Mothers can be Idiots

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Im typing on my wii, because my mother took away my computer, which 'inspired' me to write this piece. Please note that this isn't a "I hate my mom" thread, there's discussion.

So, why is it we have to respect or love our mother jyst because society says so? My mom is a dumbfuck with computers thinks any recreational software shouldn't exist, is racist, is homophobic (im not gay but this still bothers me with her anti-gay lectures), and religious person (not that crazy though).

For a while now I have been working with a team making an indie game, I'm one of the artists so I spend a lot of time drawing. My mother yesterday decided that she can't have me doing this because she deemed it a waste of time she cut me off completely from my team for who knows how lonh but FACT:SHE HAS NO CONCEPT OH COMMITMENT AND EFFORT, if -eople are counting on you let them down because het people aren't paying you, if its work that doesn't result in instant $$$ stop doing it(seriously, if it requires ANY sort of brain power and thinking she can't do it. Non-video games like monopoly are impossible to play with her.) Where was I? Oh, I know that by these facts, I can say my mom is an Idiot and I am more capable than her, so why do I have to 'Love' her like every day is mother's day? Society tells you that parents do no wrong and you should be their little slave for your own good. My mother disapproves of everything except the classic 3 jobs all parents would be proud for you to have: Doctor, Engineer, Lawyer.

Bah, enough about myself, can't help but rant. Its all you can do when you know you know you're stuck 'till you're 18.

So escapist, I don't like my mom, am I in the wrong? Must you forever love your parents because they raise you? I think this is a dumb reason because they have no choice but to do so and I have no choice but to stay. Do you think parents always know best? Merry Christmas, also don't worry about hurting my feelings.

 

[Cherry Cola]

She's really a [pardon my french) ***** in this situation. Actually, she sounds like a total (again, pardon my french) ***** in any situation.

Don't let her boss you around like that. Parents don't know best, but they like to think they do. Sometimes, telling them the truth is the best way.

 

[Mekado]

Must you forever love your parents because they raise you? I think this is a dumb reason because they have no choice but to do so and I have no choice but to stay.

Hmm, they do have a choice, ever heard of adoption ? or plain simple abandonment ?

Oh and no, i don't agree with her take on things...

 

[TheNamlessGuy]

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[Skeleon]

Huh, well it definitely was a rant but it's understandable.
Why have respect for parents? Well, I respect my parents because of who they are and because of what they did for me, not just because they happen to be my parents. I'd say "respect your parents no matter what" is an outdated concept as respect has to be earned.

 

[Aunel]

my mom is awesome, she knows more about Rock then most wannabe rockers these days,

and as a bonus she let's me go to almost any concert I want to

 

[Icecoldcynic]

The lyrics to the 2pac song keep ya head up somehow seem relevant here. And also, your parents DO have a choice on whether to raise you or not. Ever heard of adoption? I mean hell, you have a wii to play on, you're not some poor kid living in slums being treated like a slave dog. I know it's hard to understand at your age, but you have a lot to thank your parents for.

 

[Soxafloppin]

But you still love her, shes your mummy.

 

[Heart of Darkness]

Oh, yes, hate your mom. It's not like she didn't carry you around in her womb for nine months, fed you, clothed you, and took care/still continues to take care of you.

What you really need to do is to sit her down and talk this out with her. Explain that you are working on a project that requires access to a computer, and that you would like her full support behind her in this. Or go and get a job, your own place, and your own computer. Really, you're nineteen...maybe it's time to think about leaving the nest.

 

[ReincarnatedFTP]

Heh my dad yells and gets angry all the time for no reason, closet racist (Things like calling Obama the N word or other detrimental comments about black people on welfare/gangbanging), homophobic and crazy religious even though he can't stop cursing. He spouts talking points he gets from douchetards like Glenn Beck, O'Reilly and Hannity and whines about how Obama is ruining America blah blah blah. He honestly thinks Fox News is "fair and balanced" and thinks torture/kidnapping/nuking Muslims would be okay because they're Muslim. He blindly hates the words "liberal" or "Democrat". I understand that Democrats/Obama aren't perfect and be criticized but his criticisms involve no logic.

I still love him because he brings home the money and he's a committed dad. Don't really respect him on an intellectual level, but he's a hard worker and he takes cares of his family. I do, however, feign respect for him in front of him, because I don't feel like getting in arguments and wasting my time getting shouted at.

I think you have a point, but oftentimes people who whine about their parents are brats, so criticism of parents gets lumped in with brattiness and is looked down upon. There's also the factor of home cohesiveness, where people don't feel like dealing with the bullshit from their parents so they feign respect and make their kids respect them ("because goddamn it if I have to deal with it, I have to get the perks too and my kids will just shut up and deal with it") and it becomes a tradition.

 

[Akkiko]

I think any parent deserves a certain degree of respect, regardless of their personality. Yes, after you've hit puberty and the rational part of your brain is done forming (or so we hope) and you can make (hopefully) logical decisions, then you're free to do as you please.

