Seeing as dating websites are more popular/mainstream these days, to me it's entirely possible to start relationships over the internet. Continuing them will obviously require physical contact though.
Love on the Internet?
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It's possible. I met my current girlfriend online on a forum, after all. And we're going strong after a year of awkwardly dancing around attraction and the like.
well it's possible to MEET someone on the internet. Exactly one year ago I met what looked like a really nice girl, we clicked and whatnot so she came to visit me and everything went splendidly and then a month later she hooked up with some other guy and I've been bitter ever since 
I think it is possible. I some what fancy a girl but I doubt it will go anywhere mostly because of distance (She live all the way on the other side of the world in Indonesia.)
You're not going to manage it by making yourself out to be a woe is me, my life sucks character. You'll just attract the internet hippies who want to save you, and folks like me who find it tedious.RAKtheUndead said:
You want flame wars, you've got to start attacking individuals' opinions, not the general consensus.
At the risk of sounding cheesy: With Love, anything is possible. In a way, it's actually a bit better of a judge of love being online. Since you basically have to fall in love with their personality and you only have conversation to get to know each other. The removal of the physical aspect (no, not just intimacy, but even a hug) really demands focus on the more mental parts of a relationship.
It's hard, but not impossible. I have developed friendships with people online so strong that I would not hesitate to say I love them; I see no reason to think other versions of love are out of the question.
I've never experienced it myself. But there are plenty of people that meet online and go on to live long lives together.
So, OT: Yes, it's possible, and no, it isn't always just about lust. (Often. Not always. )
It's hard, but not impossible. I have developed friendships with people online so strong that I would not hesitate to say I love them; I see no reason to think other versions of love are out of the question.
I've never experienced it myself. But there are plenty of people that meet online and go on to live long lives together.
So, OT: Yes, it's possible, and no, it isn't always just about lust. (Often. Not always.
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I met my ex-wife on the Internet. We talked online for almost 7 months before we met in person. Once we met in person it took all of about a half hour for us to pick up where our growing love online had us. The real-life manifestation of that intimacy was swift and decisive.
We were together for 6 years. Married for 5. Sure she eventually left me (and make no mistake about it, I flat-out fucking failed her as a husband, as a provider, and as a man---she must've felt horribly trapped watching me struggle to find myself), but that wasn't because we met on the Internet.
We were together for 6 years. Married for 5. Sure she eventually left me (and make no mistake about it, I flat-out fucking failed her as a husband, as a provider, and as a man---she must've felt horribly trapped watching me struggle to find myself), but that wasn't because we met on the Internet.
I guess it is possible to fall in love on the internet, but I haven't seen any legitimate cases so I don't really believe it. One case I'm reminded of was a girl I was friends with recently made some new friends over some forums. One of her new friends after a while confessed she was in love with her. This completely freaked out my friend, but about a month later the girl admitted that she hadn't really been in love. She was just bicurious.
Well the "love doesnt exist" notion aside you need to realize something.
Its not very likely. Part of what makes "love" is the acceptance of ones personallity. Thing about the internet is that people, regardless of intention, or location always put their best face forward and work to portray an image they wish to convey.
Its not real possible to fall in love with someone when they have the ability to time their words and measure their responses, as that love would in essence be a lie.
Simply put, you dont KNOW the person on the other side of the screen. Hell, even in face to face interpersonal relationships you dont entirely know someone for the exact same reason. Love is supposed to be based on trust, and you cant base a relationship on trust when youve fell for the perception someone is trying to convey.
Its not very likely. Part of what makes "love" is the acceptance of ones personallity. Thing about the internet is that people, regardless of intention, or location always put their best face forward and work to portray an image they wish to convey.
Its not real possible to fall in love with someone when they have the ability to time their words and measure their responses, as that love would in essence be a lie.
Simply put, you dont KNOW the person on the other side of the screen. Hell, even in face to face interpersonal relationships you dont entirely know someone for the exact same reason. Love is supposed to be based on trust, and you cant base a relationship on trust when youve fell for the perception someone is trying to convey.
Well, I guess I'll tell you more then.Nanaki316 said:I want to hear moreJLML said:
That person is someone I once met on a chat-roulette site called "Omegle" (I'm pretty sure there are several here who have used it. And thus, several know it's filled with 98% trolls and pervs.) about a year ago. We chatted for a few hours or so (if I remember it right that is) and exchanged email/msn. We kept on chatting a lot (and then I mean a LOT, more or less every day, I wouldn't be surprised if we're currently totalling in on over a few hundred thousand messages sent.) and found out we had a real lot in common. After a while we probably knew each other better than our families. We are pretty much like-minded in everything, with the exception of religion... (I really don't believe in any real religion stuff, and don't have that much good to say about any of the big ones out there. That person is a Muslim, and a fairly religious one at that.)
Anyway, we simply like (and of course love) each other a lot, and I'm currently planning on making a trip to visit that person in just over a year. The only reason I haven't done so already is because it's just over 10 000 kilometres from here to where that person lives, if you go by a straight line. =/
And that was my story, or at least some of it. Hope you enjoyed your reading.
