Issues with flatmates

[LukeUK90]

I had the same problem last year, I moved to uni and didn;t have a choice who I lived with.
There were these girls upstairs who played load and very shit (Seriously shit) music all the time. At first I banged on the ceiling a bit and they stopped for a few mins before turning it right back up.
After several weeks of annoyance to the extreame and many attempts at a peaceful resolution i walked upstaris, kicked their door in and gave them a right bollocking.
They were terrified of me from that point and didn't really do it anymore.
Hope that helps.

 

[Murlin]

Spoiler: Hmm?

If not, piss her off, but big time (stuff itching powder in her bra, cut of her electricity and pretend not to hear when she asks you) but do wear some protective armor in case she attacks you for doing stuff like that.
If even that doesn't help, frame her for something so she gets kicked out.

Now I'm out of advice

 

[Trivun]

I have a very very pissy flatmate who doesn't talk to me, and basically ignores me. She has her own everything- like her own washing up liquid- pots and pans, knives forks, toilet paper- everything.

She plays very loud (Im mean wall shaking) Dance and house music almost all day- and is otherwise generally hostile.

I'm wondering is anyone can give me advice regarding as*hole flatmates?

-and now she's playing metallica?! Obviously she's just trying to piss me off now by playing what every her loudest music is... pity for her I spent alot of my teens in a Metallica cover band...

I seriously hate this girl. Shes a ****ing *****.

Plz escapist people help me.

is it your name on the lease? then just kick her out

if it's hers then have a talk with her and try to explain that while you respect that it's her flat you would like if she turned down the music a bit, meanwhile be lookin for a new place to live. that way if she doesn't make any sacrifices you can just leave and dump the burrden of looking after the whole place on her

According to the guy's profile he's either in Ireland or Scotland at univeristy, I think. Hence Britain. So it'll most likely be that he's staying in rented accomodation in which case both names will be on the contract. That's what it was like for me, I'm currently living with nine other people and all our names are on the contract with the landlord.

Anyway, I would seriously just tell the OP that he should talk to her and let her know his concerns. If he can't, or if she ignores him, then he should tell the landlord. Get evidence (video and audio, preferably) and present it to the landlord. Talk to any neighbours who may also be concerned or inconvenienced by the loud music and so on. Basically just complain the hell to anyone you can to try and get some action taken.

I actually had slight problems myself this year, well, not me personally, but me and my housemates in general. Basically one guy who we were living with (we all stayed together in university accomodation last year so the ten of us rented a huge house together this year as well) decided to drop out of university. Not for any course related reason, he was having problems with his ex-girlfriend who's also a friend of ours, so instead of growing a pair he decided to just leave the entire university and city and go home. He even had the cheek to tell the landlord that he was leaving for 'family reasons' and say that his mother was ill (not entirely sure if that's actually true, but it probably isn't given the circumstances). Anyway, we have a new housemate now, and she's generally quite friendly, so it ended well on the whole. Still, this guy could have at least grown a pair of balls instead of dropping out of university over one girl...

 

[Tactician42]

Buy a polka cd. Then turn it up to eleven.

 

[smithy1234]

Punch her. Punch her right in the head.

I approve this message and give it the "official good idea" stamp of approval. It is now illegal for the poster to refuse this good idea.

 

[JDviewer]

Is she your only flatmate? If theres others in th flat, see what they think and then talk to her. If its just the two of you you can make it clear that if she doesn't become at least civil, then she can pay the bills herself, especially the electricity bill by the sounds of it.

 

[Danpascooch]

What do you want from us? She's a *****, and she is not going to change

You have to leave, its not pretty, but there's no other solution

EDIT: If it's your name on the lease, then the solution is MUCH MUCH easier, kick the ***** out, no muss, no fuss.

 

[coldshadow]

stalk her as a ninja, then scare teh crap out of her

 

[Danpascooch]

stalk her as a ninja, then scare teh crap out of her

Yeah, that's practical, and if you pull it off, she would be a completely new person, both respectful and nice

 

[Emperor Inferno]

Falcon Punch.

This, as well as kick her out. Don't even bother trying to talk to her about it, just give her the boot. Or, if you can't, move out yourself.

See? There's a simple solution to almost every problem.

 

[kannibus]

I had a similar problem to you back when I was in school. I solved it, eventually by moving out, but before I did that I very obviously and very suggestively began sharpening my butcher knives whenever my housemates were in the vicinity. Believe me, that quiet rasp of steel on stone will do horrors to your little problem's sanity. Heh, I got it to the point where every time I went to the drawer, the little punks ran for their room and locked themselves in. Like international politics, the threat of OVERWHELMING violence often does wonders.

 

[Olikunmissile]

...Actually, i would say go in there and tell her to sleep with you..

This sounds like one of those real "opposites attract" scenarios.


She's looking for you to treat her like crap, so go in there and dominate, dammit! DOMINATE!

Would you be surprised if I told you just how true that was? It's worked for me, *fist bump anyone?* I may actually go as far as seconding the opinion, what may have meant to of been silly, is right on the money.

