My so called "Friends"

[Yokai]

I did; fortunately I'm over that now and have a small number of excellent friends whose company and conversation I greatly enjoy.

But yes, freshman year of high school, for some unknown reason I spent a good deal of my free time with the resident goths, who spent all of their free time trading porn and trying to figure out the correct way to convert to Satanism. Eventually, one of them offered me a joint, and I said "Fuck it, I'm out" or something along those lines. I really don't know what came over me back then.

 

[Abengoshis]

Situations such as that are why I don't have as many friends as most of the people in my school. The few friends I do have I get along well with and we have a lot in common. I don't like hanging out with people who smoke weed, roam around aimlessly in town centres in large groups causing annoyance to the general public, and only ever talk about how fit a girl is, how big their dicks are and how many times they've had sex with x person.

And yet I'm still happy. I don't need a million friends to be happy. All people need are some friends who they can relate to. If you start hanging out with people you can't relate to at all, life probably won't be as good for you.

 

[cke]

Get high with the stoners, team up with the annoying asian dude and dis the jock together.
Have fun.

 

[dietpeachsnapple]

Um... No actually.

I don't 'so call,' anyone friend. I call my friends, friends. That system has been working nicely for me.

I might ask: is there anyone whom you DO have things in common with, and with whom you enjoy the company of? If so - focus on that. Hang with those people, make those relationships stronger. As the other people notice your general neglect of them, and disproportionate attention to others, they may come to realize that you are not their ilk.

As a matter of sympathy - I do have some members in my 'group,' whom I find deplorable. I don't speak with them outside of cordiality, and I do not consider them friends. They are the necessary variance within any large social group. There is one, whom, having punched me in the balls, has no regard on my part whatsoever.

TL;DR

There are some people whom are thrust upon you, and others whom you may choose their company. Focus on the latter.

 

[comadorcrack]

Sorry, can't say I can relate

I'm very picky about my friends, so the ones I have are the best :3 (even if I don't have many - quality over quantity right?)

I'm the same, Hate most of the people I know. Only Pally with a few and actually friends with less.

 

[AdmiralMemo]

Over middle and high school, I had some classmates who I pretty much hated, until they matured in 11th and 12th grade and stopped being such jerks.

Not "friends" per se, but people I hung out with, mainly due to force of being stuck with them and force of habit.

 

[Bane_Star]

there should be some kind of international intellectual movement to define the difference between "friend" and "acquaintance"

"i have 3000 frends on facebook "
"NO. YOU. DON'T."

http://www.cracked.com/article_14990_what-monkeysphere.html

Brilliant Article, thanks for posting the Link.

As to the Topic, Your in school, your surrounds are limited and finite, you can choose friends from these people and they might be friends for life, or you can get through school, ignore the social aspect and concentrate on the learning.

I had 300 acquaintances in school, much like what you describe, people that I 'put up with' to get by. I didn't offend anyone, didn't try to be extra friends with anyone. Its good training, because in real life, you have co-workers and bosses that you just can't stand, but you HAVE to be friendly.. Learn how to cope with their foibles, how to say no to things you'd rather not do, in a way that makes the other guy feel ok about it.. who cares if you make mistakes with these people, their not really your friends anyway.. just learn.

You sound like you have the personality of a person who can be friends with anyone, likable by most, this trait will serve you well, as a manager, your employees will like you, do things to keep your respect, and your bosses will appreciate this. but you gotta make sure you know what your doing. So take advantage of your brains age, and suck up as much knowledge as you can.. cause when you get to my age, learning sux. But I want it more.

 

[W8NKA]

If all your friends dont really have any thig inj commen with each other and you dont know why they muck around with you or anyone else whos your "friend", then its becouse they have on thing incommen that do; picking on you, it makes them stick togeather, i dont know people get plesure from picking on people, but this has happened to me in the past, i was able to get out of that group before it affected me to much.

 

[John the Gamer]

My friends are sort of close-related-long-distance type friends, if you get my drift... I usually don't 'hang out' with them after school hours, but I do label them as good, best and close friends. I've known 2 of them since elementary school, 3 of them joined the group through those two in high school(they were in the same class) and a fourth one didn't join the group, but was the only nice person in my class during my third year, and we became friends over that. Then another non-group friend joined the 'list' last year (first year in college), because our interests were sort of the same - we both like games, we like the same manga/anime series and we were about the same age. Another guy joined that year through a group project, I don't really associate myself with him, because he's a bit odd. I'll just call him a relative for now. But you can only tell wether they are truly friends if you recognize each other after some time has passed, and if you're willing to go out of your way to meet with them. 4 of my friends (the ones from high school, didn't invite the 2 new ones(live too far away)) came to my 18th birthday-party-thing, and the fifth couldn't come because of some family-problem. And by that point we hadn't seen each other for about 1.5 years. And they al confessed to have missed me(they spend an extra year in high school, they were on a higher level because I'm lazy). Mostly because I shared any candy and/or chocolate my mom would give me, but also because I really left a hole in the 'pack' when I left. Now that's lasting friendship.
Now I'm going to stop before you humans know every detail of my life and the location of my spaceshi... I mean car. bye.

 

[Krion_Vark]

If you don't like them don't hang out with them. And what does "thankfully just one" asian mean exactly?

Because they always travel in packs like Prostitots.

OT: Like what other people have been saying just don't hang out with them seriously if they piss you off so much just stop talking to them.
On a completely other side of the argument they are being themselves let them be they are your friends after all.

 

[garfoldsomeoneelse]

I feel bad for those guys: they're friends with someone that goes on the internet to talk shit about them when they're not around.

 

[Brightzide]

I have sympathy for you....you honestly hang out with a blasian (black asian...get it?) like that?...Christ, I'd have killed him by now dude...well done. As for the Footballer, tell him to STFU, get back down to reality, it's just a game and it makes him no better than anyone-else. And as for the 'gangster' dudes...erm..it's kind of the fashion these days for the majority, they're probably just tagging along, but if they're legit...I'd recommend just distancing yourself from them. And also, ask yourself what they're thinking about you when you're not around...or even when you are around. And if there are mutual feelings like this across the board...probably best you find some new friends There's my thoughts dude, never did find meself to be the helpful kind...I just like talking really

 

[Spinozaad]

Right now, someone, somewhere is posting a thread wondering why he, a small Asian, is hanging out with this arrogant little Jewish ginger prick.

You're 17.

Dump 'em, or get on with it. Raging on the internet has never solved anything.

 

[Jezzascmezza]

Don't spend any time with them.
Isn't it that simple?

 

[Ekonk]

How can people be your friends if you loathe them?

How?

 

[iLikeHippos]

I wouldn't call them friends. More like "familiars", since that's as far as you obviously get to them.
They know you, you know them. Nothing else to it I'm afraid, cause you are suppose to like your friends and ask them over for a taco night at the dinner table to than play some XBOX games and beat the shit out of 12 year olds over Xbox live when given the chance.

 

[RaphaelsRedemption]

I feel bad for those guys: they're friends with someone that goes on the internet to talk shit about them when they're not around.

Best quote of the day. Thank you, you made me laugh.

How hard can this be? Think about it this way, if the pain of having to hang out with those people is worse than the pain of eating lunch alone, then its better to eat lunch alone.

Find other people. And don't be racist. Your asian mate isn't bad cause he's asian, but because he's a fuckwit. Fuckwittism rises above race, colour and creed, and may affect anyone.