my gf is a pothead

[The_root_of_all_evil]

Hate to say this, but get rid.

Dope as a one-off is a part of the lifestyle. If it's become the lifestyle, then she will be stealing from you, sleeping with others and other things to get her fix before long.

Sad but true.

If you really care for her, try to make her see what it's doing to her. Ask her to go for a week without, and you give up something (like gaming) for the same time.

 

[zHellas]

other than the fact that one of them is a crime and that is something i CAN'T be involved with right now.

May I ask why?

You said that several times now, and I'm getting pretty curious.

So would you mind elaborating as to why you can't be involved with a criminal in whatever way?

 

[Lord Beautiful]

Dump her. If she's that deep in stoner-ness, she isn't changing for anyone. Dump her.

 

[thedevilscousin]

Try and get her out of it before it ruins her life, I myself have lost people around me to pot. Like my ex friend who is now a crazed speed junkie who liked to toke a lot with me, pot can fuck you up.

 

[z121231211]

It seems you two are doing fine. It's not like she's insisting you to do pot and you even said that she doesn't smoke around you.

Just try hanging with her friends, don't do anything you don't want to, but don't bash others for their decisions. I hate the 'pothead' lifestyle, but some of the nicest people I know are potheads.

 

[THAC0]

Ok. I have no plans on dumping this girl. I have had far more than my share of horrible relationships so, i am no stranger to this kind of thing (you know the rules, and so do I). I have no issues with this girl at all. She is nice, we get along very well, and all that other good stuff.

I am not going to dump her. She was a pothead when we met, and it would be unfair to hold that against her now.

I am just looking for some ideas about how to proceed...that don't include dumping her.

 

[Psycho Cat Industries]

Get away before its too late!Tell her the option and if she chooses it over you,she always will.

 

[Doive]

If I were you I'd break it off because only trouble comes from smoking weed and if shes caught with weed and your in the general area guess what its also your weed. so there aren't really any benefits to staying with her, so unless she's your one and only perfect match I'd break it off.

Only trouble comes from smoking weed? You're forgetting the good times that come with drug use.
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What does she do other than smoke and hang around with you?

 

[braincore02]

"do i just go with it and hang out with her and her pothead buddies doing what ever it is potheads do when they are not playing hacky sack and talking about evil corporations?"

Wow such high opinions (pun maybe intended). Dump her, with that attitude she obviously isn't for you, tho I really think she should dump you.

I kid, I kid.

honestly, i have no issues with pot on a personal level. I don't see any difference between her smoking pot and my love of rum, other than the fact that one of them is a crime and that is something i CAN'T be involved with right now.

Ok now you sound more reasonable. In that case I'd say she needs to understand that you can't be associated with weed because you'll get kicked out of lawschool or whatever if you get caught. She shouldn't possess when with you, and shouldn't smoke in your presence. Wouldn't that fix it up? If she can't do that then she's more interested in the drug than you, and I think that will answer your question.

 

[DaysBefore]

End it now. And phone the Police to have her arrested for possession.

If that is not an option...... I don't know, tell her you are uncomfortable with it and.... Whatever...

 

[tetron]

I'd say you should decide what your stance is on marijuana on a personal level and how big a factor it is in her life. Does she over prioritize marijuana when it comes to her spending ? Does she try to push you into doing it ? Are there times where she'll be fine with putting down the pipe, so to speak, and doing things that you like to do and hang out with your friends ?

Ultimately the choice is yours whether you're fine with someone who smokes marijuana. If it helps marijuana has been legalized for medicinal use in a fair number of states, and its medicinal qualities far outstrip those of some modern medicines(pills are evil !). It also has no physical addictiveness, that's not to say people can't gain a mental dependency on it but this dependency will still be purely psychological.

Yes it is illegal on a federal level but pot's really no big deal. These horror stories about pot ruining people's lives are bogus. It was the person who chose to ruin their life not the pot, you just have to figure out if your girlfriend is that type of person.

 

[Neo10101]

Well, if your trying to be something like for example, a teacher which having a criminal background would be detrimental, then you gotta be real careful. You can chill with her but ask her to smoke away from you and don't hang out with her if she is smoking in public where you can get caught. It's really all up to you on how important she is compared to how important whatever it is you want to do that involves never getting caught smoking pot.

 

[Sethzard]

As a rule, nothing good comes out of illegal substances. I would advise getting rid of her as you don't have much in common. Also, you seem to have already made up your mind from the way that you have written that.

 

[Choppaduel]

or do i just insist that she respect my reasons to not want to associate with something that could really really screw me up worse than the average person?

Well not in those words.

Something like: I'm not getting to that habit, or culture, you can, but I will have no part of it.

 

[Psycho Cat Industries]

Get away before its too late!Tell her the option and if she chooses it over you,she always will.

Yes, because ultimatums are a fantastic way to forge a relationship.

I routinely make my partners choose between something they enjoy and me. Because that's the healthy thing to do you see.

All sarcastic remark aside,it really can be a problem,especially if it is illegal in the area he lives in,like say,the Unites States.You don't want to be dragged into that stuff.

 

[k3v1n]

I don't know, if you like her I don't see what the big deal is, if it's only one of those relationships that will last 6 months at most, then go nuts and dump her.


that's what I'd do, not trying to force you or anything.