Wish you the best. If works comes to worst, make sure to say by her side. I hope the surgery is a sucess, and maybe she might have 77 more years.
My mother may die tomorrow. I'm scared. UPDATE 2: SHE'S OKAY!!!
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When my mother got cancer I spent many a night at the hospital with her. I'd trade off with my father. She had a few surgeries to fix some bones the cancer had eaten away and those went well. Ultimately, it didn't matter. She passed a few days before my birthday......about 6 months after being diagnosed. It sucked watching her slowly deteriorate but she managed to keep her's and everyone around her spirits up. It was odd the day she died. I was at work and was constantly keeping an ear out for someone to page me over the PA system. I still don't know why I was expecting it that day and not before but sure enough, I got the call to meet my father outside with the bad news.
Also, my 90 year old grandmother had hip replacement surgery last year and it went fine. Took her a bit to get walking again though. It wound up being an odd situation for my father. I had broken my wrist so he came down to hang with me for a week or so until I start doing things for myself. A day or two after he got home we found out about my grandmother so he was off to hang with her for a few months.
Also, my 90 year old grandmother had hip replacement surgery last year and it went fine. Took her a bit to get walking again though. It wound up being an odd situation for my father. I had broken my wrist so he came down to hang with me for a week or so until I start doing things for myself. A day or two after he got home we found out about my grandmother so he was off to hang with her for a few months.
I'm sure she'll be fine, but I can understand why you're so worried. I'm not sure what I'll do when my mother eventually passes.
We're all here for you, and we're praying to the great Atheismo for her safety.
We're all here for you, and we're praying to the great Atheismo for her safety.
I certainly hope she pulls through, but I think things will work out.
I've never taken care of a relative whose time is very limited; I was unaware that my grandfather was dying until the day after he'd passed away, and I cried extensively at his funeral. Conversely, I was informed that my grandmother was dying last year, and I'm ashamed to admit I couldn't bring myself to mourn deeply, perhaps because I was informed her time was coming and I had time to prepare... I miss them her dearly, of course, she was sweet, but I deal better with the death of a loved one when I know it's coming.
There WAS one time I worked as an aide at a local old folk's home when I learned that one of the residents was dying, she was in her bed, almost like she was asleep. In the short time I'd taken care of her, she was fairly kind, and I was sad to see her in that state, so I would give her hand the occasional, sympathetic gentle squeeze.
I've never taken care of a relative whose time is very limited; I was unaware that my grandfather was dying until the day after he'd passed away, and I cried extensively at his funeral. Conversely, I was informed that my grandmother was dying last year, and I'm ashamed to admit I couldn't bring myself to mourn deeply, perhaps because I was informed her time was coming and I had time to prepare... I miss them her dearly, of course, she was sweet, but I deal better with the death of a loved one when I know it's coming.
There WAS one time I worked as an aide at a local old folk's home when I learned that one of the residents was dying, she was in her bed, almost like she was asleep. In the short time I'd taken care of her, she was fairly kind, and I was sad to see her in that state, so I would give her hand the occasional, sympathetic gentle squeeze.
Keep your chin up and hope for the best 
My Grandfather was one of the very first in the UK to receive a triple heart bypass. He had numerous surgeries, right through to his late eighties. I think his new knees were a life-changer for his last few years.
He died peacefully aged 91, in 2012, sat in his favourite recliner (with half a roast beef sandwich next to him), with his westie, Hollie, by his side.......and Maria Sharapova playing tennis on the telly!
Don't fret. And don't just hang around, time will slow down to a near-stop. Stay in the rough vicinity of the hospital, but go window shopping or something.
My Grandfather was one of the very first in the UK to receive a triple heart bypass. He had numerous surgeries, right through to his late eighties. I think his new knees were a life-changer for his last few years.
He died peacefully aged 91, in 2012, sat in his favourite recliner (with half a roast beef sandwich next to him), with his westie, Hollie, by his side.......and Maria Sharapova playing tennis on the telly!
Don't fret. And don't just hang around, time will slow down to a near-stop. Stay in the rough vicinity of the hospital, but go window shopping or something.
My grandma has had both of her hips replaced and she is still walking at the ripe old age of 91. Yes, there is a chance she will die but there is a GREATER likelihood of her dancing a jig after the hip replacement. You obviously care for her very much. if you tell her you will be waiting in the waiting room for her after she is done, she will come back. Dwell on the positive
I wish you the best!
I wish you the best!
Yes to both of your questions.
