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[burningdragoon]

Some of them are hilariously awful. Some of them are probably a little harshly judged. A lot of the questions on those kinda of sites are terribly worded though, so it may be a little bit unfair to judge someone based on their answers.

Like the obligated to shave legs thing. I'm sure some people are answering their preference even if they don't think there is a literal obligation. That's why there's an explanation section... which is often much more damning.

*browses fedoras*

Okay, niceguysof was a better one.

 

[lechat]

seriously i don't get the point of half of these. most are just as simple as "i don't date outside my race" " i disagree with abortion" or "i'm a nice guy. suck my cock"

In most cases, the humor is that they say things like that while also writing on their profile that they're "nice guys" or tired of women who date jerks.

but that's just it. it's their right to do exactly that and there is nothing to say you can't be a jew killing nazi and still be a "nice guy" to at least someone in the world. i agree with what was said earlier that it just allows an extra filter level for potential dates.

must be a nice guy. check
must hate blacks and asians. check
must respect the fact that i don't shave my legs. fail
next candidate

i once had a girlfriend with (what i consider) a quite an over the top rape fetish. basically if a sexual encounter didn't end with a black eye or a broken bone she wasn't satisfied but if you asked her what she liked about me as a boyfriend she would tell you that it was good not to date a jerk and to finally be with someone who respected her. not to say she wasn't fucked in the head but it goes to show there are different definitions of nice.

 

[lechat]

seriously i don't get the point of half of these. most are just as simple as "i don't date outside my race" " i disagree with abortion" or "i'm a nice guy. suck my cock"

In most cases, the humor is that they say things like that while also writing on their profile that they're "nice guys" or tired of women who date jerks.

but that's just it. it's their right to do exactly that and there is nothing to say you can't be a jew killing nazi and still be a "nice guy" to at least someone in the world.

We don't live in their world, and their inability to recognize that the population of people who actually do live in their world is terribly small is what drives the humor.

but again we do live in their world and until there is an antiblack/wifebeating/fedorra only dating site there will continue to be ppl who have vastly different opinions but are still looking for love and genuinely consider themselves as a decent match for someone

if i remember right there are some christian and muslim dating sites out there and while it may be considered perfectly normal to seek some gay loving on the average dating site if you done so on one of those websites odds are you would be ridiculed on the more conservative ones. again all about perspective

 

[Woodsey]

Some of them are like, "Damn, what a creep," but most are like "LOOK AT THIS GUY, HE SAYS HE WOULDN'T WANT TO DATE A GIRL WHO'S SLEPT WITH OVER 100 MEN. WHAT AN ASSHOLE."

Uhh... the question I see is, "Is a girl who's slept with 100 guys a bad person?". Answer, "yes". So, yeah... dick response. Some seem rather cruel to pick on, yes, others are a bit of fun, plenty are highlighted because they genuinely seem like misogynistic and/or outmoded pricks, including questionable attitudes towards race relations.

The OP just comes across as the latest apologist for terrible attitudes towards women - and to an extent the whole "poor old white man" schtick - that this site, and the hobby in general, has a rather embarrassing problem with. It is not the fault of women-kind that some of these guys are clearly off their rocker when it comes to gender relations.

It's also getting rather tiring seeing variations on the logical loop hole of "you're an intolerant person if you don't tolerate intolerant opinions".

Oh, and fedoras really are fucking horrendous.

 

[SL33TBL1ND]

They're sometimes a little bit mean-spirited, but overall I've found them to be a good source of humour when I'm bored.

 

[f1r2a3n4k5]

Not cool. Dating makes you vulnerable. It's kind of cruel to peck at these vulnerabilities. These are people putting themselves out there in search of love and being openly mocked; for what? Their choice of hat? Is the world really an elementary school yard in maturity?

 

[Bellvedere]

Yeah it's kind of a dick move to republish those photos and mock people. In particular those people that don't even write anything douche-y.

It is always a risk, especially online, that information and pictures can end up where you don't intend them to.

Off topic: I think the only thing offensive about the question "Do Women have an obligation to shave their legs?" is the word obligation. Makes you wonder why they even include a question like that when they could say something like "Do you prefer women who shave their legs?" which is far less inflammatory.

