Need help!!!!! Fiancee might leave me!!!!!

[Snotnarok]

Give her time and don't bug her about it. If it drags on too long explain your feelings.

Or just follow your heart, or your nose. Where ever it goes.

 

[Sovereignty]

Using the internets to make people smile?

Grow up, send her flowers like a real man.

And if it's the humiliation thing you're seeking. It's hardly embarrassing to be on a forum professing your love to someone (especially cause this feels like it's all just for show.)

Take said flowers in person to her when she's busy. Seriously. Halt her entire life to present them with shouted feelings of affection.

Don't go, "Oh I <3 you pookiebear, look how open and free I am with our love on the web!".

 

[Canadamus Prime]

Strider]Someone please tell me how to destroy this before it gets any more insane. I literally have no idea how to remove a thread.

You don't. It will remain here forever!

*evil laugh*

Until the end of time!!!! All threads are indestructible! They can never be stopped, they are inevitable!

Or the mods will lock it, but that doesn't seem likely...

of course you could always just contact a mod and request that they lock it.

 

[Rayne870]

Strider]Hello all. Me and my fiancee have been engaged for nearly two years now, and she also is a frequent user on this forum. She decided a few days ago we needed a break, something to do with having a (strange, unprecedented) feeling, which I do not understand. She acknowledges I did nothing wrong. What I need you fine people to do is tell her she should stay with me, she is on every day and is sure to see it, and she will be won over. If you need reasons, I am a good guy who loves her, and she says she still loves me, so it is just some phase I think she is taking too seriously.

this is actually the dumbest thing you can do at this point, give her space to think about things, and tell her you love her yourself.

 

[mikev7.0]

Strider]
And here she is...... (and this is why I hate forums).

You hate them because I am here? Or because of the responses?

People just have their anti troll shields up most of the time...and in most cases these scenarios are either trolls/or whiny d-bags looking for someone to solve all of life's problems...hence the replies. They didn't know that you were just looking to make me smile.

No but being late to the party I can honestly say I'm glad that what Strider did made you smile.

You have to admit that if someone hates the forums it took an awful lot of guts for him to do this....and he does sound like a very dedicated man. Also if he'd rather spend time with you than on forums isn't that a plus? Just throwin' that out there....

Ah the sillyness of young love....I knew I shoudn't have come to the forums immediately after seeing Thor....

 

[valkeminator]

Strider]Wow, my first foray into internet forums has been...... awesome.

Welcome to the internet , joking aside, I think at least you managed to make your groom smile, she's happy that you're thinking about her. Its best to just let her sort out her feelings on her own and not bother. Quite a lot of people here actually gave pretty good advice.

Don't worry too much, besides all those years must have said something right?

Well I hope you two will sort it out soon and be happy together

 

[Escapefromwhatever]

Strider]Someone please tell me how to destroy this before it gets any more insane. I literally have no idea how to remove a thread.

Change the thread title to "PLEASE LOCK." The mods will see it and will likely abide.

 

[Smooth Operator]

Marital advice on a gaming forum, seriously now...

Don't know anything about your real situation or understand it, but I heard something similar from one of my evil ex-es, turned out the "feels different" meant "I fell for someone else"

 

[AgentNein]

Strider]

Strider]She has scholarships that will not allow her to marry yet. Also asking for help, thought it was a nice gesture that would make her happy

There's also the chance that she'll see this as her boyfriend airing personal business on a site she enjoys frequenting in a less than completely personal fashion.

I know it would bother me greatly.

I am not engaged to you, champ. What part of "lived together for two years" do you not get. I know her, and I knew this would not bother her. EVERYONE READ THIS FOR THE LOVE OF ALL THAT IS HOLY.

Here's a helpful tip, "Champ". Edit your original entry with a "nevermind lulz", and voila.

 

[DuelLadyS]

To Hermia: Weird feelings can be anything from changing emotions to hormones to shock at such a big life change to eating something that was starting to spoil. Take your time, but don't do anything major unless you're damn sure it's what you want. Also- break or no break, make sure you call/text/email/something every few days. I mean, you are planning on marrying this guy, I'm sure he'd like to know what you're doing and that you aren't dead in a ditch or banging a soccer team or what-not. (And what frickin' scholarship do you have that actually has a marriage clause in it?! That just sounds plain weird.)

To Strider: You have learned an important lesson- never ask the internet for help when it really matters. You will be dissapointed. Take advantage of this break to sort out your own feelings- the fact that you concluded you needed others to help her not leave you speaks of trust issues (which may or may not be tied to this break.) Keep in touch with her, pay attention to what she's willing to talk about... you could learn things you never knew before, if she's up to share.

Best of luck, folks.

 

[Bat Vader]

Strider]Someone please tell me how to destroy this before it gets any more insane. I literally have no idea how to remove a thread.

You can send a private message to one of the moderators and ask them to lock the thread.

 

[Aethren]

You'd have better luck asking for help on [sub][sub]www.4chan.org/b/[/sub][/sub]

 

[Nieroshai]

1. I assume being engaged, she has your profile friended and therefore knows you started this topic. Good luck with that.

2. WHAT??? I don't understand... she was willing to promise to marry you, yet she's okay with leaving because of a gut feeling. This might not be the one for you.

 

[Trolldor]

Her choice boy.
Shit happens.
Her life, her rules, her decision.

 

[white_salad]

Strider]Someone please tell me how to destroy this before it gets any more insane. I literally have no idea how to remove a thread.

You don't. It will remain here forever!

*evil laugh*

Until the end of time!!!! All threads are indestructible! They can never be stopped, they are inevitable!

Or the mods will lock it, but that doesn't seem likely...

of course you could always just contact a mod and request that they lock it.

I did not know that would work. I have become enlightened.

 

[Ghengis John]

If you see this, LEAVE HIM. Come to me. I have a 46" television. You can come back to my place and make some macaroni and cheeses. Then we can watch Cartoon Network, and you can rub my feets.

 

[Nieroshai]

Strider]

Up late I see? And on forums now too...and I thought you hated forums.

Strider, calm down. Take a few deep breathes and go for a walk. She obviously needs time and has some strange feelings going on right now.

Show her how much you love her by accepting her feelings and give her time. You'll be okay!

I like this advice best.

Sorry your first attempt at a thread didn't go so well. Some people don't know how to read...and others are just dicks. (though not everyone who replied was bad, you got some really good ones too)

Also, it did put a smile on my face.

And here she is...... (and this is why I hate forums).

Actually, and don't block me out here (forgive my saying to give up a couple replies above this one) because I have a novel idea: maybe what's going on DOES genuinely require a cooldown period. Also, I guarantee that the more clingy you come off as, the more annoyed she's likely to get. I've been through something similar, and fighting hard to get her back didn't exactly work out. BUT taking things easy and trying to be part of her life without bringing up the "relationship thing," resulted in her realizing she missed me and asking me back. Results not guaranteed, but the point stands that the harder you try to grasp a bar of soap the more likely it is to slip out of your hand.

 

[NicolasMarinus]

If you love something, Set it free? If it comes back, it is yours forever, If it doesn?t, it never was yours to begin with.

- ancient Chinese proverb