My Girlfriend Left Me

[thevillageidiot13]

Hey.

I remember a few weeks ago, somebody made a post about his wife who dumped him, and he made this post because he noticed that The Escapist had a supportive community or something.

Uhm. So...... On Sunday, two days ago, my girlfriend told me I was controlling, that she felt like I needed to know where she was all the time. And I didn't see it that way; I saw it as, like, I really like this girl, and I miss her, and, before, whenever she went somewhere she'd still text me and shit; but, lately, my texting plan has been shit, so I just like to ask where she's going... And then she blamed me, and told me that I'm the reason she has no social life.

... And I got really upset. And yesterday, she told me that... maybe she doesn't love me in the same way that she used to anymore. Maybe she wants to break up with me. She told me she didn't love me anymore, not as a girlfriend... and so, I decided to end it. And I haven't been able to stop crying since then.

And it really made me upset, because... I mean, she was really important to me. And she has always been so special. Over the last year, she has changed my life for the better. Everything I look for in a girl, and more... Like, I've never been able to find a single thing that I don't absolutely love about her. We've been through Hell and back together. We've helped each other through so much, and held each others' hands through so much pain. We have so many memories. I don't know how to cope with the pain right now. I'm so scared of letting go. How do I cope? How do I survive? I was so, so sure that she was the one for me

I'm so miserable, and upset, and scared... I don't know what to do. I feel so weak and... heartbroken. It's agonizing.

She told me she would love me forever. And I believed her. And here I am... Can somebody out there help me out?

 

[Loop Stricken]

Wow.

... you had a girlfriend!

 

[thevillageidiot13]

Uh, she didn't leave you, you just said you ended it.

Anyway, life sucks sometimes.
Sorry.

I only left her... because I felt like she wasn't happy with me anymore. And it felt like... she wanted to do it, but didn't want to feel guilty about it.

In retrospect, maybe it was a rash decision... but... it's over now. And I don't know...where to go from here.

 

[jonnosferatu]

Hey.

I remember a few weeks ago, somebody made a post about his wife who dumped him, and he made this post because he noticed that The Escapist had a supportive community or something.

Uhm. So...... On Sunday, two days ago, my girlfriend told me I was controlling, that she felt like I needed to know where she was all the time. And I didn't see it that way; I saw it as, like, I really like this girl, and I miss her, and, before, whenever she went somewhere she'd still text me and shit; but, lately, my texting plan has been shit, so I just like to ask where she's going... And then she blamed me, and told me that I'm the reason she has no social life.

... And I got really upset. And yesterday, she told me that... maybe she doesn't love me in the same way that she used to anymore. Maybe she wants to break up with me. She told me she didn't love me anymore, not as a girlfriend... and so, I decided to end it. And I haven't been able to stop crying since then.

And it really made me upset, because... I mean, she was really important to me. And she has always been so special. Over the last year, she has changed my life for the better. Everything I look for in a girl, and more... Like, I've never been able to find a single thing that I don't absolutely love about her. We've been through Hell and back together. We've helped each other through so much, and held each others' hands through so much pain. I don't know how to cope with the pain right now... I'm so miserable, and upset, and scared... I don't know what to do. I feel so weak and... heartbroken. It's agonizing.

She told me she would love me forever. And I believed her. And here I am... Can somebody out there help me out?

I can't provide any help beyond saying that you're not alone in these feelings or this situation, and that the pain does not last.

I doubt anyone else can either.

 

[Grubnar]

No.

It is often said that time heals all wounds.
That is not true.

The only person in the world that can help you now is yourself.

 

[Kubanator]

Statistically speaking, unless you live on a farm, you'll find dozens of "The One". There's not much you can do about this one, don't cling on to her. Let go, and move on.

 

[HardRockSamurai]

I remember a few weeks ago, somebody made a post about his wife who dumped him, and he made this post because he noticed that The Escapist had a supportive community or something.

Well, we ARE a supportive community and all (well, most of us are), but these kinds of threads are usually frowned upon. Nothing to feel bad about, it's just a heads up

As for your girlfriend.........well, let me just say that there are plenty of fish out there in the sea. Go get em' tiger.

[small]Also, try and find a fish who knows yoga. You'll thank me later.[/small]

...I haven't been able to stop crying since then...

And MAN UP for fucks sake!

