It feels kinda weird asking this on a forum, but I need help with this.

[Generic Hero]

The way I sometimes find out if a girl fancys me is asking them "If you were trapped on a desert island with one person you know, who would it be?". If they say you, chances are they fancy you. Bit corny but it's the only simple way I try to find out when I'm not sure. Or you can go with the more risky ask her friends bout it, but it might backfire if there the gossipy type.

 

[Zac_Dai]

Hey, I'm a girl, I'll help!

As it has been a few months after her break up, I very much doubt she's on the rebound. If I split up with my boyfriend today, I'd probably run over to my best boy mates house, and hug him because I'd need to feel the comfort of a man again.
It sounds like she does like you, when a girl likes you, they'll touch you for no reason, just an excuse to get closer to you.
She's probably shy about making the first move incase she ruins your friendship, like any person would be.
Try to arrange more alone time together. We expect guys to make the first move, but that's not the law, of course! Like some others on this thread said, if neither of you make the first move, then you're probably not ready. As for the dream... I believe they tell us a lot. I know they are our sub concious thoughts and whatever you do before bed will most likely be in your dream (it is for me anyway).
I think God answered your prayer.
Good luck.

This girl basically reinforces what me and falcontwin said.

 

[sidhe3141]

A literal precognitive dream about someone means they figure into your future.

A feeling after such a dream should be acted on.

A change of minor details in a literal vision (specific dialouge, hair color, background elements) is meaningless interference from the subconcious.

Interpretation: Your destinies are intertwined, but a romance simply isn't meant to be. Attempting to repair your relationship, as your instincts tell you, will only lead to disaster. Her actions were most likely a combination of loneliness and a misunderstanding of your friendship.

Mumbo-jumbo-free interpretation: Tell her you're friends and move on with your life. The worst thing you could do right now is try to turn it into a romance, as this will likely (eventually) result in the two of you hating each other and unable to simply leave one another alone, slowly driving both of you crazy.

 

[xitel]

Actually, that's not what I'm saying. I'm saying that he either needs to make a move or give up on her. Personally, I advocate giving up on her and going for someone completely new, as in "meeting new people." Starting as friends can work for some people, I guess, but more often it puts people in a position where starting a relationship is either risking a valued friendship or a violation of what's assumed to be a safe association. There's a lot of fun to be had and a lot of confidence to be gained with friends of friends and strangers on the bus and all those. It's harder in high school, sure, but you can join a team or a group of some kind and go to meets with other schools.

Well, this may just be me, but I started out as friends with all of my previous girlfriends, and while the relationships never worked out, I will say that I ended up being able to stay friends with all of them after the fact, which is more than most people can say.

 

[Baby Tea]

I'm not trying to be mean, But It sounds like she got dumped by someone she really liked and now she is trying to make herself feel better/more attractive by flirting with someone that she knows likes her to get her self esteem back.

It may be harsh but she feels comfortable with you and enjoys your friendship. She does not see you as a potential partner though.

These are just words from my own experience, maybe your situation is different but I doubt it. She is looking for a friend right now and as soon as she meets the next cute guy you'll be left holding her handbag while she is off doing the things you don't think she does cause she is such a wonderful princess.

Move on Find someone who likes you as much as you like them, Don't settle for "good enough"

This, pretty much.

It does sound like she's on the rebound. You'd do well to not get in a romantic relationship. I think it can only end in embarrassment and anger. Although if you do really love her, it should be worth taking that risk.

Thirded(?).

Don't get sucked into this crap. I tried something like this when I was younger (Thought for sure she liked me) and ended up being her self-esteem puppet. And then she went out with a douche bag who treated her like crap.

The point is: You seem young. You know what that means? You've got the time to enjoy these friendships and wait from someone really special to come along. And that someone will be someone who feels the same way, and treats you with the same dignity and respect that you'll (Hopefully) give them.

 

[Fightbulb]

I'm not trying to be mean, But It sounds like she got dumped by someone she really liked and now she is trying to make herself feel better/more attractive by flirting with someone that she knows likes her to get her self esteem back.

It may be harsh but she feels comfortable with you and enjoys your friendship. She does not see you as a potential partner though.

These are just words from my own experience, maybe your situation is different but I doubt it. She is looking for a friend right now and as soon as she meets the next cute guy you'll be left holding her handbag while she is off doing the things you don't think she does cause she is such a wonderful princess.

