this.Jinjiro said:Be brutally honest with yourself, it's for your own goodJudgement101 said:
Firstly, let me start off by saying I don't know you. Generally, with me, that means I don't care. I don't really care about somebody starving halfway across the world. Call me an animal, but it's true--I watch those infomercials that say that I'm sleeping in my warm bed and a kid's starving, so I should give it $20.Judgement101 said:
But we both know that we really don't care and we would rather use that $20 that we'll see the fruits of.
So, with that logical reasoning part out of the way I'll say this: I don't care.
I don't care if you take my advice. If you pout and stamp your feet and tell me I'm a big meanie that "verbally attacked" you, it's not going to make me feel any more or less compassion for you. If it did, it'd probably be the latter of those two, but in any case, if you don't want to listen to somebody who has experience in the area and you'd rather go on living out some fantastical lie, go ahead.
I don't care.
"I am 16"Judgement101 said:
Seriously. Stop. This is shit nobody cares about because everyone already got over it and realized they were dumb.
You are judging me and you literally have no idea who I am. What worked for you doesn't work for everyone. You aren't an all knowing being who can solve everything with no effort.Bruin said:
Do I really seem angry in my posts?mythicdawn12 said:"I am 16"Judgement101 said:
Seriously. Stop. This is shit nobody cares about because everyone already got over it and realized they were dumb.
