Need help with Romance? Who you gonna call?

[dwightsteel]

I quit looking for a girlfriend a year ago. I decided that being single is more of an ideal life for me, that and because I know that no woman will date me for being overweight and ugly.

Dude, if that was the case, then I'd have never dated, never picked up a girl, and never gotten laid. I'm overweight myself. As I've said before, girls are less married to the idea of physical attraction then guys. If you expect them to think the way we do, you're going to be forever out of luck.

If being single is your cup of tea, then that's your prerogative, but if you're willing to put in some work at bettering your situation, then look at the exercise I've posted on the first page, practice it, live it, and ask the specific questions you have if you can't answer them yourself.

Don't give up if your only problem is that you don't give yourself enough credit.

Being single is less difficult than trying to find a girlfriend. Plus with me going to college in the fall having a girlfriend would just complicate matters as well. Sex was never a big deal to me. Having a loving relationship is more important. That is my opinion.

It is good what you are doing. Trying to help people. Some people just can't be helped.

I honestly don't believe that, but I won't pry. Know that I'm here to help if you need it.

Don't believe what? My opinion or how having a girlfriend would complicate my education?

Oh, the education thing is a totally viable excuse. I called off girls for a semester for that exact reason. But I think anyone can get the girl, and I don't believe anyone is beyond help.

 

[GamerPhate]

the best advice with woman is

Nod your head and say Yes Dear to what ever she says

(doesn't mean you have to be listening or anything.. )

.

Until she gets super pissed when she realizes you're not actually listening. So many guys try to give out this advice earnestly (and I'm not saying you are), and it's really a lot of crap. You think you'd notice when a girl is pretending to listen as opposed to actually listening? I know I would, and I wouldn't be too thrilled. If anything, females tend to be less receptive to that kind of treatment.

LOL obviously you caught my sarcasm. And that is why I said you don't HAVE to be listening.. but like you mentioned.. it is a good idea, lolz.

 

[dwightsteel]

the best advice with woman is

Nod your head and say Yes Dear to what ever she says

(doesn't mean you have to be listening or anything.. )

.

Until she gets super pissed when she realizes you're not actually listening. So many guys try to give out this advice earnestly (and I'm not saying you are), and it's really a lot of crap. You think you'd notice when a girl is pretending to listen as opposed to actually listening? I know I would, and I wouldn't be too thrilled. If anything, females tend to be less receptive to that kind of treatment.

LOL obviously you caught my sarcasm. And that is why I said you don't HAVE to be listening.. but like you mentioned.. it is a good idea, lolz.

I had a pretty strong inkling that you were kidding around. The funny thing is, I've straight up heard guys giving other guys this advice like it's gospel. I think it's hilarious that there are people out there who assume that this is the ultimate trick to women.

 

[Berethond]

Okay, my friends.
I have a question.
I live in <url=http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Fresno,_California>Fresno, CA.

Can anyone help me think up places to go with girls?
I have no idea.
None.
At all.
In the least bit.
(Also, I don't drive yet.)

 

[Berethond]

Strange, I always thought that guys like me would kill for a girl like you. Love is a strange thing, isn't it? Lack of gathering spots would explain it. I'd kill for a proper gamestore around here, just to name something.

It is strange isn't it? That is why I get so damn frustrated. Or I'm looney. I design clothes and watch (and squee over) chick flicks yet I play CoD4 until the early hours of the morning and my favourite movie is the Empire Strikes Back. Ok yeah I'm nuts.

I would ask you out.
Unfortunately, I live about as far from Australia as you can get.

 

[Miss_M]

I shouted 'Ghostbusters' when I saw this thread title...

OT: So, OP, what are your opinions on long distance relationships? I've been in one for over a year now, but what'll come of us in September when I go to Uni and he gets a job? I want it to work, so, I dunno, any tips?

Long distance relationships CAN work. That doesn't mean that everyone is cut out for them. The old adage "Absence makes the heart grow fonder" is true about 30% of the time in my experience.

If you're incredibly committed to trying to make it work, invest in communication devices that will make the transition easier, like webcams.

The thing that breaks most long distance relationships is paranoia. Because you can't account for what they are doing, your natural reaction is get paranoid and then jealous. People say that these concepts are the foundation for a bad relationship, but that's not true. They are natural reactions that you can either both learn to control and master, or they will be the driving force behind ending your relationship.

If you're committed to her now, then give it a shot and see where it takes you, but if it takes too much of a strain on your relationship, don't be afraid to re-examine your positions.

It's true, it can work. My boyfriend and I had been together for nearly three years when he went to uni at the opposite end of the country. We agreed to break up, both tried dating other people but were so miserable without each other that we decided the pain of being together and not seeing each other much would be far less than the pain of not being together at all. We've been happliy back together for about four months now.

It's worked out well because we both had someone else and decided we'd rather have each other. I don't feel jealous and insecure because if he wanted anybody down there he could and would be with them, yet instead he'd rather go to the trouble and travel expence of being with me.

So good luck.

 

[Major_Sam]

Strange, I always thought that guys like me would kill for a girl like you. Love is a strange thing, isn't it? Lack of gathering spots would explain it. I'd kill for a proper gamestore around here, just to name something.

It is strange isn't it? That is why I get so damn frustrated. Or I'm looney. I design clothes and watch (and squee over) chick flicks yet I play CoD4 until the early hours of the morning and my favourite movie is the Empire Strikes Back. Ok yeah I'm nuts.

I would ask you out.
Unfortunately, I live about as far from Australia as you can get.

You would? Awwww thats sweet of you. I'd say yes. Cept the distance is a *****.

 

[Berethond]

Strange, I always thought that guys like me would kill for a girl like you. Love is a strange thing, isn't it? Lack of gathering spots would explain it. I'd kill for a proper gamestore around here, just to name something.

It is strange isn't it? That is why I get so damn frustrated. Or I'm looney. I design clothes and watch (and squee over) chick flicks yet I play CoD4 until the early hours of the morning and my favourite movie is the Empire Strikes Back. Ok yeah I'm nuts.

I would ask you out.
Unfortunately, I live about as far from Australia as you can get.

You would? Awwww thats sweet of you. I'd say yes. Cept the distance is a *****.

That makes me feel all warm and fuzzy inside =]
The distance would be bad. And then the time zones...

 

[vladtehimpaler]

does a signed sheet of paper stating that i own their soul legally entitle me to a date?
P.S. if anyone thinks that this is erotic, and trench coats are sexy, marry me.