Its a dealbreaker

[GrimTuesday]

I was at the store down the road from my place with some friends this evening grabbing some foodstuffs for our upcoming DnD session. So we go up to the checkout to pay and the girl behind the counter is huge. I'm not talking fat, I'm talking tall, as in taller than me, and I'm by no means short (I'm about 6'2"). So as we are walking back one of my friends brings up how tall she was, which got us, being males between the ages of 18 and 25, talking about how attractive she was. Almost everyone but me said that because she was so tall (I'm the tallest in the group) they found her unattractive, which I found weird.

This of course got us talking about other things that we find to be dealbreakers, be they in a relationship or merely in finding someone attractive. The only one I could really think of was being hyper religious, that would be one of those things that I honestly don't think I could stand in a potential mate. I wouldn't mind a moderate religious person, but no zealots or sheep.

So what sort of things are a dealbreaker in a relationship?

Also, what about you do you think would be a dealbreaker? I honestly think it would be my weight, most girls don't like being with a fat guy.

 

[NinjaDeathSlap]

A lot of guy don't like girls to be significantly taller than them, deep down it's an ego thing.

One thing I wouldn't be able to stand in a girl: To full on. The sort of person who will tell all their friends that you're the one when you've been on like 3 dates. I'm not commitment shy but that is just mental.

One thing that I find irresistible: French/Italian accents. They literally turn me into a drooling wreck.

 

[BlueberryMUNCH]

Jesus, she must've been massive! xD.

Hmm *scratches head* I always thought a deal breaker was something that's like

Spoiler: Analogy time!

-YO, I'll trade you these peanuts for your Dr. Pepper
-No way man!
-...What about some ketchup too?
-WOAH SURE!!!

...So in that scenario, the ketchup was the deal breaker.

AH WELL, I'LL ROLL WITH IT.

Mmh, definitely have to agree with the hyper religious. Ugh God that'd be too much, pardon the pun.
And aside from obvious things, big breasts reeeeeeaaalllyy turn me off *shrug*.
Intelligence and sense of humour are really important too, but yeah, I guess those are kinda obvious.

As far as I'm concerned, it's probably my general laziness; something I've been trying to improve over recent times.
So yeah:].

 

[Trippy Turtle]

religious zealots. im fine as long as they don't involve me but some people an't seem to leave me alone.

 

[seidlet]

i don't have a whole lot of specific physical dealbreakers - i have to be attracted to a person, sure, but i'm attracted to a whole lot of different types of people. fat guys have never been a problem for me, though my husband is ultra-slim.

i couldn't ever date a religious person - even moderately religious. prospective partners also had to have anarchist leanings, be well-read, want children, and be on the same page when it comes to parenting (which i want discussed in GREAT detail before the relationship gets serious - i don't want to waste my time). oh god, i forgot about laziness. you cannot be lazy. and you must be sort of stoic. nothing is a bigger turn-off than someone overrun by their emotions.

if i were on the market, i think my biggest obstacle would be the fact that i don't shave my legs or underarms. even in the ultra-liberal hippie circles i run in, women who don't shave (and men who don't care) are rare here in the midwest.

 

[RevRaptor]

Religious nuts and fat chicks are a no go zone for me. If she's burning heretics or has a collection of various objects trapped in orbit around her then I ain't going there.

 

[Palademon]

I don't think I'd mind a taller girl, aslong as she didn't make fun of it.

I wouldn't be able to stand anyone extremely religious, anyone bigoted, anyone who gossips to everyone about what's happening in the relationship, and anyone who for some reaosn has something against my hobbies or interests.

I wouldn't mind what has been mentioned about a girl thinking I'm the one after 3 dates, because I'm not very average so if they did like me it'd probably be a big impact on their lives from most guys they've met. Aslong as they don't instantly start talking about marriage and kids...

 

[seidlet]

Aslong as they don't instantly start talking about marriage and kids...

this is how i weeded out unsuitable mates. i asked my husband how many kids he wanted and what his prospective timeline was on our first date. i figured if he hadn't started thinking about this by age 20, he wanted to wait way, way longer than i did.

 

[Woodsey]

If she was taller than me, but only just about, it'd be alright, but if it was anything more than that it'd annoy the shit out of me.

As for deal-breakers: I cannot stand girls who talk about sex constantly just because they think its what you want to hear. There's nothing even remotely attractive about it because 90% of the time - since they're obviously about as subtle as a wrecking ball - they won't be able to make it sound sexy.