The reason I say this is because despite all of their strict rules, their inability to understand others in certain situation and every other reason you've listed off, they are taking care of you.

Mind you, I think that's a law, but the point is they're still giving you food, giving you a roof over your head, blah blah blah blah.

And if you want to bring up "I pay rent" or "They make me buy my own food" and so on and so forth, than just go with the fact that she carried you around for nine months while you were kicking and squirming and sucking up half of everything she ate.

Either way, respect 'em for as long as need be, then bolt at first opportunity.

 

[Canid117]

She is a terrible mother so no you do not have to love her. That is like asking "My father beats me am I still supposed to love him?"

And I can say from experience that mothers HATE it when you gain some kind of moral high ground over them. For pretty much all your life they were the superiors intellectually and morally (Cause lets face we are just plain stupid when we are kids) and if you suddenly turn that around on them they can lash out at you for it by yelling and trying to ground you. Sucks dont it?

Doesn't always happen but it can so be careful...

 

[Mcupobob]

My famliy spilt my dad is off somewhere doing his thing he has a house a couple of miles from he but is gone ever day my mom and my stepdad live in a town a little farther away then my dad and I vist every now and again and we watch movies and smoke pot, and even though she can be annoying I still love her, I live with my grandparent and my brother lives with my other grandparent so we still see eachother enough to be friend but not enough to hate eachother for being up in are space. So I think you should adopt this syestem we love eachother because we don't have to live with eachother.

 

[Deleted]

The lyrics to the 2pac song keep ya head up somehow seem relevant here. And also, your parents DO have a choice on whether to raise you or not. Ever heard of adoption? I mean hell, you have a wii to play on, you're not some poor kid living in slums being treated like a slave dog. I know it's hard to understand at your age, but you have a lot to thank your parents for.

I get what you're saying but it was my father who made all the money in the house, and he's a different guy altogether.

As for you 'look on the bright side' argument, thats a common line from my mom. If I ask for ANYTHING, she'll say, "you're lucky to have all this stuff! We live in America and your cousins are in Egypt with less than you! No you're not getting something you don't have because you should enjoy what you do have."
Imagine if whever you order at a restaurant my mom cones and tells you kids are starving in Africa, and refuses to servr you food?

Also because multi quoting is hard on a wii, following response for others:
I do have a wii since launch, but only 6 games:
3 shovelware as a last year Xmas gift (my mother changed it from originally Mario Galaxy)
Brawl at release (bought by dad)
Mario Kart wii at release (bought by dad)
Sonic Riders (bought by me)
So basiczlly my wii was a brick for the majority of its life, hell if my mother got the wii she'd buy no games because to the console would be more than enough.

 

[The_ModeRazor]

You're supposed to like her because she is (or at least supposed to be) respectable and all.
You know, parents are usually nice and helpful to their children.
I actually feel sorry for you.

 

[Deleted]

Oh, yes, hate your mom. It's not like she didn't carry you around in her womb for nine months, fed you, clothed you, and took care/still continues to take care of you.

What you really need to do is to sit her down and talk this out with her. Explain that you are working on a project that requires access to a computer, and that you would like her full support behind her in this. Or go and get a job, your own place, and your own computer. Really, you're nineteen...maybe it's time to think about leaving the nest.

I'm 16 (don't change your perception of my intelligence though' sorry to be cocky but I'm a genuis freak) so moving out isn't the problem. Its her complete disregard for my goals that aren't university.

 

[Amnestic]

Hey Son, just to let you know I don't appreciate you bad-mouthing me over the internet.

Pack up your stuff and get out.

 

[gmacarthur81]

If your profile is to be believed, you are 19 years old!

MOVE OUT! PACK UP YOUR CRAP AND LEAVE!

For crying out loud, you're an ADULT! Act like one instead of coming on the internet and crying like a 12 year old.

EDIT: So wait, you are 16? Then your birthdate on your profile is a lie. Shame on you.

 

[Idlemessiah]

Oh, yes, hate your mom. It's not like she didn't carry you around in her womb for nine months, fed you, clothed you, and took care/still continues to take care of you.

What you really need to do is to sit her down and talk this out with her. Explain that you are working on a project that requires access to a computer, and that you would like her full support behind her in this. Or go and get a job, your own place, and your own computer. Really, you're nineteen...maybe it's time to think about leaving the nest.

Yeah, pretty much this. Seriously, parents are strange creatures when it comes to their children. Of course your mum doesn't want to to be a games designer, it's a lazy slackers job that requires no effort and gets you no real money or promotion. Thats exactly what my parents said when I put forward that idea when I was about 12.

But seriously, she can't do anything to stop you doing what you want to do. She takes your pc away, buy your own. She takes away your internet, beg, plead, threaten to leave home, actually leave home. Honestly, moving out at your age is your best career option.