 

[sms_117b]

Fight back with late night video games at a similar noise level, or early morning after she's been out drinking, again at similar noise levels, oh she'll know your pain almost instantly.

 

[Cilliandrew]

...Actually, i would say go in there and tell her to sleep with you..

This sounds like one of those real "opposites attract" scenarios.


She's looking for you to treat her like crap, so go in there and dominate, dammit! DOMINATE!

Would you be surprised if I told you just how true that was? It's worked for me, *fist bump anyone?* I may actually go as far as seconding the opinion, what may have meant to of been silly, is right on the money.

*fist bump* Naw, i was totally serious with my response (not sure if it came across otherwise?) I really do believe that this is a situation ripe for the cunning man to "get some".

 

[Soulkiller3]

When shes out shit in her bed

 

[_Janny_]

I fail to see how having her own everything is bad, it might just mean that she hates sharing. As for the music... just try to talk to her and tell her that if she doesn't stop, you'll call the police. Seriously, call the police, what she's doing is disturbing the peace.

 

[MrTub]

Plant some drugs in her things and then call security

 

[Nepeccel]

It will be on the Uni accomidation contract that she can't play music that loudly and distract people. Don't let it mess up your studies because you're paying enough for it, go to the campus security office/accomidation office and put in a complaint. She will get booted out and another person will get her room.

Or threaten her with that unless she doesn't turn it down

 

[Sneaklemming]

Punch her. Punch her right in the head.

Falcon Punch.

Instinct is a powerful thing.

Time to start looking for a new place to live.

Thats probably more sensible though.

Wow guys, thanks for the advice- So I was on the phone to my landlord earlier...

Hang on first to clear up some stuff-

Is she your only flatmate?

Are you in the U.S or Australia?

I'm living in Scotland so we're both on the lease- there is three of us in the flat, the other two have been here for 2 years and I moved in, in September. I also have a cat here with me, which is where I think the hostility is stemming from, although it might not be.

I've been doing passive aggressive stuff, like water all over the bathroom; not washing dishes; cleaning; etc.

Someone mentioned firealarms earlier- and well I did set off a firealarm (accidently) at 4am-ish, because I burnt some toast, and it was only like a week into September so I didn't know how to turn it off...

So my landlord called me about an hour ago; telling me that my flatmate- (the one in question) is actually allergic to cats now. So either she really hates cats, or believes that if the landlord forces me to remove my cat, then I will also go.

So she's won
I'm taking the cat home until Christmas to my parents house- and then I'll be finding a new place for after Christmas.

I can tell you now, that she is not even sightly allergic to cats.

So the only silver lining in all of this? I had intended to move out asap- but the way it works here is that you sign a contract to live in the apartment for X amount of months, which in this case was a year. I'm sure there are similar conditions elsewhere.

But my landlord said that; because they had asked me to take the cat from the flat; that they would not bind me to the contract, and that I could move out as soon as I found a place.

So no Guerilla Apartment-fare, and unfortunately no FALCON PUNCH!

Thanks for the advice guys.

also on two more notes- I censored myself, because I'd probably be banned if I said what I wanted to- and she has a boyfriend who lives here on weekends and doesn't pay rent. Hopefully that will piss her off when she can't do that anymore.

1st- Talk to her, tell her or tell another flatmate to tell her if she wont listen, to please be a bit more considerate. Tell her you wouldn't mind the music if it was a bit quieter. As for having her own stuff-thats a non-issue, some people are like that.

2nd- If she still plays little miss ***** with you, tell your landlords or whomever is in charge of the property.

3rd- If these don't work, look to move out, or suggest she do that.

4th- If none of these work, Falcon Punch.

This made me laugh for so long...

I fail to see how having her own everything is bad, it might just mean that she hates sharing.

This actually pissed me off very very much; its the main issue I have. When you can't even talk to your flatmate, and they live as separate a life as possible, without even giving me a chance. From day one- all I got was bulshit from this girl. I had to go out and buy forks and pots; because this ***** thought that she could elbow me out by generally doing the most petty thing you call; pulling shit on the grounds of ownership.

If you do this in your flat, ask your flatmates how it feels when they run out of toilet paper in the middle of the night, but know that you have shitloads, but you're too fukkin greedy to share.

It's a dick move.

Like international politics, the threat of OVERWHELMING violence often does wonders.

That's actually called "coercive diplomacy" =P

Fight back with late night video games at a similar noise level.

I believe she should be familiar with all the sound effects of 'Borderlands' by at the very least the end of the week.

I dunno ask her to sit down and have very srs talk.

I spoke with her in the first 24hrs of arriving (I had the flu, but I tried my best to be nice) since the first day or so over a month ago now- I believe I have said in the region of 5 - 10 words to her

Anyway thanks for all the advice, every 'falcon punch' post made me happier and happier

..and sorry for all the spelling mistakes, because I know there will be a few.

EDIT: I find it so funny that most people's reaction to a problem is to have sex with it... "Oh look the TVs broken.."