Moral Question

[Communist partisan]

Yeah but I wouldn't do her for safety and I wouldn't buy her the drinks so I won't get busted. for raping or buying alcohol to a minor. But if it's leagal in your contry I only say two things "Go nuts".

 

[gjendemsjo]

Spend some time with her and try to figure out the answer yourself.

 

[Legion]

It will not last. Don't do it.

That's terrible, terrible advice.

I agree, especially as this is to do with "morals" not whether or not it will turn into a meaningful relationship.

Just go for a drink, if it feels uncomfortable, walk her home then leave it at that. There is no moral considering she suggested it to you, although

 

[AgentNein]

Personally, I feel that sixteen to twenty is too wide a difference for me. I'm twenty seven now, and if a twenty three year old girl who I dug showed interest I'd go for it. Hell, maybe even a bit younger. But sixteen to twenty? Feels like that's a wide, wide gulf of maturity. People will change a lot from sixteen to twenty. But maybe that's just my own culture's ways talking out my mouth.

I don't know, sixteen year olds still seem like kids to me. Hell, eighteen year olds still seem like kids to me. But then again I'm like seven years older than you so that's probably good right?

 

[Not-here-anymore]

It's just going out for a drink? You're not, I dunno, going to be expected to marry her immediately afterwards? Then go for it.
You have no idea how this will play out until you try it, so go ahead.
Out of curiosity, is this definitely a 'date' kind of drink, or is this a 'I'm going out for a drink with a few friends, do you want to come along' kind of drink?
Provided you're comfortable with buying alcohol for someone underage, I see no problem with it.

 

[DarkDain]

I wouldnt trust a 16 year old girl that asks you to go drinking with her, and its been ONE DAY? Besides, work place relationship? Red flags *waves*

 

[Hobo Joe]

If it's legal then go for it; however at that age....it's still rather questionable with such a gap.

 

[Valkyira]

When cherries are red, they're ready for plucking
When girls turn 16 they're ready for.....


Sorry, had to. Go for it, it's legal so have fun.

 

[open trap]

Do it, get laid, have fun, you wont regret it as long as she does not get pregnant.

 

[HeySeansOnline]

Jail bait, whatever happens won't be worth any possible reprecussions.

 

[Charlie the Grenadier]

I've got one question to solve this.

If your sister was 16 would you want her going out with some one who is 20?

If the answer is yes or you don't have a problem with it then go for it.

If you would honestly say no, then don't touch it.

She is some ones daughter or sister man.

Sorted.

 

[Trivun]

Right, since my own moral compass is somewhat skewed, I figured I'd gauge reaction here.
Last night, a new girl started at work, she's funny, charming, beautiful, all in all a pretty great girl. She asked me if I'd like to go for a drink with her, and therin lies the rub. I am 20, she's 16. What do?

You're British, like me, so the only problem here is regarding the age she can drink at (forget the whole 'age/2 + 7' rule, that's a load of crap). Otherwise, go for it. Go on out with her, have a good time, and just make sure that you're both acting sensibly and that her parents are aware of what's going on so they don't get the wrong idea.

Seriously, my own parents have a four year age gap (though admittedly they weren't 16 and 20 when hey first got together). It's a tiny age gap, nothing to worry about, provided her parents are okay with it (which I dare say they should be if this girl is mature and responsible, which I'd imagine she is if she can hold down a job alright...).