My mom wants to take away my internet for what?!
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Just add her. It's stupid. It's unfair. I personally don't want old people viewing my facebook until I'm personally also old. But just do it. For the love of all that is bit-ey, just do it.
I think that if your mother is accusing you of not loving her anymore, we're not hearing the whole story. You need to talk with your mom in a mature manner, without trying to create any sort of argument or conflict, about your issues and work those out. This obviously runs deeper than Facebook, and it would be very good for the both of you to figure out how deep it runs, and why.
Hey! Look at that I went and spotted the problem!strangemoose said:
You are at that age where you feel all grown up, like every adult out there, how dare your parents still be parents to you. Stop being a drama queen, if your mother wants you to do something as simple as adding her on facebook (which has the ability to selectively block updates from and to users anyway) or else she takes away access to the internet that your parents pay for then so be it. Or let this little rebellious itch go on, and just access the internet from a friends house/school/coffee shop. It's an easy choice you have, but it seems you would rather whine about how unfair it is.
It's not the end of the world, you are making a big deal out of something tiny, man up and take responsibility for your actions, the world doesn't revolve around you, if you really are an adult then your parent's don't owe you anything and anything you do get is simply out of the kindness of their hearts, *endless other clichéd statements that fit perfectly here*
You want the story without the sarcasm? You are at an age where you are starting to pull away from your parents, it's normal, but as mature as you may feel realize you have a long way to go. Think about it this way, you refuse what is pretty much a simple request on the grounds that you just really don't one to do it, then complain when something being provided to you for free is taken away. Something minor mind you, she isn't grounding you, she isn't taking away the computer, she isn't starving you, or kicking you out of the house.
Even shorter? Do you realize how selfish is is to expect another person who is providing everything for your health and wellbeing to also cater to your every wish?
You raise a very good point, but I doubt the real source of the issue lies any deeper then the apparent entitlement and selfishness issues the OP demonstrates with such a small block of text.toriver said:
I get entitlement out of him not realizing internet access is a privilege, he seems to think he should have it like a necessity and somehow his mother not allowing this is on par with her not feeding him.
I get selfishness because he is willing to state how wrong his mother is (in not so many words), while at the same time stating his actions in an attempt to make them seem justified. Unless it's a conscious thing (seeing the formating of the text I doubt that is the case) he is putting little to no thought into how he might be responsible for this situation.
Have you seen Failbook? There's some classic burns from moms about their kids on there.Composer said:
Okay, while you 'shouldn't' be posting things on facebook that maybe your mother wouldn't approve of (And don't lie, obviously you would have said yes if you weren't concerned), at the same time this is a giant overreaction. If she's accusing you of not loving her because YOU WON'T ADD HER ON FACEBOOK then you seriously need to ask her why it's such a huge deal.
More importantly, I'd like to bet on the fact there's either some REALLY inappropriate things you say or do on facebook that she wouldn't like to know about and 'this' is probably why she's more intent on finding out.
You're sixteen, you're entitled to privacy but it's facebook, get the fuck over yourself. You're not 'that' important and special that she needs to respect the privacy of YOUR PUBLICLY POSTED INTERNET COMMENTARY. If you don't have the balls to say word for word what you mean IRL, DON'T POST IT ON FACEBOOK OR ANYWHERE ELSE.
Put it in a word document on a flash drive and keep it to yourself. Don't publish it, don't share it, that's shit you keep to yourself.
So, talk over with your mom what the problem is. If she calls you out on your ill behavior on the internets, sorry dude but you gotta shape the fuck up to her demands. She's your mother and you live under her roof. Follow her rules and you can move out when you're 18.
Also, if she wants to take away your internet, guess what? She can do it. Know why? Again, she is your mother. She is 'your' god until you're out of the house. Mother's can be a little crazy but with a mature attitude towards conversing with her, most things can be handled out on a calm and controlled level.
tl;dr There's something your not telling us and it sounds like this is why she wants to keep tabs on you on facebook. Stop posting shit on there that you shouldn't be (which again, the lack of anything negative on your side leads me to believe this) and then add her. You're not entitled to privacy on a public domain like facebook, you're an idiot if you think you are. If she continues to berate you, then you have a talk with her. For now, meet her demands, she's your MOTHER.
More importantly, I'd like to bet on the fact there's either some REALLY inappropriate things you say or do on facebook that she wouldn't like to know about and 'this' is probably why she's more intent on finding out.
You're sixteen, you're entitled to privacy but it's facebook, get the fuck over yourself. You're not 'that' important and special that she needs to respect the privacy of YOUR PUBLICLY POSTED INTERNET COMMENTARY. If you don't have the balls to say word for word what you mean IRL, DON'T POST IT ON FACEBOOK OR ANYWHERE ELSE.