My mother passed a few weeks ago from kidney failure. We couldn't really do anything for her as she had having compounding diabetic and thyroid issues. She said that dialysis was just prolonging her suffering. She was 59. Believe me I understand what you're experiencing. Your mother will most likely be fine. Its a routine procedure. Stay strong.
My mother passed a few weeks ago from kidney failure. We couldn't really do anything for her as she had having compounding diabetic and thyroid issues. She said that dialysis was just prolonging her suffering. She was 59. Believe me I understand what you're experiencing. Your mother will most likely be fine. Its a routine procedure. Stay strong.
I know exactly how you feel, my dad recently had a minor prostate operation a few weeks ago and after that, he fell ill to the dengue fever (pretty common in my country around this time of the year), at the operation I wasn't too worried, but when he fell ill to such dangerous illness, I was like "holy shit!... please god, don't let the sickness go further".
Fortunately, it was a simple fever weekend and he was up and running by just taking paracetamol (you can't take pretty much anything else if you have dengue).
My deepest sympathies for you mate, hopefully the operation will go well for your mom.
Fortunately, it was a simple fever weekend and he was up and running by just taking paracetamol (you can't take pretty much anything else if you have dengue).
My deepest sympathies for you mate, hopefully the operation will go well for your mom.
Hope everything goes alright for your mother man, be positive, changing a hip could even improve her life if all goes well (as was the case with my own grandmother).
I lost all my grandparents in quick succession a few years back. It was a though time, but then again, they all had long and satisfying lifes.
I lost all my grandparents in quick succession a few years back. It was a though time, but then again, they all had long and satisfying lifes.
Hope everything goes well with your mother's surgery. Sounds like hip replacements are pretty routine, by what lots of other people have said on here, so that's good.
I was not around for it, since I was in college, but a number of years ago my dad had to have a kidney and his prostate removed due to cancer, and he pulled through just fine, though he was in his late 50's. Sadly they've discovered some spots on his remaining kidney recently, though we don't know yet if they are anything to worry about. Hoping for the best.
I was not around for it, since I was in college, but a number of years ago my dad had to have a kidney and his prostate removed due to cancer, and he pulled through just fine, though he was in his late 50's. Sadly they've discovered some spots on his remaining kidney recently, though we don't know yet if they are anything to worry about. Hoping for the best.
When I was in high school, my mom had to have a tumor removed, and I was scared to death. I refused to go with my dad to the hospital and just laid in bed feeling sick. The whole world felt like it was dissolving. I know how you're feeling, and I'm sorry for what you're going through. You're a really awesome son for helping your mom the way you are. You're certainly stronger than me.Copper Zen said:
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Heart, Mind, and Soul are with you and your mother at this time, Copper.Copper Zen said:
I've told next to nothing about my personal life here other than being a trainer and being black. But I'm not a trainer any more. In 2006, my dad had a stroke. A bad one. He's mobile, healthy, and engaging, but he had a bit of brain damage. Simple tasks are confusing to him. He was an architect. I had to drop out of McGill to help run and close out his business.
November 3 of last year, my mom had her stroke. She was on the mend, lost some things like proper leg movement and grasping short term things. But she was on the mend. Then her second stroke came. Then her seizure.
She's a shell of who she is now. I had to quit to take care of my dad and my mom whenever she gets out of the new facility. I was planning to actually go back to school to finally finish my BA, but I don't know if that will happen now
I understand the sacrifice it takes give up your life for your family. I know how it feels when you say you can't go out guys, your dad needs you to be there, or your mom is working late so someone has to cook dinner. I know how it is when women find out your situation, say you're a great guy but it won't work out because they are well within their rights to seek someone who's drama free. I know of the anger that comes with having the only life you'll ever get somewhat ruined.
But I mainly get why you and we do it. Be comforted that your mother had a child that most other parents couldn't dream of. Someone selfless who co-opted her life into your own. Whether you're Theist or Atheist, know that you've done everything you could for her. you made her time easier. I will wish for her safe return, and I applaud all that you've done for her. Know that her thanks are eternally with you.
Best of luck to you and your family. I had to have that sort of surgery only a few weeks short of a year ago. I'm not a medical expert in any sense, so I'll stay away from actual advice. That said, I hope it works out for you in the end. The escapist community is behind you!Copper Zen said:
Best wishes to your mom. If it's any comfort it's usually not problematic when it comes to hips or bones. My 91 year old grandmother had surgery a few days ago for her shoulder and it went fine.
My grandmother has been trough a large number of surgeries, big and small. She's often complaining about pain these days but she could easily be taken for 10 years younger. There have been times when I've known she's been at risk, but I've honestly never though "she might not be here towmorrow" because of surgery. I'm more scared that she'll fall in her home than die at a operation table.