 

[bananafishtoday]

I... don't see what the big deal is. Most of these people are clearly assholes.

Edit:

Off topic: I think the only thing offensive about the question "Do Women have an obligation to shave their legs?" is the word obligation. Makes you wonder why they even include a question like that when they could say something like "Do you prefer women who shave their legs?" which is far less inflammatory.

I think many of the questions are inflammatory by design to serve as sort of a litmus test. I've never used Okc, but it's a feature I'd appreciate having if I ever did use it. A big part of online dating seems to be wading through tons of profiles of people you wouldn't date to find the few that you would. A "yes" answer to something like that question, or questions like "Would the world be better if people with low IQs weren't allowed to reproduce?" or "Are there circumstances in which a person is obligated to have sex with you?" are meant to instantly disqualify people so you can move on to the next profile.

Especially that last one, hooooly shit. "Hi, I'm a nice guy who loves dogs and long walks on the beach and candlelit dinners and I live life to the fullest with no regrets and oh by the way I will potentially rape you."

Edit2:

Not cool. Dating makes you vulnerable. It's kind of cruel to peck at these vulnerabilities. These are people putting themselves out there in search of love and being openly mocked; for what? Their choice of hat? Is the world really an elementary school yard in maturity?

You should click the link. They're not being shamed for wearing fedoras; they're being shamed for saying/believing stupid things, with the fedoras being incidental. (That is, there are so many people who say things like this on Okc that a silly constraint like "also they wear a fedora" is a fun theme that pares the number of submissions down to a reasonable amount.)

Like the "unapologetic masculine man" who is perfectly willing to rape a drunk woman, the frankly scary-looking guy who uses evolution to justify female subservience to male authority, or the absurdly narcissistic, Borg-like fellow who claims that most of "the masses" are "savage, under-developed and under-educated barbarians."

 

[MarlonBlazed]

Can someone play this for me? I would like a sad song for the nice guys and a jaunty pirate tune for the fedoras.

 

[JemothSkarii]

*raises his hand*

Uhh, just a little side note: That's a Trilby, this is a Fedora:

Spoiler: Fedora

OT: I've never really seen these before, it it seems like pretentious dating asshole website/s of the century.

 

[00slash00]

ive seen those. the guys that make it on there deserve to be made fun of. frankly i dont see why this would make you so upset unless youre afraid youre going end up on there. the only guys ive seen on there are creepers and assholes. dont be a creeper or an asshole.

maybe you dont realize how many fucked up messages women get on there, on a daily basis

 

[Blow_Pop]

The only tumblrs I follow of (exclusively)okcupid is one and it's basically the men(and very rarely women, I don't know if they just don't get submitted or what but I do know some women are just as bad if not worse than some of these men)who sit there and send sexually explicit messages or harassment messages to women. And 99% of the time the user name is actually blocked out(since they're screen caps of the messages). And as a woman who has gotten both of these(and not just on "dating" sites but on social media sites and forum sites as well) it is nice to see these douchebags showcased. The other one I follow is the annuls of online dating or something like that...too tired to look it up to link and it's a showcase of ALL dating sites and not only that but the messages get rated on coherency, grammar, how sexually explicit they are, etc....I just wish people like that realised how rude, offensive, disrespectful, and hurtful of others they are.

So these Tumblrs not only highlight some of the aforementioned "nice guys" and show how their perception of themselves might be a little skewed, they also demonstrate that women don't just date assholes by showcasing the assholes who can't seem to get dates [http://25.media.tumblr.com/e386ca872c7de464606864f8f9872fcd/tumblr_mgjt2dtSP31s1av4bo1_1280.png].

I would like to point out with this photo that these types of guys, most of us can't stand. ESPECIALLY if you're going to judge solely on weight. As someone who looked anorexic when they were 16 but was still considered "medically overweight" that's downright insulting. Especially when weight should be a case by case basis on what is overweight. I can promise that if I weighed what I "should" weigh I'd look like I was dying from some sort of sickness and it wouldn't look right(though cultural perception would say that I look hotter that way but I'd also lose all self-respect I have for myself as well).