Moral Question

[teisjm]

As long as you act responsibly, don't try to push her to anything. Make sure not to be an ass, thats your responsibility, when you're that much older IMO

The only true problem i see is, that it prolly won't be anything worthwhile, and it might end up messy seeing how you work together.

Okay. Steer clear of the Jail Bait.

One: She might be over the legal age of consent but she is 16. You are 20. There is alot of maturing a person does in those four years.

Also think of it this way, certain countries think that a 20 year old sleeping with a 16 year old is an offense punishable by imprisonment.

One: as long as it's just casual dating, that shouldn't be that much of a problem.

And as for the last part, some countries sees women having sex before marriage as an offense punishable by death, yet that doesn't mean we should put on chastity belts on untill we put on a ring.
It's not like you can be punished for it if you travelled to some other country sometiem in the future.

 

[Hazzaslagga]

what is it with girls and older guys. are entire year(sixth form) is having a dry period because all the girls are into people at least 2 or 4 years older.

 

[fletch_talon]

In my opinion, this is not an issue of morality. She's of legal age so no one can say it's morally wrong. I think an age gap of four years is acceptable.
It all comes down to how mature she is.

Actually it can still be morally wrong, just not illegal.
I think its morally wrong to be involved with someone who is in a completely different stage of life and maturity than you are. 18-22 isn't so bad because the younger person has left school and assumedly has some knowledge of life in the real world. 16-20 has a teenager dating an adult. We give these stages of life different names for good reason.

Personally I think its morally wrong because its taking advantage of a younger person's lack of maturity and naivety even if they were the one to pursue the relationship.

 

[Panken]

Sure, go out for a drink, but dont become to emotionally involved.

One, she is alot younger than you and she will mature/change in the next few years.
Two, you work together. Job romances are normally bad, they cause extra shit at work.

 

[RatRace123]

Go nuts. I'd do it, given the opportunity.

I mean it'd be illegal here in the states, but if I lived in the UK, I'd do it.

 

[Sinclair Solutions]

Going by my own moral compass, I would do the honorable thing. Take her out. Do NOT let her drink alcohol. (I'm not sure where you live, but 16 is way too young to start drinking). Do not do anything you would regret. Do not try and kiss her or anything. Just have a good time, and don't pressure yourself into a inappropriate situation. She's 16, and that is too young to do anything stupid with her.

 

[Icaray]

In my opinion, this is not an issue of morality. She's of legal age so no one can say it's morally wrong. I think an age gap of four years is acceptable.
It all comes down to how mature she is.

Actually it can still be morally wrong, just not illegal.
I think its morally wrong to be involved with someone who is in a completely different stage of life and maturity than you are. 18-22 isn't so bad because the younger person has left school and assumedly has some knowledge of life in the real world. 16-20 has a teenager dating an adult. We give these stages of life different names for good reason.

Personally I think its morally wrong because its taking advantage of a younger person's lack of maturity and naivety even if they were the one to pursue the relationship.

Like I said, it all comes down to maturity. If whatever OP decides on doing involves taking advantage of her, then yes, it would be immoral.

 

[Lullabye]

well, it seems a little young, but physical age doesn't count for much at that stage in life. if she's too immature, i would say don't bother, but she is legal. so if you're looking to break a virgin heart, then go ahead........wow I think my moral compass is a little off too.

 

[Sinisterair]

Right, since my own moral compass is somewhat skewed, I figured I'd gauge reaction here.
Last night, a new girl started at work, she's funny, charming, beautiful, all in all a pretty great girl. She asked me if I'd like to go for a drink with her, and therin lies the rub. I am 20, she's 16. What do?

Dont let ppls bullshite get in the way of u being happy....DOOOO IT!

 

[duchaked]

i could be in your shoes
couldn't drink here
but she'd be legal-ish

 

[wordsmith]

Okay. Steer clear of the Jail Bait.

One: She might be over the legal age of consent but she is 16. You are 20. There is alot of maturing a person does in those four years.

Also think of it this way, certain countries think that a 20 year old sleeping with a 16 year old is an offense punishable by imprisonment.

Being as she's older than the age of consent, there's no "jailbait" to steer clear of. I think the bigger problem in all of this is that she's gonna be working with you. If it all goes OK, the company will likely move one of you to make sure you're not working in the same area. At worst, it goes messy and you've gotta go to work with that over your head. But hey, you only live once, right? Go for it

 

[JWW]

If she seems mature enough to make her own choice on this, then I see nothing immoral.

Illegal? Definitely. Personally, I prefer to put up with unnecessary laws if they don't get too ridiculous, rather than revolting against jaywalking. But I guess testing the legal system is up to you.

 

[BrownGaijin]

Morally four years isn't that bad. Legally, well what can I say that hasn't already been said.

I trust that you're picking up on the pattern...

 

[nicholaxxx]

if it''s legal, it's fine

underage drinking isn't that horrible of a thing, unless she wants you to sneak her into a bar in which case, it isn't worth it

 

[Guffe]

Well I think I would go (I am 19) the problem is she wouldn't be able to "go for a drink" in Finland since the age of getting into bars is 18. And I don't by stuff to under aged people which aren't meant for them, they can get it in other ways. I think if she asked I'd go...