Ladies: How often do guys hit on you online?

[Spacelord]

I find online flirtation hilarious.

I tend to find it a cringefest. It's hilarious in an A Serious Man kinda way, y'know?

 

[Kouta Cles]

my girlfriend doesnt play games of any sort, in fact whenever i mention games at all she goes into some old story about how there was this game she played about 11 years ago where you play as a mouse trying to get some cheese...

You mean Rodent's Revenge? http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Rodent%27s_Revenge

@brownstudios I'm a guy that mostly plays TF2 and see this happen a fair bit, it's pretty annoying. Though there are a few guys and gals I play with regularly, but we are all in a Steam Group Chat so the whole server doesn't have to know (and hear us ramble on).

 

[EHKOS]

Spoiler: Romantic Dream

Just a city bo--err..wait, wrong one.

It's the nervous boy on the internet who finds a girl that's been through some storms. Through Emails and IM's, the two get closer and closer until they fall in lurrrrve. People actually believe stuff like this

Ha ha... That's approximately how me and my fiance met, actually. He lived in America and I'm in Australia. Minus the storms part. He now lives with me. We met when we were 15 or 16 on a forum much like this one.

In short: It's not impossible. Just highly unlikely.

....That is creepily close to how my two friends met. The only thing different is that he hasn't moved yet.

 

[la-le-lu-li-lo]

Chicks don't play video games, what are you talking about?

This...

Also, it happens often enough. Probably almost as often as it happens IRL. Either way it's annoying at worst and endearing at best.

 

[Chemical Alia]

Not very often, but I don't use my voice in chat much anymore when I play. It still happens occasionally, but most of the time I'm asked questions about if I'm the one who made those TF2 items and are fairly pleasant. I don't think most people know that I'm not male though, despite my name.

It used to happen all the time on Xbox Live when I played a lot of Gears of War though, lol.

 

[Adzma]

Wait, people still

(a) play competitive multiplayer online?

and

(b) use headsets and actually COMMUNICATE?

My, my, I have become out of touch with the mainstream audience.

 

[Tax_Document]

I think girls need to get over themselves.
They're not as rare as they think.
And not even half as special as they'd like to imagine themselves as.
And I see (or rather hear through mics) plenty of chicks on TF2.

You say you have met many women online, yet your statement makes me think that you have never even talked to one. I have never once met a female online who has made a big deal about her gender. I have met men who go nuts over women playing games, but that hardly seems like the fault of the girl. You are placing the blame at the feet of the wrong people.

The ridiculous bold lettering was a nice touch, by the way.

I hsve to agree with him, rather than you.

Now, some girls take advatange of the fact their girls and try to use it to their advantage, which I admire, always make the best of fools.

But I hate it when they flaunt every four seconds when no one is paying attention to them.

Please, stop being an ignorant feminist to try and pick up chicks! ;P

 

[Tax_Document]

Wait, people still

(a) play competitive multiplayer online?

and

(b) use headsets and actually COMMUNICATE?

My, my, I have become out of touch with the mainstream audience.

We just trying to keep people like you out of our games...

No offence, but you don't sound like a very nice person and I'm rather glad I do not have to play competitive multiplayert or voice communicate with you.

You sound like a person who shuns everyone for having fun and not being "Immersed"

 

[CardinalPiggles]

SNIP

Hey Baby, wanna come back to my place.

But seriously, I've seen this sort of thing before, it's quite sad really. I would personally never 'hit' on a girl I meet online, because you don't know each other at all, and you would most likely live very far away. But some sad fuckers still do it, maybe just for giggles?

 

[Adzma]

No offence, but you don't sound like a very nice person and I'm rather glad I do not have to play competitive multiplayert or voice communicate with you.

You sound like a person who shuns everyone for having fun and not being "Immersed"

Well I don't know about you but I don't consider 12 year old kids screaming profanities particularly immersive. Bless the mute all button I say.

 

[sassafrasses]

I think girls need to get over themselves.
They're not as rare as they think.
And not even half as special as they'd like to imagine themselves as.
And I see (or rather hear through mics) plenty of chicks on TF2.

You say you have met many women online, yet your statement makes me think that you have never even talked to one. I have never once met a female online who has made a big deal about her gender. I have met men who go nuts over women playing games, but that hardly seems like the fault of the girl. You are placing the blame at the feet of the wrong people.

The ridiculous bold lettering was a nice touch, by the way.

uh I don't know what you play but I'm tired of hearing this "Randomnickname: So any girls in here besides me?"

If that's not attention whoring, tell me what it is.

