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Raven_Operative

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Personally, I would get rid of her.

If you want an opinion that doesn't involve dumping her, then just be very careful to not get dragged into the whole pot this.
 

Gudrests

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or do i just insist that she respect my reasons to not want to associate with something that could really really screw me up worse than the average person?
^ this my man. as funny as listening to them talk about the evil corps. may be...no. This or dump her....BETTER YET....have lots of crazy sex with her...and then ya know look for someone who you can introduce to your parents and still do that with.... *HIGH FIVE*
 

emeraldrafael

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You're supposed to turn her in. otherwise, you're harboring a criminal, or obstructing justice, or something.
 

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The_root_of_all_evil said:
Hate to say this, but get rid.

Dope as a one-off is a part of the lifestyle. If it's become the lifestyle, then she will be stealing from you, sleeping with others and other things to get her fix before long.

Sad but true.

If you really care for her, try to make her see what it's doing to her. Ask her to go for a week without, and you give up something (like gaming) for the same time.
I think you are confusing pot with methamphetamine buddy.
If she starts doing those things than it ain't about the weed. It is about some other personal problem. Mainly, she is a scandalous *****.
 
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Abandon4093 said:
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Get away before its too late!Tell her the option and if she chooses it over you,she always will.
Yes, because ultimatums are a fantastic way to forge a relationship.

I routinely make my partners choose between something they enjoy and me. Because that's the healthy thing to do you see.
All sarcastic remark aside,it really can be a problem,especially if it is illegal in the area he lives in,like say,the Unites States.You don't want to be dragged into that stuff.
Because what is marked down as illegal by a country is obviously the be all and end all of truth.

Sometimes a bit of a risk is something you have to take for enjoyment. There are plenty of things that are illegal. That just means you have to be more careful in your practice of them.
You've lost.This is something dealing with the dealings of one's personal life and health and you talk of the fun of it and the risk that you play for.Do you consider marriage a all fun,no risk,no choice decision?Girlfriend leads to marriage.If you say otherwise then you further prove my point.Sure,it may not be illegal in your country but anyway who claims that something illegal is good as having a risk is fooling not only themselves but any they try to convince.Sure,some things shouldn't be illegal in my view,pot being one of them,but I do not smoke it.Do you shoot yourself if in a country where guns are illegal?Do you rob from homes?Under what logic is a risk a good thing?
The only thing that's been lost here is any respect I had for you.

Show some critical thinking.

Just because something is illegal doesn't mean it should be.
Don't dodge the subject.I repeat my saying "Sure some things shouldn't be illegal".That has been stated already and proves your ignorance to the matter.You've already lost.Besides,I am not here for your respect.Really,I wasn't here to talk either,just post an opinion which you so whole heartedly swooped up.You claim me to be in lack of thought and yet the contradiction comes from you.Now if you will excuse me,this is The Escapist and I am here for a community which I have come to understand as respectable.
 

martin's a madman

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Pull out your member and say 'suck on this'.


Juuuuust kidding.

If you can't come to terms with the life style then you might actually just have to break it off.
 

Quaxar

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Talking about evil corporations? Potheads do that kinda stuff?
Time to find me some potters to discuss why Aperture Science kicks Umbrella's reawakened ass!

Now about your problem... I'd say leave her with her "culture". If she's not willing to cut down and you are not willing to cut up (as in, be around it) then there's not really much for you two, right?
 

Electric Alpaca

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You're not reading me are you?Risk by association.Honestly,what is so hard to understand that if you are associated and she is caught then this whole thing ends under law.Religion has nothing to do with what I state with marriage.Atheists get married don't they?Your statement has nothing to do with the problem.Really,we're arguing for nothing.Legality matters call for risk.I do no such damning,I am not the police.Why do you assume this?The comparison is not to smoking but to your saying that it is justified by the risk.That would therefore justify any and all acts of violence.Your quickness to judge truly shows this hatred that you wish to project on me and really,why does this matter?
I don't think you're reading me: I referred exactly to Athiests getting married i.e. hypocrisy. A foot in tradition for tradition's sake, no higher thought involved other than the fact that it has been highlighted as something that must be done to be considered a human being.

Akin, I'm sure you would agree if you could comprehend, to your statements surrounding weed: thought of badly because enough people have labelled as such.

I didn't assume you were the police, I'm assuming your stance on the rules as set out on a plate to you that you seem so eager to break out the cutlery for. I didn't say it is justified for the risk, I said it isn't necessarily wrong because it is illegal.