Move on Find someone who likes you as much as you like them, Don't settle for "good enough"

This guy has the right idea.

 

[Sparrowsabre7]

Hey, I'm a girl, I'll help!

As it has been a few months after her break up, I very much doubt she's on the rebound. If I split up with my boyfriend today, I'd probably run over to my best boy mates house, and hug him because I'd need to feel the comfort of a man again.
It sounds like she does like you, when a girl likes you, they'll touch you for no reason, just an excuse to get closer to you.
She's probably shy about making the first move incase she ruins your friendship, like any person would be.
Try to arrange more alone time together. We expect guys to make the first move, but that's not the law, of course! Like some others on this thread said, if neither of you make the first move, then you're probably not ready. As for the dream... I believe they tell us a lot. I know they are our sub concious thoughts and whatever you do before bed will most likely be in your dream (it is for me anyway).
I think God answered your prayer.
Good luck.

I disagree, some girls are generally very tactile, a girl I know is very flirty with everyone, in a purely friendly way (she's not a slut or anything) she's just very friendly, I think she does it to help boost confidance in other people.

But as for the rest of that para yeh that's all fine =P

 

[Baby Tea]

Thirded(?)

Fourthded!
Sadly the best you can really hope for is a quickie while her self esteem is low. If you are okay with that then hurry up and make your move before it gets too high and she goes for some dickhead.

Yeah, because this guy wouldn't be a dick head for trying to get 'rebound' sex. Oy vey (I've been saying that a lot lately...oh well)!

 

[Johnn Johnston]

Thirded(?)

Fourthded!
Sadly the best you can really hope for is a quickie while her self esteem is low. If you are okay with that then hurry up and make your move before it gets too high and she goes for some dickhead.

Yeah, because this guy wouldn't be a dick head for trying to get 'rebound' sex. Oy vey (I've been saying that a lot lately...oh well)!

Call it a hunch, but I don't think he's after sex. Not a lot of people born in 1993 (oh, the wonders of looking at profiles) really are.

 

[Good morning blues]

The way I sometimes find out if a girl fancys me is asking them "If you were trapped on a desert island with one person you know, who would it be?". If they say you, chances are they fancy you. Bit corny but it's the only simple way I try to find out when I'm not sure. Or you can go with the more risky ask her friends bout it, but it might backfire if there the gossipy type.

Sorry, but this is a terrible way of doing things. It combines the lack of confidence and wishy-washiness (the most unattractive trait that it's possible for men to have) of not being able to suck it up and make a move with the transparency of asking someone HYPOTHETICALLY whether or not they'd date you. The only way a girl would respond well to this is if she thought it was cute, but most would probably think it was spineless.

Actually, that's not what I'm saying. I'm saying that he either needs to make a move or give up on her. Personally, I advocate giving up on her and going for someone completely new, as in "meeting new people." Starting as friends can work for some people, I guess, but more often it puts people in a position where starting a relationship is either risking a valued friendship or a violation of what's assumed to be a safe association. There's a lot of fun to be had and a lot of confidence to be gained with friends of friends and strangers on the bus and all those. It's harder in high school, sure, but you can join a team or a group of some kind and go to meets with other schools.

Well, this may just be me, but I started out as friends with all of my previous girlfriends, and while the relationships never worked out, I will say that I ended up being able to stay friends with all of them after the fact, which is more than most people can say.

Yeah, I'm not saying that it's not possible; my girlfriend was my friend for about a year and a half before we started dating. At the beginning of that time, though, we did take a quick stab at a fling. The way to gain confidence and meet women isn't to befriend them and sit around until one of you decides that they want to be more than just friends all of a sudden - if you're sitting around waiting for a relationship to "grow up" so to speak, you're really not doing anything. There's no reason to be sitting around pining for someone when you could be meeting other people.

Im going to have to bow out of this one. I am one of those guys who a girl has to pratically rip off her own clothing, mount me and then shimmy while screaming "Do me baby" before I will get the hint. (5783 points to anyone who gets that refference).
Christ I once had a girl come over to my place for the night and cuddle me non stop and even complain if I sat more then 3" away from her then during a game of monopoly (worst. game. EVAR, freaking boring as shit) she was stroking my crotch with her foot and my freaking reaction was to accuse her of cheating by distracting me during the game. Yes I am that dense.
However it does sound like she wants you but god knows how women work. Short of jamming your hands down to pants to gauge her physical reaction (yes im talking about that) which you cant do before you are married christian boy, theres frak all way of knowing.