I haven't ever heard anyone sat that.
That being said, a few attention whores don't represent all of the female gender. Acting as though all women should bear the burden of the ego of a few fools is unfair.

Never said a few attention whores represent the female gender. But it's just like kids on CoD, not all of cod players are kids, but as soon as one enters, he starts yelling with his squeaky voice. With females, you never notice them, untill one of them starts attention whoring. So I probably stumbled upon PLENTY of female gamers, but of those who I noticed were females, 80% were whoring.

That 80% does NOT speak for the other 20% of us than you very much. And that 80% is of your own personal poll. For the majority of games I've played, including WoW, only about 10% are attention whoring. The 90% don't care, they're there for the game, NOT guys. In my case, I was there for the game, NOT guys. I just happened to be harassed enough to give up my myspace link, and what happened after was NOT on my agenda. I didn't start playing WoW looking for attention, I happened to be dating a guy, and that guy got me into WoW. We werent together when I met the guy I've been talking to for the past 2 years, and I didnt go into the guild looking for a relationship or attention. So your 80% is not everyone's 80%.

Please note that when I say attention whoring I do not say actively seeking a boyfriend, I mean "I'm a girl look at me, give me gold" etc etc bullshit.

And the reason that percentage is so high is because I DON'T go around asking if people are guys or girls, I just play, don't give a crap. That's the reason that when I know someone's a female is because she is purposely rubbing it in front of EVERYONE'S FACE which is, as I stated earlier, attention whoring.

I am talking about random gaming here, of course. When you get in clans and stuff the percentage lowers a lot, as you can tell if someone's female by their voice without them directly telling you.

I knew what you meant by attention whoring, and that's why I responded the way I did. Most girls I see playing WoW don't go around asking for gold. I guess it depends on the server, but mainly depends on the girl. Most girls I see playing games aren't flaunting it and whatever. That's just my experience. Apparently you've had a different one. The point remains the same, you're 80% is NOT everyone's 80%.

I wasn't arguing, just stating a simple fact. Everyone has a different experience. I play Black Ops, I have a headset, I play music over it and don't talk. I listened to other girls and guys talk but they were talking to each other because they were friends in real life and joking around. I only use my headset playing Soul Calibur IV with about 2 people. Even when a guild has Vent, I don't find myself using it, and if I do, I don't see/hear other girls flaunting that they're female. I see most girls keeping quiet, or talking to their significant other or friends or something. Like I said, everyone's experience is going to be different. You and I could both go to Disney World, and you could have the worst time there while I could have the best time in the world. We could eat the same food, you hate it, I love it, or vice versa. Doesn't matter what it is, everyone's experience is going to be different, granted some may be similar, but for the majority everyone's going to have a different experience.

 

[corsair47]

I feel obligated to post this relevant (and amusing) video:

OT: I am a guy, so no.

wow, that guy is terrible at team fortress

 

[ReaperzXIII]

I think girls need to get over themselves.
They're not as rare as they think.
And not even half as special as they'd like to imagine themselves as.
And I see (or rather hear through mics) plenty of chicks on TF2.

You say you have met many women online, yet your statement makes me think that you have never even talked to one. I have never once met a female online who has made a big deal about her gender. I have met men who go nuts over women playing games, but that hardly seems like the fault of the girl. You are placing the blame at the feet of the wrong people.

The ridiculous bold lettering was a nice touch, by the way.

Why don't you grow a brain? I never said anything about meeting women online. I'm not painting myself as some big online playa who gets all the internet skanks in every TF2 game I play.

I said I see them. I play lots of different servers and there are girls in most of them. And not only that, there really isn't a lot of noticable difference in treatment of male or female players in these servers.

OP mentioned that she was often the only one in most games who had ovaries and as a result would constantly and instantly be hounded and harassed by all the poor, sexually-deprived, testosterone-driven males in the server. My question to her is: what kind of Italian/Mexican ghetto servers are you playing on?

See how your sarcasm doesn't make sense? I've seen stuff like guys on the internet harassing my sister when she plays gears of war, and I've seen it happen to other girls, so as the guy said above it is not the fault of the girls because guys make a big deal out of them.

It does happen so your accusation of girls all thinking they're special or rare because guys harass them is kind of no offence stupid, the OP is merely wondering if she is the only one it happens to and if it happens frequently like her.

 

[Suicidal_Ferret]

We had a girl in our clan and we treated her like a bro.

Ever seen EuroTrip? Pretty much that. Without the sex at the end.

 

[SimpleChimp]

*el Snip*

Then I ask you, as such a female who deals with this, when you do find a male gamer harassing a female gamer, call them the fuck out. Don't let that atmosphere continue. Sitting idly by and going "yeah, it sucks, but that's the name of the game" is useless. Check your privilege and help out.

