Hate to say this, but "Funny Feelings" with "Not your fault" and "otherwise I love you" usually means she has found or is finding someone else. If that comes out to be the case (and it IS likely) the best thing to do is step back, and let her go, its the only way you'll even have a remote chance to have her back, IF you can forgive her.
Need help!!!!! Fiancee might leave me!!!!!
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Know what else is unexpected? Flowers on any day that's not special to either one of you. I'm not giving you an inch here! Go to a radio station and have them play her a song at 10:30 in the morning so you can make sure she's listening. Offer to drive her to work and when she's not paying attention take her to a spa or a nice resteraunt having already called her in sick. (that last one is a toss up of how she'll take it)[SE said:
Well you've been engaged for two years, and I have a feeling that's a big part of the problem right there. What are you waiting for? Did you become engaged to get married, or just for the hell of it?[SE said:
I think the best thing to do is sort through your feelings and decide if you're ready to make that lifetime commitment. Come up with your answer, talk to her about her feelings about it, and then just tell her straight out. Tell her you're either ready to pick a date, or that you think you're not ready for it yet. I know if I were engaged, I'd be going crazy if two years had passed and nothing had changed since the day of the proposal.
Wait now, I did not give you a name or username or anything, so if I did not know this person or this person would have an issue with this in any way, it literally would have no effect. I didn't say "hey, here is her name, address, username, and email, bug the crap outta' her please".
I'm afraid this would fall under your jurisdiction, not ours.
Not to say I don't wish to help- but we are strangers on the internet, it's not going to do much.
It is up to YOU to love her, not us to say so. I trust that you love her, so you just need for her to remember that.
In all seriousness, though, I'm 17 years old, so take my advice with caution (I sure haven't been engaged yet)
Not to say I don't wish to help- but we are strangers on the internet, it's not going to do much.
It is up to YOU to love her, not us to say so. I trust that you love her, so you just need for her to remember that.
In all seriousness, though, I'm 17 years old, so take my advice with caution (I sure haven't been engaged yet)
We had a reason, scholarship, read all the posts! We also did have a date, I should have stated that. I do not want advice. This is about a perfectly healthy relationship being held up by something intangible.
I don't support marriage as a thing in general so I can't throw in my vote that you two should marry.
If your relationship is going well, then congratulations. If one or both of you have issues you should sort them out right away rather than dragging it out. I don't know what the problem is since you're being so vague, but if she doesn't want to be in the relationship after a short break then its probably over for good.
If your relationship is going well, then congratulations. If one or both of you have issues you should sort them out right away rather than dragging it out. I don't know what the problem is since you're being so vague, but if she doesn't want to be in the relationship after a short break then its probably over for good.
This is one of the finest last ditch, desperate attempts I've ever seen.
Strider, calm down. Take a few deep breathes and go for a walk. She obviously needs time and has some strange feelings going on right now. The last thing she needs is for you to be doing this.
Show her how much you love her by accepting her feelings and give her time. You'll be okay!
Strider, calm down. Take a few deep breathes and go for a walk. She obviously needs time and has some strange feelings going on right now. The last thing she needs is for you to be doing this.
Show her how much you love her by accepting her feelings and give her time. You'll be okay!
You know who could really help you out with this? 4chan.
Haha, in all seriousness, please don't.
Haha, in all seriousness, please don't.
This guy's got the right idea!Singularly Datarific said:
Assuming you guys dated for several months (or for several years if you've been engaged for two) one does not just have "strange unprecedented feelings!". It's not an on/off switch, if she's having new thoughts than they've been stirring for a while. Knowing her then asking why she's this way are kinda contradictory.[SE said:
Also if you just wanted us to say __________? loves ___________? than you should have asked us to just expand this thread so she'll see it.
You borderline begged us to ask your girlfriend to stay with you. One is a small favor the other is troll bait.
I really am not this much of an asshole honest! But this struck a chord with me. I don't like weak guys. I'm in the military in a few weeks and weak guys get other guys killed. Read your original post objectivly out loud and tell me it doesn't sound whiney.
What is the deal? I am doing exactly that, we are on break, separated, after living together for two years. Out of nowhere with no reason other than something "feels different". This is not my star spangled last ditch effort to get her back, or "endear" her to me, I am sure she already loves me, just a hitch, and a small gesture to make her smile.
Up late I see? And on forums now too...and I thought you hated forums. 
Sorry your first attempt at a thread didn't go so well. Some people don't know how to read...and others are just dicks. (though not everyone who replied was bad, you got some really good ones too)
Also, it did put a smile on my face.
I like this advice best.SillyBear said:
Sorry your first attempt at a thread didn't go so well. Some people don't know how to read...and others are just dicks. (though not everyone who replied was bad, you got some really good ones too)
Also, it did put a smile on my face.
Have not read the posts. lived together, therefore have dated for a long time. I did not do this to sound or look tough, and if I was concerned about that I would be thinking of myself. And you do not know her, she can very much be on/off, and it was quite literally that.jakefongloo said:
I don't know anything about either of you so I'm not going to try and convince her to do anything. Esp. since I'm hardly a love guru, quite the contrary. If I were to hazard a guess though, I'm thinking she's probably just frightened by the whole marriage thing and needs to time to think about what she's getting herself into. I don't know. In any case, you should be have a heart to heart with her about this instead of trying to convince internet forum goers to convince her to take you back.
And here she is...... (and this is why I hate forums).Hermia said:Up late I see? And on forums now too...and I thought you hated forums.
I like this advice best.SillyBear said:
Sorry your first attempt at a thread didn't go so well. Some people don't know how to read...and others are just dicks. (though not everyone who replied was bad, you got some really good ones too)
Also, it did put a smile on my face.
Look, it's been said before, and I'm going to say it again. If you want her back, you need to talk with her. Not us.
Oh, good, you really do exist. Good.Hermia said:Up late I see? And on forums now too...and I thought you hated forums.
Sorry your first attempt at a thread didn't go so well. Some people don't know how to read...and others are just dicks. (though not everyone who replied was bad, you got some really good ones too)
Also, it did put a smile on my face.
Um... he seems nice?