Mothers can be Idiots
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I think you always will love your parents in some way, whether you realize it or not... simply because they gave you life and raised you. But by no means should that mean that you need to like them at all.
I love my parents... but if I met them at a party?[footnote]Mike Birbiglia ftw[/footnote]
....yea
I love my parents... but if I met them at a party?[footnote]Mike Birbiglia ftw[/footnote]
....yea
Douk said:
You went on about how society encourages us to love and respect our mothers and then you ask us if you're in the wrong for hating her.
This is silly. Once you reach the age of reason, you can conclude for yourself whether or not your parents are worth emulating based on your personal morals and inner guidelines to what makes a decent human being. If they are worth emulating, fantastic. If they are not, suck it up and make mental notes of what you don't want to be. Yes, it's expected that so long as your parents are paying your bills, they deserve your respect--and they do--but once you get out on your own, you can make your own choices.
It's true. Mothers can be idiots. And fathers, too! And pretty much anybody who is involved in your life!
You're that same fellow from a few months ago who had the mother who tried to ban you from the internet because it was all evil and probably porn, or somthing, aren't you?Douk said:
You seem to be a special case. Obviously bearing in mind that, as a participant in the circumstances, your view is biased, but it sounds like your mum is a one-and-purest fuckwad
My own mum? I love her very much, though she exasperates me so. We get along fine, but she has two fatal flaws (like all humans, to be fair)
1. She is easily irritated and, when she becomes irritated, her statements, views and arguments become hypocritical and unfairly overarchign (i.e. I leave the light on in her room once, she'll talk like I've been doing it for months non-stop)
2. She gets angry when she dosen't know something. If I ask my mum a question, I'm either desperate or asking something I know she'll know because I want to make conversation. If she dosen't know, she'll spend thirty minutes reiterating the fact that she "didn't know" and how I had the nerve to ask her somethign when she quiet obviously didn't know (she assumes I can read minds). If you try to answer her cynical rhetorics, she'll get even angrier. Once I asked her what something in French meant. She told me she didn't know, I left it at that. But she kept on talking, saying "I don't know, how did you expect me to know?!" in various different ways over and over, and getting angry when I try to apologise/end the conversation/argue back/give up/leave. She ended up screaming. It's rather weak of her
My mom and sister are ditsy as hell and have no concept of logic. I've been still living at home because I didn't have the money to movie out, and she just keeps getting less and less tolerable. She never listens to me and when I'm right about something, she says I had never said it in the first place. She also thinks I smoke pot and constantly tries to get me to drink. First off, it is illegal here (under age - turning 19 in a few days), and second, I don't really want to drink, but she can't comprehend that. Oh, and to make it better, my driving license is still suspended for another 5 months, so no way I can move out before then. And no, my license wasn't suspended for anything bad.
respect your parents as long as they respect you. Speaking as a man who had no help growing up from my father i can safely say that parents do not know everything and it's a complete game of chance what parents you get. Thankfully i have a great mother who has raised me well. She is a traditional mother, but supports me in what I want to do in life, she even supports my career as a fetishwear designer, despite the fact she is not a fan of the fetish scene at all.
You just do what you can with what you've got, and if your mother can't respect your decisions, recognise your passion and accept that you might have some life plans of your own instead of living out her own intentions, then clearly she is not a person to take inspiration or advice from. Keep being the person you want to be and hold out till you;re 18, then you can do whatever you like, with or without her approval.
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You just do what you can with what you've got, and if your mother can't respect your decisions, recognise your passion and accept that you might have some life plans of your own instead of living out her own intentions, then clearly she is not a person to take inspiration or advice from. Keep being the person you want to be and hold out till you;re 18, then you can do whatever you like, with or without her approval.
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Honestly? I believe you owe your parents a bit, just cause they didn't completely ruin you like some sadistic freaks will.
BUT, just cause they did something ok, doesn't mean the wrong goes away.
Judge a person by their actions, if they're horrible, treat them like any other horrible person.
Only restraint needed is the bit you should give for them not screwing you up, feeding you, and if you're still living with them, what is necessary to insure they CONTINUE to feed you.
BUT, just cause they did something ok, doesn't mean the wrong goes away.
Judge a person by their actions, if they're horrible, treat them like any other horrible person.
Only restraint needed is the bit you should give for them not screwing you up, feeding you, and if you're still living with them, what is necessary to insure they CONTINUE to feed you.
Are you the dude who said that his mother got paranoid at Msn over something she saw at Oprah's?Douk said:
I think you and your parents need to have a good chat and calmly explain your problems while listening to her side of thing at the same time and try to find a middle ground, at the very least. If that doesn't seem to work, then bear with it.
Yeah, I know that it's not the best advice, but you'll be much better when you are adult and have a chance at independence. To make things different, consider changing your college/university to another city/state/whatever than the one you currently live.
Let's see, so she's a racist, homophobic arse.
Why would you give a shit about her? I have no concept of family dedication. My family are actually pretty cool, but the ones that are dicks I don't like as such. Genetics dictating emotion is illogical.
Why would you give a shit about her? I have no concept of family dedication. My family are actually pretty cool, but the ones that are dicks I don't like as such. Genetics dictating emotion is illogical.
Dude stand up to the *****, tell her that you're passinonite about your little indie game thing and that if she can't respect your passiones then you can't respect her.
That usually works.
That usually works.
Just because she doesn't know much about computers and electronics, means she "sucks"? I don't understand you...TheNamlessGuy said:
Your post are so veg and don't explain much.... not much of a reason to even post them....TheNamlessGuy said:
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My mom is rather lazy and i haven't had clean clothes in a while in a while because she is to busy playing "farmville" bleh....
I'm lucky because my mum and dad are both good parents. My mum shares little interests with me, but she still respects my interest.
My advice would be talk to your dad first and ask him to hint on what you don't like about her then sit and talk to her about her problems.
My advice would be talk to your dad first and ask him to hint on what you don't like about her then sit and talk to her about her problems.
Parents do deserve your respect, and as long as you're in their care you do have a measure of responsibility to them. However, that is no excuse for them to ignore your interests and desires simply out of a lack of understanding.
You should "honor your mother" (to steal a quote from the Bible), but you should definitely sit her down and explain yourself to her. What you're doing has value, so you have to develop an argument as to why and present it to her, and don't back down. I had to explain a lot to my mother (though she was never as horrible about it as you're making yours seem), but she eventually came to understand the value in video games and why I play them, even though she's not a gamer herself.
In short, the best course of action in this situation is to help her understand where you're coming from. Not how unreasonable she's being, or what injustices are being committed against you, but just explain why you do what you do.
You should "honor your mother" (to steal a quote from the Bible), but you should definitely sit her down and explain yourself to her. What you're doing has value, so you have to develop an argument as to why and present it to her, and don't back down. I had to explain a lot to my mother (though she was never as horrible about it as you're making yours seem), but she eventually came to understand the value in video games and why I play them, even though she's not a gamer herself.
In short, the best course of action in this situation is to help her understand where you're coming from. Not how unreasonable she's being, or what injustices are being committed against you, but just explain why you do what you do.