 

[Kuchinawa212]

Well gut feeling is "It wasn't ment to be"

And it might be, there are a lot of people out there. I have myself not found Miss Right, so I don't know what it is to be in love and such. But I tell you this, if she really loves you she'll come back and you'll form an understanding. A compromise between the two of you. And if she refuses to do anything with you it might be time to call it. Not to dwell on the past but to look forward

 

[Inverse Skies]

Hey, we've all been through a breakup before, and they're not fun. The best thing to do is DON'T concentrate on your faults or what you did wrong, because if you do that you're only going to end up doubting yourself and making it worse by concentrating on what is wrong with you, rather than what is right with you. Think about it in that way, look at what is good about you and what qualities you have to offer. And remember - the people who talk about there only being one person or something like that are wrong. Simple. There's heaps of girls out there who would be more than happy to go out with you and will like you for who you are, you just have to be patient and not let it get to you if they don't go out with you straight away. You'll be alright.

 

[Good morning blues]

It's going to suck for a while, but it'll eventually get better and you'll be able to carry on with your life as usual. For now, I reccommend you read this [http://forums.somethingawful.com/showthread.php?threadid=1826659].

 

[Samurai Goomba]

You pick yourself up, dust yourself off, and life goes on. Don't define your life by your relationships.

I know my life would be crap if I did. So I don't.

 

[Screenager]

Mate,
I feel really sad for you
If i was there i'd try and cheer you up.
But as im only at my computer,
i can only try and type it.
Only problem is, i cant type how much i feel for you.

I hope maybe that knowing that people sympathise might make you a bit happier.
And i do really hope you feel better after a while, but all i can say is
sorry.

 

[HungryHungryHobo]

Yea that sounds really bitchey of her basically forcing you to break it off and yea going through the same thing right now just getting dumped by text last week but if life has taught me anything is you just have to take the time cry it out and just find good people and good friends to talk to and just find any way to get through it you can. Life goes on no matter what happens and thats the most important thing to remember.

 

[Amnestic]

It's going to suck for a while, but it'll eventually get better and you'll be able to carry on with your life as usual.

Needs to be made into a banner with neon flashing lights.

 

[Altorin]

you'll survive. It's not unreasonable to want to know where your girlfriend is.

 

[anthony87]

Hey.

I remember a few weeks ago, somebody made a post about his wife who dumped him, and he made this post because he noticed that The Escapist had a supportive community or something.

Uhm. So...... On Sunday, two days ago, my girlfriend told me I was controlling, that she felt like I needed to know where she was all the time. And I didn't see it that way; I saw it as, like, I really like this girl, and I miss her, and, before, whenever she went somewhere she'd still text me and shit; but, lately, my texting plan has been shit, so I just like to ask where she's going... And then she blamed me, and told me that I'm the reason she has no social life.

... And I got really upset. And yesterday, she told me that... maybe she doesn't love me in the same way that she used to anymore. Maybe she wants to break up with me. She told me she didn't love me anymore, not as a girlfriend... and so, I decided to end it. And I haven't been able to stop crying since then.

And it really made me upset, because... I mean, she was really important to me. And she has always been so special. Over the last year, she has changed my life for the better. Everything I look for in a girl, and more... Like, I've never been able to find a single thing that I don't absolutely love about her. We've been through Hell and back together. We've helped each other through so much, and held each others' hands through so much pain. We have so many memories. I don't know how to cope with the pain right now. I'm so scared of letting go. How do I cope? How do I survive? I was so, so sure that she was the one for me

I'm so miserable, and upset, and scared... I don't know what to do. I feel so weak and... heartbroken. It's agonizing.

She told me she would love me forever. And I believed her. And here I am... Can somebody out there help me out?

Don't worry, the cynicism will envelope you eventually not unlike a cocoon. A cocoon you shall emerge from having developed a bitter yet razor sharp outlook on the world. Then you'll learn to laugh about it.

 

[maddawg IAJI]

You need to try and move on with your life. I understand that it is tough, but life does not end when the relationship does. Take a deep breath,wipe away the tears and find somthing to occupy your time until the pain stops.

 

[thevillageidiot13]

you'll survive. It's not unreasonable to want to know where your girlfriend is.

But... I can't help wondering IF I was controlling... I mean... I'm pretty sure I've told her I don't mind her hanging out, as long as it doesn't, like, seriously interfere with our time together. But, like, when she gets home at a time that's later than usual, it's normal to wonder, right?

Does all this make me a controlling boyfriend?