I've got a problem........
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Just say that you don't believe the same thing as they do and you would be uncomfortable in doing to conformation.
All the prepubescent kids these days are atheists, agnostic or some other supposedly cool nihilistic shit. Believe me when I say that you'll get over it fast so be a MAN and do what everyone is expecting you to do. Life is not about what you want, it's about what you need and what you get. Right now you need to get confirmed.
They can't force you to believe in God. You have two ways out. Tell them you're an atheist now, and cancel. Or, get the confirmation, and wait some time to tell them "I don't believe in God anymore.". Might take some time for them to swallow, they'll probably try to convince you, but stay strong and you'll get through it.
Dude, i was once in your shoes. My mother once sat me down and asked me if i would be confirmed. She knew, and i knew well that i wasn't a christian. I'm an atheist-agnostic. I however went along with it because i knew my mother really wanted me to do this, i think she felt it was her "duty" as a christian parent, but she knew she could not force me into it.At the time, she was also letting me stay out late with my mates, and considering everything else she had done for me, i felt i owed her something back.urgh76 said:
I went along with it, but i did feel rather uncomfortable about it all, i had to lie a few times as well. In going through confirmation i saw that it is, indeed, a confirmation. The big important thing about it is that you, as a young adult can not make your own choices in life, so you freely choose to believe in God, or not. In baptism or holy communion, you don't have much choice, making confirmation all the more serious. Confirmation does not have all the pageantry and bling that a holy communion has, but it's certainty more important. For me i had to go to a few discussion group's in the Church for a couple of week's, choose a saints name and the Bishop blessed us with our chosen name.
I felt a bit guilty, but i was doing it to return my mother a favour and that soothed my conscience. Of course, to you personally it probably will not change anything, the Church don't come chasing you when you don't turn up for mass, all they do is add your name to the list of confirmed Catholics. You do however, should you wish, gain the right to marry in a catholic church. I've informed you as best i can, but none of us here can provide an answer here for you. You'll have to decide for yourself and stand up for what you think you should do. Hopefully your parents will respect your choice, which is after all the whole point of confirmation. They would be foolish if they force you, after all you can never force someone to truly accept a faith if they do not will it.
I only had this ready because I was in a similar situation with my parents a few years back. To tell you the truth, your choice really will probably come down to who your parents are and how they will respond. If your parents are comfortable with you being a different individual, you don't have to go, at that point, it is up to you. If you know your parents are not comfortable with the concept of you being someone other than their child, you probably should go. In the end, the only person that can really tell you what is right in this situation is you. I've only provided you with some logical analysis.urgh76 said:
ps. As Nickolai77 said, it is nice to have the option to marry in a catholic church, even if you aren't going to use it. Having doors open to you is always good. Just something to throw into the mix. Of course, that is only if we are talking about catholic confirmation instead of protestant confirmation
pps. If it matters to you at all, I got confirmed. I'm still more of an agnostic than anything else. Just a reminder that confirmation doesn't change a damn thing.
I don't really even understand what confirmation is because I didn't grow up in a Christian environment but I guess it's some weird religious rite thing. If you're a genuine Atheist it shouldn't mean anything to you apart from a bunch of hocus pocus mumbo-jumbo so you might as well just go along with it just to keep in the good book with your parents. While you're living under their roof it pays to keep the peace when you can over little things like this, it means you'll possibly get more leeway later in life for the things that actually matter.urgh76 said:
On the other hand if you actually CARE about confirmation then that suggests to me that you're not as much of an Athetist as you think you are. Maybe you're a Satanist or something, if you were I can see how Confirmation might be offensive to you. However, that's not the same as being an Athetist.