Keep youself fed and rested, worrying about your loved ones is bad enough. When your mother wakes up, and try to think that she will because that will help you a lot, remember that she might be disoriented by the anesthesia.
I really don't know what a random person on the internet can say as comfort but... hang in there. Take care of yourself when you don't have the option to care for her.
My grandmother has been trough a large number of surgeries, big and small. She's often complaining about pain these days but she could easily be taken for 10 years younger. There have been times when I've known she's been at risk, but I've honestly never though "she might not be here towmorrow" because of surgery. I'm more scared that she'll fall in her home than die at a operation table.
Keep youself fed and rested, worrying about your loved ones is bad enough. When your mother wakes up, and try to think that she will because that will help you a lot, remember that she might be disoriented by the anesthesia.
I really don't know what a random person on the internet can say as comfort but... hang in there. Take care of yourself when you don't have the option to care for her.
I wish her and you the bet. I'm sure she will be fine however. Such procedure are pretty routine and have a very high success rate.
I lost my Mother a couple years ago, a week after my 18th birthday to be exact. No idea what actually happened but her organs just all shutdown or some reason.
And currently I'm helping to take care of my grandfather. He has a lot of heart and lung problems from years of extremely poor diet and smoking. i have to make sure he is always taking his meds because the jackass sometimes doesn't take them or he runs out and doesn't tell anyone, and I have to make sure he isn't smoking anymore.
Him and my grandmother have moved on to those electronic cigarettes which is better or something I guess. Doc says its fine I'll be okay with it.
He has had a few surgeries so far and should have died during each one but he pulled through. His luck is going to run out though so I'm really trying to whip his and the rest of my families' asses into shape.
They're all stubborn and react to change and criticism with pig-headed anger or by running away and refusing to even talk about it. Fortunately I am making progress.
I lost my Mother a couple years ago, a week after my 18th birthday to be exact. No idea what actually happened but her organs just all shutdown or some reason.
And currently I'm helping to take care of my grandfather. He has a lot of heart and lung problems from years of extremely poor diet and smoking. i have to make sure he is always taking his meds because the jackass sometimes doesn't take them or he runs out and doesn't tell anyone, and I have to make sure he isn't smoking anymore.
Him and my grandmother have moved on to those electronic cigarettes which is better or something I guess. Doc says its fine I'll be okay with it.
He has had a few surgeries so far and should have died during each one but he pulled through. His luck is going to run out though so I'm really trying to whip his and the rest of my families' asses into shape.
They're all stubborn and react to change and criticism with pig-headed anger or by running away and refusing to even talk about it. Fortunately I am making progress.
Dang Copper. That's rough. Hope it all goes well. Don't worry, it sounds like they know what they're doing.
As for me?
Well, the only event close to this was when my grandfather fell ill, got pneumonia, and died later due to complications.
We we're going over to visit him in the hospital when we heard he had past. Grandma was there next to him when we got there. She really took it the hardest.
Other than that, all else I have to compare is when I had to see one of our cats, at 17 years old, waste away and die the day before we were going to take him to the vet to be put down.
Not quite a person, but still sad, being able to do nothing to stop either.
Again, Best of luck to your mother. We all meet death eventually, but I hope she gets some more years to live.
That's rough. Hope it all goes well. Don't worry, it sounds like they know what they're doing.As for me?
Well, the only event close to this was when my grandfather fell ill, got pneumonia, and died later due to complications.
We we're going over to visit him in the hospital when we heard he had past. Grandma was there next to him when we got there.
She really took it the hardest.Other than that, all else I have to compare is when I had to see one of our cats, at 17 years old, waste away and die the day before we were going to take him to the vet to be put down.
Not quite a person, but still sad, being able to do nothing to stop either.
Again, Best of luck to your mother. We all meet death eventually, but I hope she gets some more years to live.
There's not much I can add to this thread that hasn't already being said. However, I will add my heap of support onto the pile. My fingers are crossed and I sincerely hope that your Mom makes it through the surgery with no complications.Copper Zen said:
It's very natural to be worried, you have highlighted many of those factors already, but at this point we can only hope for the best, stay strong and remember that there are people, even here on the interwebz, that will support and listen to you during this difficult time.
I just came back from the hospital from seeing my Dad. That guy has gone through a myriad of health problems but he continues to push through. So I was extremely worried today if the stress of his surgery would affect his heart or provoke another stroke. He's doing fine actually, after coming out of the operating theater...but I will be taking care of him for 6-8 weeks.
Also, I will be taking extra care of my Mom's erratic blood sugar levels during times of stress like these. She's a diabetic.