There's plenty of ways of knowing. Your post reveals that you know exactly what that girl was doing. There's a difference between having a hard time recognizing flirtatious behavior and ignoring it altogether.

 

[beddo]

I don't want to tell her that I like her because I don't want our friendship to change.

*sings* I don't wanna wait, for our lives to be overrrr!

Listen up Dawson, I think just about every guy in the world has been in this situation. From Mozart to George Clooney. The is just what it's like to be a teenager, it's just part of the process.

Generally these relationships don't work out. I mean if you're not going out by now it seems a bit too late. Once you get to that friends place you're less likely to be seen as a possible partner. Also, when you're around 16 relationships don't tend to last very long anyway. Even if you did go out with her chances are it wouldn't last past 6 months.

Talking from experience I highly recommend not letting yourself fall for her even further. The girl I liked was a right prick tease, no matter how much I tried to focus on other girls she'd always reel me back in with some hugs, some sensual touching or even just a 'deep' conversation. If I could go back I would tell myself not to go for it. Just move on, yea you can stay friends but don't EVER let that go past the respectible friends boundaries.

Sooner or later you really will meet the girl of your dreams. Not just the first girl who put your hormones into overdrive with a wink and a smile.

I met a girl at 19, many years later and we're now happily married. So trust, you can afford to hold out for someone who feels the same about you as you do about them.

 

[BlumiereBleck]

Don't think to hard about it. There is a huuuuuuugge chance she doesn't like you and just wants to be your best friend. And if she does like you ask her other best friends. Chances are she will have told them. And if she doesn't like you, you have a really good best friend.

 

[Ionami]

You know what, the bottom line is this... if someone likes someone else, unless they're cripplingly shy, (which this girl doesn't seem to be) then they make it known to that person, one way or another. If you asked her out and she said no, then chances are she's not going to suddenly change her mind and decide that she likes you. My guess is that she likes the "idea" of you liking her, or that she finds comfort in you, but is not actually interested in pursuing it.

However, as other posters have noted, there is no harm in asking straight up, if she's interested. You've really got nothing to lose, as you've already asked her out once, and your friendship appears to be fine.

 

[wahi]

Okay, so basically there is this girl I liked awhile ago. I told her how I felt (It was a lot more then like) and she said that she could never see it working between us, but we're still friends.

Fast forward awhile. Both of us have become best friends and I still like her. She tells me she likes one of her friends (who was also my friend). She then tells him that she likes him and he told her that he doesn't like her and even told me that he would never go out with her. I go to my best guy friend's house for the weekend and come back to they are dating. I become really depressed and don't talk to either of them for three weeks. Then one night I was praying (I'm a Christian) and asking God to help me with the whole situation, I fell asleep and had this dream of a girl that I meet that has black hair. We were friends because she ask how my day was. I told her that I had being having a bad week and she gave me a hug and it was the type of hug that she puts her arm around you and your head falls of her shoulder. After I woke up I realized I didn't like her anymore and started talking to them again.

Fast forward yet again, they have broken up because of her parents not really liking him and telling her she couldn't date him. He then becomes kinda jerkish to both her and me. Over the next months her and I become best, best friends. Her and some of our friends were over at my house for a movie and she wanted me to sit by her the whole time. Afterward we were just talking well our friends played rock band. We somehow ended up sharing the same couch cushion. That didn't seem strange because we are amazing friends. When we were talking I noticed that the whole time she was looking at me and had a smile. She also seemed a lot more hugish and touchy and she was kinda leaning on me and hugging me for nothing. While we were talking we got on the subject of what had happened and I don't remember how we got on to this but she told me that she kind of doubts that we well ever go out, but anything can happen. Later we got on to the subject of how my life has being recently. I have had a pretty crappy life lately and I told her and she gave me a hug that was exactly the same as the one in my dream (the only difference is that she has dirty blond hair and the girl in my dream had black, but the black her could be symbolic like a change in some then, like how our friendship has changed). At that moment I realized that I was still in love with her. After she had left my brother came up to me and said it seemed like she may like me.

I'm really terrible at getting hints from girls because I have never had a girlfriend and I need some opinions of weather you think she likes me or not because I don't want to tell her that I like her because I don't want our friendship to change.

my sympathies, in a similar situation myself. god if only girls were a wee bit less cryptic