Put it in a word document on a flash drive and keep it to yourself. Don't publish it, don't share it, that's shit you keep to yourself.
So, talk over with your mom what the problem is. If she calls you out on your ill behavior on the internets, sorry dude but you gotta shape the fuck up to her demands. She's your mother and you live under her roof. Follow her rules and you can move out when you're 18.
Also, if she wants to take away your internet, guess what? She can do it. Know why? Again, she is your mother. She is 'your' god until you're out of the house. Mother's can be a little crazy but with a mature attitude towards conversing with her, most things can be handled out on a calm and controlled level.
tl;dr There's something your not telling us and it sounds like this is why she wants to keep tabs on you on facebook. Stop posting shit on there that you shouldn't be (which again, the lack of anything negative on your side leads me to believe this) and then add her. You're not entitled to privacy on a public domain like facebook, you're an idiot if you think you are. If she continues to berate you, then you have a talk with her. For now, meet her demands, she's your MOTHER.
I say add her as a friend. I did the same with my mom. But then again, I've never and most likely will never say anything on Facebook that would make my mom mad or think less of me.strangemoose said:
Oh yeah, you better watch what you say and do on Facebook, especially if you want to get a job in the future. Employers actually look at things like Facebook and make decisions on your character.
I know it is the internet and all, but you need to type properly. Yeah it is drag, but it is good to practice. I don't know what it is like at your high school, but what I have been hearing from students at my university, that are going to be teachers, high school has become more of cesspool of stupidity since I was there. One guy even said that more than half of one class he taught didn't know what a verb is.
As practice, I fixed your paragraph. You had missing capitalization(I's for the most part), run on sentences(lack of commas), missing apostrophes, and at the end you have a conversational add-on(Oh, which is something that is only used in actual face to face conversations and on the phone, not in writing{only in story dialogue in books})
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So long story short, my mother and I got into an argument because I haven't added her as a friend on Facebook. Because of this, she wants to take away my internet. She argues that I don't love her anymore and that I shouldn't say anything on Facebook I don't want her to see. I counter with, I do love you and I am allowed to speak freely without fear of punishment. I went on to ask her if she had ever kept a secret from me. She replied by staring at me and then walking out of the room. So Escapist, do you think I should allow her on my Facebook, or should I be allowed to speak freely without fear of punishment? I am 16.
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I really did it more for me, because I plan on being and English professor one day. If that happens I will have to deal with what the public school systems let slip by. My professors constantly talk about how they don't think the teachers in high schools actually teach the kids.
Just create a special friend group for her. Add her, put her in the group. Set privacy settings for that group so she can't see your wall/anything else you don't want her seeing. That's what I did with my family members/people I don't want seeing my ridiculous 3am drunken facebook status updates.
You can customize your posts, put her in a separate category so if you don't want her to see something, she won't.
I dunno. If she's losing it, you kinda have to roll with it while she's paying for your stuff.
I dunno. If she's losing it, you kinda have to roll with it while she's paying for your stuff.
Indeed, then just make a new one under a fake name and only use it when your mom is not around.Ephraim J. Witchwood said:
I felt the obvious answer was to put up a bunch of posts talking all kinds of crap and then accept her friend request. 'Well you wanted to see it right?'
Note: If you wanted to be less of a jerk about it you could probably put those posts so only the 'Mom' group can see it and then add her to said group. This way you can make a valid point about how ridiculous it is to get worked up about this stuff without actually talking smack about her in front of others.
Note the second: This is said as a pretty anti-facebook person, so I may be encouraging self-destructive behavior.
Note: If you wanted to be less of a jerk about it you could probably put those posts so only the 'Mom' group can see it and then add her to said group. This way you can make a valid point about how ridiculous it is to get worked up about this stuff without actually talking smack about her in front of others.
Note the second: This is said as a pretty anti-facebook person, so I may be encouraging self-destructive behavior.
My ENTIRE FAMILY is on Facebook. I am friends with EVERYONE of them. Parents included. If you don't want your parents to see something or know about what you do DON'T DO IT. Seriously if I worried about what the hell happened on facebook because my parents aunts uncles grandparents were friends with it would kind of suck but guess what its EASY to censor yourself you just don't swear. If you want to vent anger on someone fucking write a note and tag people in it and set your mom as a limited profile so she cant see it. Not that hard to figure out what to do if you do add her on facebook. You shouldn't really be posting shit that might get you in trouble anyway since lets see your 16 now she can do a lot worse also you are now legal in most countries.strangemoose said: