My mom wants to take away my internet for what?!
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I think I've been sucked in, but I hate Facebook. It's like a symbiotic relationship we have. If it died I would be happy. Frankly, I don't think I'd get rid of it because all my friends are on it and I like being connected. But if it were suddenly deleted forever, I wouldn't be all that peeved. If no one is on it, what the hell would be the point of going?Ephraim J. Witchwood said:
Oh and Zynga would die too which is okay in my books.
Technically speaking it's HER internet, not YOUR internet, if she's paying for it, so she can do whatever the hell she wants. Depending on how long you would lose the internet otherwise, I'd just friend your mom. Besides, you can post stuff without her being able to see it (look up Facebook friends categories, it's pretty useful at times)
just do what i do, let her add you on facebook, and use security settings to make sure she only reads what you want her to read, it works perfect for me
I'll delete it myself... After I update my status... [sub]And then message my girlfriend... [sub]And post a witty comment on my friends wall... [sub]Oh God I need to stop now...[/sub][/sub][/sub]Ephraim J. Witchwood said:I should start a service of deleting Facebook accounts for addicts. For a small fee, of course.
Just add her, she's your mother for ____'s sake. Think about all those other teens in the world who would give anything to be able to be that close to their mothers, hell, to even have one. You're 16, you're in those rebellious years that make all teens look retarded, but you'll get over it. Don't push her away, soon enough you'll be gone from that house, and you'll miss her. You may not believe it now, but you will.
She wants to be close to you, you're her child. Give her that, at least. It's certainly more than many kids your age have.
She wants to be close to you, you're her child. Give her that, at least. It's certainly more than many kids your age have.
As far as I know a lot of them don't have MSN or Steam, I don't have a 360 or PS3, I have friends from other provinces, and one in another country, so them calling me doesn't really work. And as for texting, a lot of my friends, unfortunately, are idiots who lose their phones all the time...Ephraim J. Witchwood said:
Just add her, if only to shut her up. As long as you don't say "Fuck my mom" or "Got stone off my ass" on Facebook, she'll leave you alone. I have my mom on Facebook and recently drunk-updated my status and she didn't say anything (and she comments basically EVERYTHING else). Then again, I'm 22 and live on my own, but I don't think it would change anything for you. Especially since you live with her, if she feels she has something to comment on something you wrote, she'll most likely do it to your face and not online, out of fear of humiliating you. Don't ever forget she's been a teenager before too... she probably knows how you feel.
My family has a similar view on privacy. They think that wanting privacy and personal space is a sign of distance, that it means you don't love them, or haven't understood just how much they've given up for you. Now that I've graduated college, this is less of an issue, but recently my dad sounded shocked when I told him I wouldn't give him my passwords if he wanted to know them.
This answer depends on how your performance as a teen has been. If you're giving your parents a reason not to trust you, you shouldn't count on getting any privacy. If you constantly come home late after curfew, drink behind their backs, slack off on school, they will be concerned and have a right to be. But if you are a model citizen or at least haven't done anything worth their punishment, you need to tell them that there has to be trust here.
Wanting someone to give up their privacy is a sign of a need to control, and a lack of innate trust, even if they don't think of it that way. Let them know that you would see it as a sign of their trust, and you see it as fair, that as long as you are abiding by law and their rules, you should be able to keep your friends and social life to yourself. When they ask if you don't love them, you should say you do, and ask them if they trust you.
This boils down to, parents don't like to see their little babies grow up. It's human nature. They want to believe that they have their wall of protection still in place, and that they're the governors of the young and defenseless life. It's not a spite thing; it's a fear thing. They're afraid for you, or of you. They're afraid you're going to go off and leave them and never look back, whether physically or mentally.
Reassure them, and try to maintain that trust while having this conversation with them as many times as you need to.
It'll get better, even if you have to stall it out until you get to college/a job.
This answer depends on how your performance as a teen has been. If you're giving your parents a reason not to trust you, you shouldn't count on getting any privacy. If you constantly come home late after curfew, drink behind their backs, slack off on school, they will be concerned and have a right to be. But if you are a model citizen or at least haven't done anything worth their punishment, you need to tell them that there has to be trust here.
Wanting someone to give up their privacy is a sign of a need to control, and a lack of innate trust, even if they don't think of it that way. Let them know that you would see it as a sign of their trust, and you see it as fair, that as long as you are abiding by law and their rules, you should be able to keep your friends and social life to yourself. When they ask if you don't love them, you should say you do, and ask them if they trust you.
This boils down to, parents don't like to see their little babies grow up. It's human nature. They want to believe that they have their wall of protection still in place, and that they're the governors of the young and defenseless life. It's not a spite thing; it's a fear thing. They're afraid for you, or of you. They're afraid you're going to go off and leave them and never look back, whether physically or mentally.
Reassure them, and try to maintain that trust while having this conversation with them as many times as you need to.
It'll get better, even if you have to stall it out until you get to college/a job.
Ah, emotional blackmail over a seeming desire to be a part of all aspects the life of one's son (and/or paranoia what he might be up to), all possibly sparked by reading far too much into the term "friend" on facebook in the first place.
...That sounds like some lousy parenting. I for one wouldn't budge on the issue.
...That sounds like some lousy parenting. I for one wouldn't budge on the issue.