Do not drag things out of context, you have to remember that I am in a defense in this discussion - I am merely challenging your points but you wish to reflect your feelings on the topic onto my feelings for you.

I have no hatred, only concern. I apologise if my dulcet words have given that impression. You're right, it doesn't matter. But that talk is of a defeatist, attempting to disarm me for caring too much when other discussion eludes you.
 

meticadpa

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Weed is a gateway drug. She might move onto harder stuff, and if you want nothing to do with her current drug habits, you might not know about it until it's too late.

I'd dump her, personally. Like people have said: someone shouldn't be characterised by their drug use.
 

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Abandon4093 said:
Pot isn't dangerous. People and their retarded addictive personalities are.

Cannabis is no more addictive than pringles.
This. This is very true.

Back on topic though, if I was in your shoes, I would let her go. You have your reasons.
 

Paragon Fury

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Drop her faster than a flaming potato and never talk to her again. Maybe even call the police, just for shits and giggles.

Nothing makes a break-up go easier than making sure its an entertaining one.
 

Electric Alpaca

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I would like to give you a big sloppy internet kiss.

I was going to write something similar, especially to your closing sentence. But unfortunately I just couldn't be bothered wasting the finger movements on that guy.
I'm beginning to come to this conclusion also, but I like to challenge individuals and find why they think what they do.

If they are justified I can at least respect their opinion, regardless of if I agree.
 

Xangi

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I do find it kind of odd how almost all drug advocates on the internet love to tell people they're "closed-minded" or "ignorant" or a whole host of other terms whenever evidence (anecdotal or otherwise) or opinions are presented that they dislike or do not agree with. Make no mistake, I am not saying that ALL drug advocates do this, as I know one personally who is one of the least patronizing people I know, just that I seem to find many who do.

On topic: This really depends on whether or not it bugs you, and what you judge her responsibility level to be. Personally, the smell of pot gives me migraines (as with the smell of many other things), and I find the behavior of intoxicated people to be annoying and moronic. There are also short and long term health risks to the use of cannabis, some of which are quite serious (an example of short term being impairment of judgement, as well as hand-eye co-ordination; an example of long term being lung cancer and possible psychosis.) which many people do not know about, and which many people will never admit are real.

If you can deal with that, then it comes to her responsibility level. Do you think that she could restrain herself from pot for an extended period of time if she had to for your sake? Do you think she would ever walk into your workplace high? If the answer to those or any of the questions they inspire in your mind is yes, then you should probably reconsider the relationship, or at least talk to her about it, and tell her about your fears. If she is a mature and responsible individual, she will understand. If not, well, she may break up with you.

On a closing note, I hope the relationship works out, because if you are letting this bug you this much, you obviously care about her. As someone said before, a relationship can work through anything if both sides put enough work into it.
 

Danzaivar

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If you ever move in together you will be in a house that reeks of pot all the time. Which means your clothes will reek of pot. Which means whoever is gonna screw you over about pot will do so anyway.

And let's face it, that shit smells awful. You wanna be around that crap voluntarily if you aren't using it?
 

MadarseLizard

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Have you tried doing that most fundamental of human interactions - talking to her? Instead of turning to the internet for advice. Maybe ask her not to hang out with her friends as much if it makes you uncomfortable?
Anyway, it sounds like you've all ready made up your mind - your tone suggests you want to dump her anyway.
 

Nukey

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If she means that much to you, dumping her over that is a stupid idea. Stay with her, hell, maybe even try it with her, imagine how much she'd like that. Not to mention cannabis is far from bad, research shows it has a lot of positive uses.
 

Bluesclues

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Score, good for you, what's the problem? You're a huge pussy you say? Well then the problems seems to lie with YOU and not HER.

Honestly, if you're not willing to possibly go down in a drug bust for a girl, then it aint love and you shouldn't be wasting your time.
Yep, because nothing says "I love you" like willingly throwing away the education that will fuel what you do for a living just because your significant other was holding an illegal substance around you.

Seriously?


I have nothing against weed smokers (some of my closest friends light up from time to time), but I respect the OP's desire to want to protect his...credibility? By not associating with his gf's friends.
 
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pubbing said:
I think you are confusing pot with methamphetamine buddy.
Nope, I've seen that happen with dope.
If she starts doing those things than it ain't about the weed. It is about some other personal problem. Mainly, she is a scandalous *****.
Again, you'd be surprised. When it's a lifestyle, other things tend to fade into insignificance.