Its mostly a result of them just being attention-seekers.

 

[Dieter Meyer]

I'm just gonna say it right out no matter how much of a dick it makes me sound like:
My dealbreakers are fat girls, girls that are taller than me, and stupid girls.

 

[Best of the 3]

Fat girls are ewww. Sure, slightly big boned is fine (no one is perfect) but if they have more than 1 neck / belly, It's a no go zone.

Relgious zealots are no no's

Chavs are also to be avoided at all costs.

 

[NinjaDeathSlap]

I don't think I'd mind a taller girl, aslong as she didn't make fun of it.

I wouldn't be able to stand anyone extremely religious, anyone bigoted, anyone who gossips to everyone about what's happening in the relationship, and anyone who for some reaosn has something against my hobbies or interests.

I wouldn't mind what has been mentioned about a girl thinking I'm the one after 3 dates, because I'm not very average so if they did like me it'd probably be a big impact on their lives from most guys they've met. Aslong as they don't instantly start talking about marriage and kids...

Oh Christ! I'd want to be with a girl for at least a year before she starts talking about marriage and kids.

 

[MaxwellEdison]

Being too thin?

Mostly, I wouldn't date people with radically different opinions, but mainly because I'd drive them insane.

 

[Palademon]

Aslong as they don't instantly start talking about marriage and kids...

this is how i weeded out unsuitable mates. i asked my husband how many kids he wanted and what his prospective timeline was on our first date. i figured if he hadn't started thinking about this by age 20, he wanted to wait way, way longer than i did.

I don't think I'd mind that aslong as I felt a proper conneciton with them. I'm a rather open person. But if they were to say things like "When shall we get married and how many kids shall we have? (rather than "If you were having kids how many would you be thinking about?")", that'd come across as desperate rather than actually wanting me, or just obsessed.

I'm only 16 and I already consider children names. Is Saria obscure enough to general people that it wouldn't sound completely stupid?

 

[seidlet]

I'm just gonna say it right out no matter how much of a dick it makes me sound like:
My dealbreakers are fat girls, girls that are taller than me, and stupid girls.

i don't see why that would make you sound like a dick. if you aren't attracted to fat girls, or girls that are taller than you, then you obviously shouldn't be dating them. everyone judges people based on appearance on some level, even if (like me) they don't really have specific guidelines they go by. you have to be attracted to someone that you plan to have sex with, period. lack of attraction is a totally valid dealbreaker.

and no one wants to date someone they think is stupid.

 

[Not-here-anymore]

Significantly taller than me's a no. Which is unfortunate, given my lack of height.
A total lack of geekiness is also a no, since it severely reduces the number of things to talk about.

Dunno, not really thinking much about deal-breakers at the moment. The below comic should explain why:

 

[seidlet]

I don't think I'd mind that aslong as I felt a proper conneciton with them. I'm a rather open person. But if they were to say things like "When shall we get married and how many kids shall we have? (rather than "If you were having kids how many would you be thinking about?")", that'd come across as desperate rather than actually wanting me, or just obsessed.

I'm only 16 and I already consider children names. Is Saria obscure enough to general people that it wouldn't sound completely stupid?

yeah, i guess that's a whole different ballgame. i never expected someone to know if they wanted to have kids with ME right off the bat, but i did expect them to know if they wanted kids and to have put some thought into how many they wanted to have and what kind of parent they wanted to be. otherwise, our priorities were totally different.

and no, saria isn't too obscure - it's a real name, a variant of sariah.

 

[Tsunimo]

Larger women,or women that are too thin, they have to have a good healthy balance going.
Although it will sound like a small thing to be a deal breaker, I can't stand people who chew loudly, or with their mouth open. The sound makes me actually want to punch them in the jaw.

 

[SckizoBoy]

If she doesn't smell 'right'...

Call me freaky, but I identify people (girls in particular) by their odour, and I'm turned off by sharp smells (regardless of what it actually is).

 

[Vault101]

hmmmmm

I dont really know...

Mabye anyone with serious "issues" Im sorry but I cant deal with somone who at any point might snap and go slit their wrists for what ever reason

somone whos overly romantic or enganges in emotional black mail

calles me Babe....dont fucking call me that

a chuavanistic/mysoganist A-hole but they are generally rare thease days (I mean REAL ones...this seems to grow out of guys..I think?)

fatness...sorry but I have to at least find you physically attractive

actually you know what would be Ideal? just somone I could have sex with and not have to worry about anything else....