I don't think this is hopeless. Games like Mass Effect are wonderfully gender blind and when games like Brink come out male-only, they get lambasted. That's a good sign. I hope in a few years, I'll be more comfortable with this industry I love so much.

:~idealistic~:

The problem with that is one of two things:

I only play with a mic when playing with friends, other than that all my team mates are muted.

and two, i asked a female gamer i know her thoughts on the subject and her answer was worse than i got from any quys. She said there were certain types of female games calling them: Chunky and Shy, Chunky and boyish, Attention Whores, and "Normals" she said she had only ever met two normals. The problem here is the same as what the african american society faces. The n-word will not go away if your artists continue to use it and you continue to by it. The stereotypes of women gamers, subjection, and "good ol boy" system will not fade as long as the female gamers continue to view other female gamers with "male" mind sets.

I wont gaming to be a-sexual. To exist with out stigma and sexism, but unless we consciously make a change as a whole, not just expecting guy gamers to change, then there will not be an equality. Lets do away with male and female gamers, and just be gamers.

 

[CleverCover]

It's mainly why I stopped playing games online and regulated to single player rpgs or playing only with family members.

I got so tired of just entering a new area or going into a game and being stalked by at least one guy...it's really frustrating. I just wanted to play a game. I didn't sign up for a dating service. >.>

 

[Tax_Document]

No offence, but you don't sound like a very nice person and I'm rather glad I do not have to play competitive multiplayert or voice communicate with you.

You sound like a person who shuns everyone for having fun and not being "Immersed"

Well I don't know about you but I don't consider 12 year old kids screaming profanities particularly immersive. Bless the mute all button I say.

Who said anything about twelve year olds?
You're the sort of guy who doesn't ever partake in any conversation and when someone says a joke, you immediatly start ranting about how immature it was, and when people talk about something you don't like, you make snark remarks about all the way through.

You are the problem in which gamers face, you're the arrogent self-rightous person who never partakes in any social interaction, you're the trolling over-sophisticated annoying guy who onloy plays Fallout 2 and claims how much better it is then modern games, when it has been surpassed in so many ways yet you want to cling to the game in which you thought was amazing but only a few others share your opinion and when people admire,lets say, Fallout 3 you'll start telling everyone it's not a real game and start explaining how "Amazing" Fallout 2 the Grand Borefest was.

END RANT.

 

[Jammy2003]

It does happen, and its pretty weird yeah. As a guy I can say I have flirted with girls, but only after getting to know them as a friend for a bit, and only on MMO's etc. where the tedium allows a bit more of a leisurely chat, in fact its kind of a relief to be able to TALK to someone. Also, only if she is comfortable with it all, otherwise that just makes you a bit of a creeper. I honestly can't even comprehend trying to flirt with a girl while mid FPS match, it just doesn't seem to be quite the right setting for that kinda thing...

Is it really that rampant though? I know there are bad cases but never really thought it was that bad :S Guess I now know why everyone is always suspicious of people online if its 4am and you're bored...

 

[LadyZephyr]

*el Snip*

Then I ask you, as such a female who deals with this, when you do find a male gamer harassing a female gamer, call them the fuck out. Don't let that atmosphere continue. Sitting idly by and going "yeah, it sucks, but that's the name of the game" is useless. Check your privilege and help out.

I don't think this is hopeless. Games like Mass Effect are wonderfully gender blind and when games like Brink come out male-only, they get lambasted. That's a good sign. I hope in a few years, I'll be more comfortable with this industry I love so much.

:~idealistic~:

The problem with that is one of two things:

I only play with a mic when playing with friends, other than that all my team mates are muted.

and two, i asked a female gamer i know her thoughts on the subject and her answer was worse than i got from any quys. She said there were certain types of female games calling them: Chunky and Shy, Chunky and boyish, Attention Whores, and "Normals" she said she had only ever met two normals. The problem here is the same as what the african american society faces. The n-word will not go away if your artists continue to use it and you continue to by it. The stereotypes of women gamers, subjection, and "good ol boy" system will not fade as long as the female gamers continue to view other female gamers with "male" mind sets.

I wont gaming to be a-sexual. To exist with out stigma and sexism, but unless we consciously make a change as a whole, not just expecting guy gamers to change, then there will not be an equality. Lets do away with male and female gamers, and just be gamers.

It is not solely the job of the marginalized group to make a change. I'm sorry the girl you talk to has issues with internalized misogyny, but passing the buck onto those who are being wronged is victim blaming. I'm going to do my part, as are many of my friends. I'm asking for others to lend a hand.