I think it's possible. I don't know if there is a distinct lack of maturity involved sometimes, pouring your heart and soul into a commitment with someone you have not even seen. But then again I think it is possible to almost be in full contact with someone you have never touched with things like video phone and webcam.
After some experiences from the past though, I think it is somewhat incomplete to be in a relationship where you cannot truthfully divulge everything about yourself, which is harder over the internet. You can love someone over the internet, but to be loved, I think you have to be yourself, otherwise the other person is not in love with you.
After some experiences from the past though, I think it is somewhat incomplete to be in a relationship where you cannot truthfully divulge everything about yourself, which is harder over the internet. You can love someone over the internet, but to be loved, I think you have to be yourself, otherwise the other person is not in love with you.
I met my boyfriend online, we met in real life and now we're living together.
I'd like to give a big middle finger to anyone who doubted us, or people who there's no hope for love on the web.
Saying that, I hate the idea of match.com. It's like shopping for someone you like :/
I'd like to give a big middle finger to anyone who doubted us, or people who there's no hope for love on the web.
Saying that, I hate the idea of match.com. It's like shopping for someone you like :/
Well well, a relationship thread I can actually post something in that's worthwhile.
There have been three girls in my life that I have actually found attractive and cared about. All of them I met online. I used to be a suprisingly open person and was more myself without having to worry about the big fat ogre thing going on. I never went in with the intention of developing feelings for these people, infact after the first I was very against the idea of it happening again.
When you talk to people for hours and hours every day, over time you will grow some affection for them, usually several months after first talking to each other. I was lead to believe they had some feelings for me. Seeing how they all ended it could have just been a game on their part. I like to think that my personality, before I became the cynical bastard I am now, was actually attractive, it was just my physical appearance which let me down, that and in the real world I can't talk to the opposite gender without at least 5 times the daily alocohol limit in me.
Now, I no longer get close to people anywhere, this place is a good example. I post in threads but make no effort to actually get to know any other members, it's just easier to keep yourself detatched, especially where distances are involved.
To sum up. Feelings are definately possible online, even those which can feel like love. Love itself I don't think is possible, the groundwork can certainly be set in place but unless you are still found attractive and interesting when meeting in the real world, it'll turn to platonic love real quick. Those who have got married after meeting online got lucky in the sense that both parties still wanted to fuck each other after meeting face to face.
There have been three girls in my life that I have actually found attractive and cared about. All of them I met online. I used to be a suprisingly open person and was more myself without having to worry about the big fat ogre thing going on. I never went in with the intention of developing feelings for these people, infact after the first I was very against the idea of it happening again.
When you talk to people for hours and hours every day, over time you will grow some affection for them, usually several months after first talking to each other. I was lead to believe they had some feelings for me. Seeing how they all ended it could have just been a game on their part. I like to think that my personality, before I became the cynical bastard I am now, was actually attractive, it was just my physical appearance which let me down, that and in the real world I can't talk to the opposite gender without at least 5 times the daily alocohol limit in me.
Now, I no longer get close to people anywhere, this place is a good example. I post in threads but make no effort to actually get to know any other members, it's just easier to keep yourself detatched, especially where distances are involved.
To sum up. Feelings are definately possible online, even those which can feel like love. Love itself I don't think is possible, the groundwork can certainly be set in place but unless you are still found attractive and interesting when meeting in the real world, it'll turn to platonic love real quick. Those who have got married after meeting online got lucky in the sense that both parties still wanted to fuck each other after meeting face to face.
Aww that's sweetJLML said:Well, I guess I'll tell you more then.Nanaki316 said:I want to hear moreJLML said:
That person is someone I once met on a chat-roulette site called "Omegle" (I'm pretty sure there are several here who have used it. And thus, several know it's filled with 98% trolls and pervs.) about a year ago. We chatted for a few hours or so (if I remember it right that is) and exchanged email/msn. We kept on chatting a lot (and then I mean a LOT, more or less every day, I wouldn't be surprised if we're currently totalling in on over a few hundred thousand messages sent.) and found out we had a real lot in common. After a while we probably knew each other better than our families. We are pretty much like-minded in everything, with the exception of religion... (I really don't believe in any real religion stuff, and don't have that much good to say about any of the big ones out there. That person is a Muslim, and a fairly religious one at that.)
Anyway, we simply like (and of course love) each other a lot, and I'm currently planning on making a trip to visit that person in just over a year. The only reason I haven't done so already is because it's just over 10 000 kilometres from here to where that person lives, if you go by a straight line. =/
And that was my story, or at least some of it. Hope you enjoyed your reading.
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Absolutely.
The internet is an interactive medium where you connect with different people.
To some, they see it as just a distraction from the real world.
But to others, it's just as good, if not better than the real world, so real feelings will emerge.
I think it's possible that within that, one can find love.
The internet is an interactive medium where you connect with different people.
To some, they see it as just a distraction from the real world.
But to others, it's just as good, if not better than the real world, so real feelings will emerge.
I think it's possible that within that, one can find love.
That game is always best played with Mustard....Wow I really should stop remembering my Childhood..CANofKAM said: