Moral Question

[warprincenataku]

For a drink? Hmm, buy her a coke... no wait, diet coke!

 

[tricky_tree]

if she was 24 and you 28 would it be such an issue ?

just for the sake of discussion whats the age gap between your mum and dad ?

because apparently the average age difference between married couples is 3.5 years just so you know . . .

The difference is, 24 is considered an adult age, 16, she's just left school.

 

[Robert632]

If you really wanna do it, then do it. If you don't then don't. We really can't make this decesion for you.

 

[tricky_tree]

well, I've been given a few things to think about, I guess I'll sleep on it, convenient because its 4am here. Thanks everyone

 

[sheic99]

Just get some coffee with her.

 

[Kaymish]

it is just a drink that doesn't mean anything is going to happen just remember that you are going to have to be the responsible one dont get too trashed

 

[Broken Boy]

Do it but no drinking for her. ; P

 

[SimuLord]

Don't do it. Not because it's immoral (it isn't), but because it's a bad idea. You're a young adult, she's a mid-adolescent. One of you will change significantly over the next year or two. The relationship will pay the price.

Now mind you, if you're just after a little game of hide the salami, then check your state's laws, buy a pack of Trojans, and let 'er rip.

I'm English, age of consent if 16

Well right then, jolly good. Carry on. (and other British phrases that sound weird when Americans say them)

 

[Skratt]

This is not a moral question, it is a legal question. Morally there is nothing wrong with what you imply. Legally is where your challenges lie.

Just don't pretend there is a long term relationship in your future. I'd also advise you to casually determine her (or her family / friends) level of crazy. You might be surprised to find a daddy issue or two in there.

But, as long as you don't get anything on you that you can't wash off and you lay out the ground rules at the start, cheers!

 

[QCX]

She's just being nice...asking you out for a drink is no different from bieng asked to borrow a pen or help move a heavy object.

You are immediately creating an assumption that this girl is "hitting" on you.

When you make an assumption, you make an ass out of u and mption.

 

[molester jester]

Right, since my own moral compass is somewhat skewed, I figured I'd gauge reaction here.
Last night, a new girl started at work, she's funny, charming, beautiful, all in all a pretty great girl. She asked me if I'd like to go for a drink with her, and therin lies the rub. I am 20, she's 16. What do?

Are you sure she ment it in a romantic or lustful way and not in a " i just started work and i don't know anybody here, so I'll try and make some new friends " kind of way

 

[SimpleChimp]

I've got one question to solve this.

If your sister was 16 would you want her going out with some one who is 20?

If the answer is yes or you don't have a problem with it then go for it.

If you would honestly say no, then don't touch it.

She is some ones daughter or sister man.

 

[Chaos-Spider]

I'd say go out but make sure that nothing romantic happens because relationships with younger colleagues at work is usually presented as a formula for something to go horribly wrong.

 

[Gunsang]

I don't really like young girls, but each to their own. I doubt your relationship would last. Still, if you want to do it, I don't really see why you shouldn't. As long as it is legal.

 

[Julianking93]

Sounds like my current situation, only reversed...

Huh? Oh yeah, well anyways, I say go for it, I guess. I mean, if she likes you, she likes you and if you like her, more power to ya.

Can't change natural feelings.

 

[Mcupobob]

Don't do it. Not because it's immoral (it isn't), but because it's a bad idea. You're a young adult, she's a mid-adolescent. One of you will change significantly over the next year or two. The relationship will pay the price.

Now mind you, if you're just after a little game of hide the salami, then check your state's laws, buy a pack of Trojans, and let 'er rip.

That is some sagly advice there better listen too it. Also it sounds like shes using you to get some free drinks. Say you rather not go drinking but do something else and you just not comftable spending a night in jail ordering for a minor, if she understands and doesn't bring it up again thats a keeper if not then avoid that like hell!

 

[Skorpyo]

Go for it, just try to take it easy with her at first.

 

[Necator15]

if she was 24 and you 28 would it be such an issue ?

just for the sake of discussion whats the age gap between your mum and dad ?

because apparently the average age difference between married couples is 3.5 years just so you know . . .

There's a massive difference between "24 and 28" and "16 and 20"
Being a teenager is a time when most peoples' lives are extremely fluid. Socially they're still generally getting their bearings at that age, whereas at 20+ (Especially after early 20's) people generally have a good idea of how things are socially.

In this case it could be (Not necessarily will be, but could be) seen as the twenty year old taking advantage of the obviously naïve sixteen year old.

 

[the lapalminator]

love knows no age.....

unless its like a 30 year old guy dating a 10 year old... then thats just gross...